Me and my wife married in july and it has been a BIG adjustment for both of us. About 2 weeks ago we had a argument and ever since then the conversation has been minimal. She is currently pregnant (99.9% sure its mine) and I get along great with her parents. She told me last week that we were going to live like roomates for a couple of weeks we both go and do no questions( I didnt like that). I went home this past weekend 4 hours away we talked so so and when away I would text and call her and she was short the entire time. Well I get home around 3 yesterday she comes home at 4 said she had been out shopping and had to go back. Her daughter was at her parents. Well I went to her parents to help her dad and left around 6 everyone asking where she was. I ask her and she responds back no questions remember. Well she got home put her daughter to bed and I asked her about her and ex...she laughed said she has not talked to him in a week and she said mother thought the same thing her+
2007-12-17 05:55:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, i have no tolerance for these childish games. fights are going to happen the rest of your lives. if you can't talk and work things out, you have no hope. all this stuff is childish and destroys trust and openess. she has purposely made you insecure and has overtested your trust. i hate to see marriages end, but there is no way i would tolerate this.
2007-12-17 06:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by ohiojeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar when my husband and I were first married except it was him who wanted no questions...he wasn't cheating but just needed time to adjust to having to be responsible for someone elses emotions. Look marriage is about communication and the no questions doesn't fly in a marriage! I told my husband that and he looked at me and started crying. I told him that if he truly wanted no questions then he didn't need to be with me because I ask a lot of questions especially of the people I love. We have been married 4 1/2 years now and have wonderful relationship. Granted we do have arguments and we don't always agree but the number one rule we have in our house is we don't go to bed angry. If it means staying up all night to get the arugment resolved we do it for the sake of eachothers feelings. You respect the people you love and you don't treat the people you love like she is treating you and he treated me. You need to make it clear to her that that isn't how a marriage works and being married is all about communication and making things work even when they are difficult. I am wishing you the very best of luck!
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2007-12-17 14:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her down and talk to her tell her how much you love her and the new baby and how you always want to be with her give her flowers a gift buy something nice for her make dinner be her man the one she feel in love I do not think she is having an affair she just wants attention and some love a tlc from you so give it to her she is pregnant and she has hormones ragging so listen to her cry out for help in her own way get her a day at the spa so that she can relax.
2007-12-17 14:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds to me like something in the kool-aid and it's not just sugar. Your wife is probably seeing someone else on the side and does not want you to know about it. Don't be a fool about the situation you need to ask questions and seek the truth. There is no way in hell I am going to tell my husband were going to live like roomates for a few weeks and he is going to be satified with that. Stand up like a man and investigate for yourself because it sounds to me like she has someone on the side for sure. Good Luck
2007-12-17 14:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The book "the 5 love languages" is a relationship miracle. Read it! Put the current problems on the back burner for a little while, and give it your all and see how things work out. Hang in there!!
2007-12-17 14:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds like she needs to grow the fluck up. If she said 'no questions' then quite frankly my man...she's probably up to no good. After all...what other reason could you possibly have to make such an asinine demand/groundrule.
Sounds to me as though if you divorce her it won't be a total loss on your part and will no doubt save you oodles of aggravation in the future.
2007-12-17 14:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems she is being a little one-sided. From my point of view, her actions are unhealthy for any marriage. You are not some puppet for her to manipulate. Sounds as if she has issues and other priorities.
2007-12-17 14:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys both made a mistake getting married. You both sound like two high school kids.
2007-12-17 14:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of what you write makes no sense.
You need to assemble only the relevant details, and write, clearly and concisely what's going on.
Pregnancy does funny things -- hormones, chainges to the brain, physical problems. That could be what's going on.
2007-12-17 15:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what was the argument over?
sounds like she's mad & fed up with something...
in fact, you two sound like my husband & i, in a way...
sometimes i just want to get away from him because he asks SO MANY questions, and they irritate me. and he sorta smothers me...
maybe she just needs some space... but try to talk things out or get counselling.
2007-12-17 14:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋