is he cheating online/phone?

Question

i asked similar question about this. I found wierd charges for shipping items, sprint calling cards, cell phone prepaid, near my husbands desk, his wallet, and his credit cards. He swears he is not cheating on me or talking to no one else.
He will not let me see the cell phone bill ( says its his problem because its in his name) he locks his computer down so i can not look at nothing any more. He has a program on there i asked him about it a couple months ago. He says he just downloaded it to see what it was. well i asked him again last night he says he does not know or never heard about it before.
Now when i try talking to him about anything and he thinks its a stupid question he get really mad at me.
he hardly says love you to me any more and when he does it does not sound like he means it
and lately our sex life has dropped badly all he wants is himself done with a ******** nothing more
should i think he is cheating or get more proof before i do anything

the shipping i believe was done to another country. He has been getting me alot of vibe toys if you know what i mean.
so if he is doing anything he is doing it via phone and online
i did put a voice recorder on my computer to record voice with microphone from my headset so i am going to listen to it and see if he is talking to someone else when i am not home

Answer 1

If it looks like a duck and walks like a duck.....

Answer 2

You need to get proof before you accuse your husband of infidelity. There may be a number of reasons why he is being so defensive. He may have a lot of pressure from his work, this can affect sex life as well. I would suggest that you sit down with your husband and discuss with him if there are problems he is having that you are unaware of, put it across to him in a gentle way that you are his wife and that you are worried about him and do keep an open mind or make any wild accusations.......He needs to know that he can trust you that you are not going to question him about everything constantly if you feel this doesn't work then your next step would be to seek some form of advice from a marriage counsellor..........All the best and hope your marriage stays intact

Answer 3

Not sure if I would condone this or not, and the risk of getting caught could make a bad situation worse since it will really prove lack of trust, but you could look into keyloggers for the PC. See Wikipedia link below. You can also get hardware keylogger devices which plug in between the keyboard and computer base unit then can replay everything typed in. These are easier to use but also much easier to spot. You would need some time alone with the computer to install these which I'm not sure you have, but they will give you more information than trying to read web browser history etc. since this can be wiped after each session. If you do get chance, hit Ctrl-H to see the web browser history - if it's empty, that would be almost as suspicious as if it had a load of incriminating entries.

[Edit] This might be worth a try (free tool): http://www.actualkeylogger.com/

Answer 4

You should never make an asssumption without solid proof.
I would however ask him to show you everything on his computer your married he is not allowed to have secrets form you. I think if he has got nothing to hide then he should be oaky with this. It does however look like he is being defensive and well secretive and covering something up so either he is doing something wrong or he is hiding money from you, or maybe he has figured out he is gay. Really though tell him you are setting up an appointment with a counsellor and you and him can discuss with a professional involved and he cannot say no.

Tell him it is counselling or divorce take his pick.

Answer 5

Ewww. what a freakin a**hole I hate men that act that way! I think you already know the answer to your question. Not to mention even by some odd chance that he's not cheating he's keeping things from you and being secrative and thats so not healthy for a relationship it just breeds mistrust and if you allow it your relationship is bound to fail. The whole anger thing is just a way to take the focus off the actual situation and turn it against you its such a typical a**hole move.

Is proof really that necessary when he's making you feel the way that you do he sounds no good for you find someone who makes you happy and save the detective work for something that matters!

Hope You Find Better!!!

Answer 6

I think you should get some more proof before you assume. But the fact that hes so sneaky is very suspicious! Keep a close eye and demand that you see that cell phone bill. Thats your business as much as his! His computer... he has a right to his privacy because it sounds like its HIS personal computer but the fact that he does not allow you to look at it is fishy. If he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't lock it and wouldn't have a problem with you looking through it. Good luck

Answer 7

Try to get more proof. You don't want to ruin your marriage over your "thoughts". I've thought my bf was cheating before, but I'm not going to jump to conclusions. Hard evidence always beats the feelings. I would sit him down and just have a serious talk. Ask him to let you go through his things. If he demands that you don't, ask why. If he says its personal stuff, bring up that you two are married. He needs to know that you mean serious business. Don't let him play with your heart. Find out the truth, even if it means making him angry. Tell him that you need to be comforted with the truth then the questions of "Are you cheating?" from you will end. Good luck.

Answer 8

he is probably cheating.....but you need to get the proof first, b4 confronting him. He has probably chosen a password for the computer that only he knows and it can be the name of the person he is seeing, or initials. Now if his computer is using VISTA It will assign the first name of the owner as the password, I do not know if you can change that or not, but that is what VISTA did with my husbands laptop....his password is his first name. You may end up having to hire an investigator to get the info needed, along with obtaining the information on the computer. But to me, it is as plain as the nose on your face that he is cheating, or he has a long lost child somewhere, now which idea is more farrrr fetched.

Answer 9

I cuaght my wift cheating on Myspace, thats how i got the proof......I bought keyprowler, which is a very good and innexpensive Keylogger engine and much more.
I used this coupon code(6CJPUSF), but i dont know if they canceled it yet. right now you can get a free trial versions and thats always good, it not only does keylogging, but takes screenshots and
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About a month ago i downloaded one of those free keyloggers and it contained viruses.
Try to use commercials keyloggers that gives you a free trial time.
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Answer 10

Sorry to break it to you but it does sound like he is doing something behind your back. But the worst thing you can do at a time like this is to confront him with no solid evidence. Finding a receipt here and there is not enough to pin him up for adultery. What you just described sounds exactly like what I was going through, couple months back. I learned to hold my head up high and in the end, I had enough evidence to throw him out into the streets and keep the house.

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Answer 11

Oh he's being shady....I had the same problem and I was right. When I found so called proof I shot the computer. It died...hehe It was about 2 years ago and he has been nothing but a great man ever since.
btw. he never phisically cheated on me, if that was the case the comp would still be alive today .... =)