I just went on my fiances computer and under his most viewed sites I saw this, of course i freaked out and called of the engagement but he doesn't consider this cheating? Am I the only person who views this as cheating and if i am was is appropriate for me to call of our engagement?
2007-12-17 06:28:54 · 21 answers · asked by gmd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok so im fine with him looking at porn but these were ads with no pictures.. just girls asking for sex and giving out their numbers.
2007-12-17 06:38:20 · update #1
nope, not cheating, he's just looking to upgrade
2007-12-17 06:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by willliam d 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
For you to call off the engagement because of what you saw on his computer, then you guys apparently have deeper trust issues than just that and so you made the right decision. Never be with someone you don't trust.
By the way, everyone looks at porn material from time to time, so if this happened with a trustworthy guy, I would have just asked him about it. It's no big deal.
2007-12-17 06:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think it is cheating. You never know what someone had in mind when they look at things on the internet.
Not to long ago they were talking about craigslist and prostitution. I believe it said "the girls would have sex for 300 banana's". I thought it was funny, so I went and looked.
You may have over reacted a little. You need to sit down with your bf and ask him what he was doing.
2007-12-17 06:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart move he should be in love with you>Want you and only you>But looking on smut sites for whatever>Cheaters don't consider cheating cheating even when caught>There isn't much you know have in common> As the trust is gone> Hope it opens your eyes for future experiences>Have a M C and your New Year will be exceeding>
2007-12-17 06:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger question is trust. you obviously do not trust hime if you are sifting through his computer to see what he has been doing on it. I would say that there are issues at hand that need to be addressed before going any further...why the lack of trust, has the guy been a cheater in the past? Have you cheated in the past? I do not see any reason to monitor what he is doing....It shows a lack of trust. If I were the guy and you had gone through my computer to see what I was doing..I would call of the deal....on account of no trust.
2007-12-17 06:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by hemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm... thats not right at all.
if u dont approve of it, its not right, i know i wouldnt take that, thats wrong. r u looking at naked men and looking at their ads ? no right.... then he shouldnt be either, things like this can lead to cheating cuz he prolly occupies a lot of his time on this stuff and it will lead him to do something, how can something possibly be good for ur relationship? think about it. its emotional cheating, he could be doing something productivve with you and making you happy and making ur relationship better ... not lookin at sluts online.
i also want to add that i dated a guy that was this way, i found out all these sites on his computer and he's like oh its no biggie i dont know it was just there it was my roommate bla bla bla.... it made me feel sick ! and u know what... he said he'd stop and he didnt! and once i saw that he arranged to meet some girl on myspace cuz she asked him to meet her at the bar. . . once a guy gets into that stuff - reason being he's obviously into that stuff - there are plenty of men out there who dont do such thing or go on those websites, he has u, he should respect u enough not to look at those websites... he doesnt respect u. and u will find out more things like this if u get married men like that are more likely to cheat men who watch porn are more likely to cheat cuz they see women as subjects and they are not attached to them in emotional ways. dont believe his sorries cuz he's not, he will do it again.
2007-12-17 06:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He answered to a personal ad then he cheated, he looked into it getting extra fun besides you, he's not honest w/you. Leave him. Its an erotic ad these are most likely real people that want it, like sideline thing. Leave him.
2007-12-17 06:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by jtease 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating? No. Unfaithful? Yes.
2016-05-24 09:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Craigs List is a bulletin board used strictly by hookers. Thats all you're going to find there under the F for M section.
2007-12-17 06:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth if he actully met someone without letting you know or had sex with another person that's cheating, but Craigslist that entertainer to me. This just my opinion I nevered posted an add under personal, but I go under it when I'm bored sometimes I go under the gay men as well, becuz it's amazing. They post their pics on it and I mean naughty pics, I look under all of them to see what they wrote and look at the pics, so maybe he's like me bored and crazy looking at some stupid things.
If you love him you trust him and if u don't trust him then don't marry him!
2007-12-17 06:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by ReRe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No that's no more cheating than checking out another person. It's probably a step in the wrong direction but a step in the wrong direction should not be enough to wreck a decent relationship...
2007-12-17 06:35:31 · answer #11 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋