Marriage & Divorce - 13 December 2007

2007-12-13 05:28:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i asked similar question about this. I found wierd charges for shipping items, sprint calling cards, cell phone prepaid, near my husbands desk, his wallet, and his credit cards. He swears he is not cheating on me or talking to no one else.
He will not let me see the cell phone bill ( says its his problem because its in his name) he locks his computer down so i can not look at nothing any more. He has a program on there i asked him about it a couple months ago. He says he just downloaded it to see what it was. well i asked him again last night he says he does not know or never heard about it before.
Now when i try talking to him about anything and he thinks its a stupid question he get really mad at me.
he hardly says love you to me any more and when he does it does not sound like he means it
and lately our sex life has dropped badly all he wants is himself done with a ******** nothing more
should i think he is cheating or get more proof before i do anything

2007-12-13 05:15:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

ex and I broke up a couple months ago and didn't see each other until recently, when he called me wanting to see me again. He was very excited to see me and wants to start hanging out again. We had been pretty serious before (hes 25 I'm 26) and broke up over something stupid, and we both realize that now. He wants to start "hanging out," but also says he doesn't want to get serious or get married (he has issues; his parents just got divorced after over 25 years of marriage after his mom cheated) This is a huge change from him even a couple months ago when we were together.

I know we both have romantic feelings for each other still, but I'm wondering, should I continue to "hang out" with him with the hopes he will want to get serious, as we were before, or find someone else who does? I would like to be in a serious relationship and I love him, but I don't want to hang out as just friends or friends with benefits. I don't know if I should move on or wait?

2007-12-13 04:48:19 · 16 answers · asked by Leah 3

I recently found out some serious stuff about my husband, not very pretty I might add, that he has been doing behind my back (cheating). I am planning on confronting him and ultimately divorcing him but I don't want to ruin Christmas for my family. I know HE's the one who would technically be "ruining" Christmas but I feel it is selfish of me to not hold it in until after Christmas, for my kid's sake, as well as for the sake of feeling somewhat "normal" for the holidays. On the other hand, I feel like I am going to explode or have a nervous breakdown. I know if I bring it up now, it will completely ruin Christmas for everyone involved. My husband is a narcissist and will NEVER admit he's in the wrong and it will come back on me. Any advice on how to "keep it together" for the next 2 weeks? What would you do? Please help me!! Thanks.

2007-12-13 04:47:34 · 13 answers · asked by Betty 1

2007-12-13 04:43:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

end up feeling remorse at some point in the future and realize the lives they devestated (spouse, family, friends)... or do most live in la la land for the rest of their life?

Just curious... I ask because wife (23) is currently living with the guy (21) she cheated on me with.. been 2 months... doesn't seem one bit sorry she screwed up my life, and her families lives. Curious if one day a person that can just walk away ever feel regret

2007-12-13 04:40:26 · 32 answers · asked by BlaBla 2

We have been seperated for almost 2yrs and I have begun having difficulty with my car not starting. (engineering defect) I need a dependable car since I don't have a dependable husband.. sorry. He says he can legally prevent me from selling it even if he's never made a car payment and it's not in his name. Is this true?

2007-12-13 04:35:08 · 36 answers · asked by Marissa 4

Going to court today and going to try to bring this issue up what to know if im making a big stink about this. He also spanks him

2007-12-13 04:28:53 · 40 answers · asked by dirk0069 1

I just got married two months ago and this is our first Christmas together.

He overseas oil rigs for chevron and is gone a week at a time and will be gone for Christmas.

I hadn't seen him since December 4th and he just got back last night
He wants to go on a hunting trip this weekend for a few days.
That means I will only see him for 3 days almost this entire month until after Christmas and I work till 5 oclock on those days.
I know hunting is important to him however this weekend is the only weekend I have Christmas parties for us to go to and I dont want to go alone. These parties have been planned a month Not to mention its our first christmas and im already upset that he will be gone.

This is his only weekend togo otherwise he will have to wait till next year to hunt so I understand him wanting to go. I told him he COULD go but that I was just "disappointed"...

I can't help but be little offended. Should I just drop it or tell him I changed my mind? Thanks

2007-12-13 04:17:03 · 50 answers · asked by MadKat 4

Sadly, divorce is so common that marriage has lost its true meaning where a couple pledge to love till death do they part.

2007-12-13 04:13:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex wife now and I were togather for 4 years, married 3 years have a 2 year old daughter and have been married and divorced twice in the period. Last divorce was Sept 20. We love each other still to this day, but she has pushed her self away from me and now she is dating a young man from her church about 2 months now. She actually went o phildephia with t meet some of his family. I think thats kinda quick to do that but supposably he asked her and she went. This is destroying me inside. She tells me its not like when me and her were togather, that its more of a friendship the relationshipwith him. I feel like I am really dieing inside and I would do anything to get her back and really work on our family. I mean we speak almost everyday at leat once and we have been intamite a few days ago, but she told me not to use that against her of she wants to go out with this other guy. I mean what should I do? I feel like im being taken advantage of. Do I have falso hopes? Do you honestly think its possible for us to get back togather again?

2007-12-13 04:10:21 · 15 answers · asked by kj 1

i recently dicoverd that he has another wife and a child.. do they still arrest people for bigamy on what is the jail time for that????

2007-12-13 04:04:47 · 16 answers · asked by gigi.dire 1

Ok, so most of you knowhow hectic Christmas time can be. From Christmas at your own house, to Christmas at your parents to Christmas at HIS parents. Well, I'mone of those people that doesn't like a lot of chaos. Honestly, I'd just perfer to stay at home. But since that isn't an option what can I do to make Christmas dinner (and all the normal holiday traditions( go by faster. His parents say I don't talk enough (when honestly they aren't quiet enough for two seconds for anyone to talk( While I like his family...they can be overbearring. I really would like some ideas on how to get through this another year.

Sadly every year at Thanksgiving I spend/pass the time by planning outrageous excuses to get outta Christmas. haha.

P.S. Drinking isn't an option this time, oh boy.

2007-12-13 03:58:34 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ Baby on board ♥ 3

2007-12-13 03:40:31 · 20 answers · asked by Mythological Beast 4

great looks still 1st?

2007-12-13 03:23:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

1.Do you like your guy ...
A) Slim
B) Muscular
C) Average
D) Thick


2. Do you prefer a guy's hair to be...
A.) Long
B.) Short
C.) Medium
D) Don't Care

3. Favorite color for male
A.) Blond
B.) Black
C.) Brown
D.) Red


4. Would you rather have a guy with__________penis?
A) 5-6"
B) 6-7"
C)7-8"
D)8-9"
E)9+

5) Favorite Eye color on male
A.) Blue
B) Green
C) Brown
D) Hazel

6) Would you rather have a guy have...
A) Money
B) Brains
C) Looks
D) Sense of Humor

7) What is your favorite style on a guy...
A.) Prep
B) Emo/Skater
C) Gangster
D) Goth


If you add "other" --specify!

2007-12-13 02:56:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm having serious doubts about my marriage, and have been having for 6m+. Whether I leave or stay I'll always wonder if I should have done the opposite.

Would you rather regret leaving a marriage/relationship or regret staying?

(Assume no kids yet)

2007-12-13 02:37:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-13 02:28:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

around or screwing around with someone in another room, because he couldn't find me. we've booth had a history of infidelity, in the past. he is a very jealous guy, to start with. near the end of the night, after most had left, i foud him in another room having sex. i didn't walk in, but went outside with the girl's husband. we talked until i could calm down. that was in august. like i said, this isn't the first time either of us have cheated on the other. now....after therapy and mental hospitalization for myself, we are planning on moving outof state to live closer to family, hoping the support will aid us in healing.

but what if i can't ever have sex with him gain because of the pain of all this? has anyone else been through this type thing? can the marriage lst ? also, we have 3 kids and want them to be happy, that's the other reason we are working on this.

2007-12-13 02:22:37 · 12 answers · asked by 723 1

so there is this clergyman and is bothering me and my wife, she is a christian but not a very religious one and im not religious at all. now the clergyman is constantly coming to our house and telling us we need to convert and that we are going to hell and all that nonsense, i tried calling the police but they have no idea what to do since its a clergyman, what can i possibly do?

2007-12-13 02:00:36 · 5 answers · asked by Hi T 1

My wife of five years was diagnosed with bi-polar in her teen years and recently began treatment for her disorder.
I recently found out that she has been cheating on me when one of her friends called me and told me.
At first she tried keeping her lie but finnaly admited to this one act. I just don't believe her that it was just this one event. She has cheated in the past and never has confessed any thing without first being caught. We have been separated for about two weeks now and she is beaging for me to take her back.
She hadn't been taking meds untell I left and basicly says she would have not cheated if she had been medicated and that if I take har back things will be differant and she'll always be true.
I think that this is mostly a cop out.
Answers please help!

2007-12-13 01:59:23 · 22 answers · asked by Dirk D 1

I know its the "man's duty" to "pursue" the female, but at any point before you got married (or even serious in the relationship), did you chase your husband/boyfriend?

And why is it so "bad" for a woman to chase a man? Why does the woman have to be considered "desperate" or "crazy" if she chases the man? Why cant it just be that she has feelings for and wants him?

2007-12-13 01:49:49 · 7 answers · asked by LaLa 1

My hubsand is txt messaging another woman. He has no reaction and deny's anything is going on with this woman.
He was caught on November26,. He looked me in the face and said he did'nt know that number. However I found 18 pages of text messages from this woman. This woman is a co-worker and workes with my hubsand and is married. We have been married 20 years.
However he went to a christmas party last night, and has not been to a company christmas party in over 20 years of work.
He took off work to go to this party. He never takes off work.
I slept on the couch, I don't want to give up my family of 20 years. I try to talk to him, he has no reaction and I get mad.
Please help with some advice....

2007-12-13 01:34:03 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

need to know basis

2007-12-13 01:31:12 · 9 answers · asked by valerie s 1

I am trying to find a website that is leagal to get a divorce online.They have them from 24.95 and up and Im not sure which ones are leagal and which ones are not.I dont want to get takin for my money on here so if someone could help that will be so great.Thanks for all of your help

2007-12-13 01:30:52 · 10 answers · asked by sweet_angel_4_6 1

My mother really for some reason has never liked my husband who does everything he can for his family. He supports this family totally, he's the only one that can work right now.. and well, she insulted his family whom I love very much by saying that his little sister 17, whom is pregnant should give her baby up because the baby would be better off with a better family. I exploded on her and now we are fighting. I would love nothing more to get along with my mother. But my husband comes first. But I have so much guilt because she lives alone and all she wants me to do is bring over my children so she can see them. Not to mention its the holidays And my children love her. Im afraid though because I dont want her influencing them to think bad of thier father if im not around, because she has talked bad about him before while we werent their to the rest of the family. well really what I need help with is, how do I get my mother to actually treat my husband with the respect he so deserves?

2007-12-13 01:28:03 · 25 answers · asked by mommy B 2

I'm 12 years old, and my father is cheating on my mother. It's not just some paranoid guess - I know it. Well, my dad hates me and thinks I'm a mistake, and doesn't love/just pushes my mom aside because she doesn't want to have intercourse with him. He embezzled all the money in my bank account and lied about it. If it were for a good cause, I wouldn't be so angry, but all the cash was from academic achievements and have sentimental value, and he's sending all of it to his sluts as Christmas gifts, and gets angry when I ask my money back. I hate my father and don't want to forgive him. I really need to be strong right now, but I don't find it easy. I would include a link to his myspace account where he's trying to seduce 133 different women, but if he finds out he'll belt me. So, any help, please? I can't sleep at night because of him.

2007-12-13 01:23:24 · 6 answers · asked by Sterling 2

My wife and I have been married just over a year. Before we were married, we found out she was pregnant. I took responsibility, we got married and have been pretty good together since, until I found e-mails of her back and forth which married persons should not be exchanging with a guy she knew before we were married. She even let me become really good friends with this guy and his wife.Then I found one in which she asked him if he thought our daughter looked like him. I confronted her and she lied about all of it until I showed her the e-mails. The first time she said she was taken advantage of, but then they had sex once (she said she quickly told him no) after we were married. Don't you think she had to have some kind of idea while she was pregnant that the baby may not have been mine? She has not told me going on 3 years now. If I had not found it, then she may have never told me. Anyway, I had a paternity test done and I am not the father. Is there any reason I should let her back

2007-12-13 01:22:38 · 21 answers · asked by Joe 1

I met a man a little over a year ago. We hit it off and he moved into my house about 4 months ago. Shortly after I started to find little signs that he was smoking pot. I confronted him and he said he didn't do it very often not to worry about it. I'm total against it and will not allow it in my house or around my daughter. He brushed it off. I insisted that I won't tolerate it. For a wile I didn't see anymore signs but kept my eyes open. Last week I found little pot on the desk in my bedroom. We work different shifts so we don't see each other during the week. I confronted him again and told him I wanted him to leave. I can't except the sneaking around behind my back when I flat out told him I wanted nothing to do with it and he must have had it in my house again. My problem is that he said this is his residence and I have to go to court and get a 30 day eviction notice like he was a tenant. I live in FL. and don't know the laws. Do I have to do all that? Please help

2007-12-13 01:21:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or you would eventually get turned off? Do you secretly wish you were with someone sexy and slim? Only honest answers pls! Thanks. 10 points to the best answer.

2007-12-13 01:17:00 · 39 answers · asked by M 1