My parents invited their friends and their son (37) for Christmas Eve Dinner and now I do not want to go. It will just be the six of us, my husband is not going. Their friends are boring and can be mean and their son gives me the creeps. Also they are serving the same dinner that I am serving the next day for my husband’s family. They did not want to come to our house for that dinner because they do care for his family. Am I being selfish? Should I go?
2007-12-17 04:25:22 · 16 answers · asked by sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your parents do not care for your husband's family, and therefore they are not going to your house for Christmas dinner.
Follow their example.
You don't care for your parent's friends or their son, and therefore you aren't going to their house. Besides, you could use the extra time to get things ready for the next day.
Your place is with your husband, not your parents. By the way, why isn't he going to your parents'?
2007-12-17 04:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My personal feelings are that you should NEVER put yourself in a situation with another male that makes you uncomfortable when your husband won't be there PERIOD. I would suggest that you tell your parents that this person gives you the creeps and that since your husband can't attend you are going to have to back out. OR if you feel that would be giving them too much information that you don't feel they need... simply tell them you've got to much preparation for the next days dinner that YOU are preparing and that you won't be able to attend their dinner b/c of that. Follow that up with another invitation for them to come to YOUR dinner. Either way... if your husband isn't going and you feel uncomfortable around this guy... don't go. It's also not fair that you should stretch yourself thin just because your parents don't like his... that's not being fair to you. And that is them being selfish.
God luck with you dilemma... God Bless! and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-17 13:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by hotmamaof3_1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what's the worst that can happen? They won't show up at your house for Christmas....no, wait..that's already the case..someone they don't care for will be at your house, so they felt free to decline your invitation...seems reasonable.....so...someone you don't care for will be at their home for dinner....wait-what was the question again? Oh, that's right, your parents aren't coming to your house so they don't have to put up with people they don't want to be around, but you feel obligated to do exactly what they weren't willing to do for you? No, you aren't being selfish, why are you obligated to extend them any additional courtesy then they extended to you? And the people at your house are in-laws so its their family members too, you know. Decline, feel good about finally cutting that apron string, and enjoy the holidays with your in-laws. If you mom starts whining about it, just explain that you didn't want to be there without your husband, and that maybe the four of you can get together for New Years? You should only go because you want to do. If you are going because you feel compelled to-you really won't be sharing the best of yourself with your family, and they deserve your best, even if they don't always give you theirs.
2007-12-17 12:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why isn't your husband coming to their dinner? Christmas is a time for family, not all this extraneous nonsense. Go and bring yoru husband. Serve something else the next night for his family, and tell your parents they must come.
2007-12-17 12:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost me at your husband is not going. Why? You are going to his family, but he is not going to yours?
I would only go if my wife went with me in the first place. Then it would not matter so much what the rest of the company was like. I would have her there by my side.
As far as your parents and their friends, I would tell your parents that you do not feel comfortable with their friends and would prefer to spend Christmas Eve with your husband. Assuming that he does not already have other plans?
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-17 12:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is between you and the 37 yr old guy i.e. your parent friend's son? Anything b/w you that you want us to know? I guess you did not want to go just because of him, all other excuses are flimsy i think? good luck
2007-12-17 13:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give your apologies for not being able to make it and tell them you can't attend, but would rather do something New Year's Eve as a compromise. If you can't attend a family function together as a couple then no one should go. Make that sort of a rule in your marriage.
2007-12-17 12:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by kam727 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not the dinner, the boring people and their disposition, it is the friend's son. Look inside yourself and be honest, Sometimes we have to own up to the demons within us.
2007-12-17 12:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being selfish, it seems to me your parents set the ground rules when they decided not to come to your home. Follow their lead and stay home with hubby and have a nice time the next day with his family.
2007-12-17 13:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by grneyes8621 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's what, a couple of hours? Suck it up and go. It's Christmas for goodness sake. Why isn't your husband going?
2007-12-17 12:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋