How do you deal with being lonely especially during the holidays.?

Answer 1

I assume you are going through a divorce. I never have been through this experience, but I lost my fiance in a car crash and did not date for years. The best thing you can do it spend the holidays with friends or family, which is what I did in the past. Friends may pop up in unlikely places as well.

If you're not ready to date, take advantage of the time to pursue interests of your own - reading, cooking new dishes, exercising, learning a new sport, etc. It will make you are stronger person in the long run and help defeat your loneliness.

I was in medical school after my fiance died, but made friends with a relatively nerdy but kind and intelligent asian man who was a fellow student. He knew nothing of my past, but kept wanting to eat lunch with me at the hospital cafeteria (romantic, i know) every day. At first I definitely didn't see any relationship possibilities, just a new friend, but he is now my husband.

Answer 2

Being lonley during the holidays is very trying. When I first got divorced, I had that problem. Focusing on others, rather than yourself, might help. Find some folks that need help, food, gifts. Volunteer. Get together with some friends and just immerse yourself in crowds somewhere, without thinking about the past or future, just focusing on the present moment. I had one lovely friend that helped me through it, by taking me out on New Year's Eve -- and spending the entire night entertaining me with his 'invisible aardvark'. By the time he was done, I was laughing like a kid again. We never 'dated' or anything, were just friends. But he know I needed cheering up and he made that his gift to me for the holidays. Hope you find someone that can do that for you.

Answer 3

Go out with friends. Just because you don't have that special someone in your life doesn't mean that you don't have someone's in your life that can help to give the holiday meaning for you.

Get a Christmas get together of your favorite friends and you may find that the holidays are much, much more fun.

Another alternative thing to do during the holidays is to volunteer to help those less fortunant than yourself. As bad as you might have it, you can always find someone who has it worse than you. Going to a soup kitchen to help serve or to your local radio station and see if you can help wrap presents for any people they may be doing a 'sub for santa' or even taking a name off an angel tree can really help to push feelings of loliness away.

Answer 4

The computer isn't the answer to the problem.

Go do something for someone else.
Volunteer at a shelter or soup kitchen.
Visit shut ins at the local hospital, that's a tough place to be during the holidays.
Salvation Army.
A kids home for children of abusive situations.

If you focus your energy on others during the holidays you'll be filled with a joy that surpasses your feelings.

Answer 5

Contact friends, start a hobby, make a list of all the positive things you are going to accomplish in the coming year. The most important and generous thing you can do is reach out to someone. There is someone out there who is feeling worse than you right now. Giving to others always helps.

Answer 6

I have trouble with lonliness, too. Especially during the holidays is hard, having a pet would help some but for me, I need people in my life. Are you a member of a church where you can call one of them to talk? That might help, when you get more answers to your question, let me know :)

Answer 7

hey supp its me brittany here to answer your question so listen up: hey listen if your really lonely try to find someone your close to or get a guy to spend the holidays with you and if you cant find someone close to you to spend the holidays with you then buy a pet or spend it with your family or if you cant do that try to just relax during the holidays and enjoy your days offand dont worry everything will work out fine

Answer 8

Been there, honey, and it isn't fun; however, you can really make the most of it by giving to others. Volunteer to help serve meals with one of the number of organizations or shelters that gives out meals or presents to children. Deliver home bound meals to the elderly. anything along that line will really give more back to YOU than it will to others. I use to volunteer to work the holidays for someone with young kids and feed people at the unemployment center. Godloveya.

Answer 9

well i am single not long out of the worst relationship in my life but i will be opening presents with my 8 month old on christmas day. just the two of us. having an 8 month old isnt quite the same as having an adult around but i would say get some good movies, hot chocolate for day, sparkling wine for evening and be thankful you are here to experience another christmas. sorry best i could do.

Answer 10

Sometimes you can be WITH other people, and still be lonely! So I think it is a state of mind. Do things that were favorite traditions, skip ones that bugged you or you don't want to do this year. YOU CHOOSE what to do and what not to do !! :) Surround yourself with friends who make you laugh when you want company. Make it all about your choices and don't let the commercialized version of Christmas that is shoved down our throats by retailers get you down!