Marriage & Divorce - 13 December 2007

I hate it when my fiance mentions the guy she dated before she met me. she knows it to and i know in my heart that she does not do it on purpose, but it just slips out sometimes. for instance, i was like 'oh my sisters a leo' and she replied 'oh i know a leo too' and when i asked who, she paused realizing she made a mistake and said 'oh just someone' and quickly chnaged the subject. but now im sitting here thinking about it, i dont want any info no the guy, now im picturing how she got him some special gift for his bday and what they did etc... the less i know the better....but, like i said she keeps blurting out details here and there, as i mentioned she knows i dont like it... i cant change her past, how do i learn to deal with her past.... it really drives me nuts, also we live in different states, which makes it worse, i never have any issues about this when we are together...

2007-12-13 15:39:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-13 15:38:13 · 19 answers · asked by kayville 3

I didn't pursue him. Well, not really. I flirted with him but I never acted on anything. He came to me. He kissed me first. He told me things about his marriage and his wife that made him miserable. He called me. He arranged times for us to meet each other. He initiated the sex. He told me that he loved me. He charmed the pants off of me (literally)! He said all of the things that I needed and wanted to hear. He used me for sex and then he bailed on me when things got tough.

I accept my share of the blame. What I did was wrong and I know it, but I wasn't there by myself. Why doesn't he get blamed for his part? Why do some people act like what happened is entirely my fault?

2007-12-13 15:37:39 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tell my wife I'm sorry I said what I did or didn't do what I said I would and she still nags. I ask her to forget it, but she won't
she'll remember next year!!

2007-12-13 15:22:02 · 22 answers · asked by donscountry 1

how long does it take a divorce in california

2007-12-13 15:16:31 · 3 answers · asked by Roval E 2

My husband is currently on Deployment.... he wont be back til February. I want to do something special for him when he gets home. Any suggestions??

2007-12-13 15:10:50 · 9 answers · asked by Braedyn is due 5/8/08! 2

My fiance is enlisting into the air force. He has always wanted to be in the military. And I finally gave in as a good oppurtunity for he and I to start our life together, with all the benifits the military offers &we can finally "make it on our own" &"grow up" without having all the major struggles with rent payment, bills, etc. I know I can always come home when he is deployed and I feel I am ready to take the responsibility to handle all this pressure, and I feel I am ready to grow up.

But, I have alot of people telling me that we are "too young". My mother and father want to push me out into the world and learn how to make it on my own, yet when I make an effort to do so, they have so many reasons not to.

I really just want any opinons what so ever you can give. Whether youve been in my situation or not. Just input please!

2007-12-13 15:07:18 · 12 answers · asked by Lys 4

ok i'm confused i got married close to a year ago, my now husband moved in to the apartment i was renting when i was single, evrything inside the apartment is mine i bought it , it was there from before we got married so does he has anyrights at all over my belongings, is it ok for him to bring company without consulting with me while i'm out the house?

2007-12-13 15:00:34 · 14 answers · asked by Mariela 2

COVERT INCEST is when the parent uses their child as a serrogate spouse. There is no sex involved, but they treat their kid as if they are married.

Has anyone else ever experianced this in one way or another?

2007-12-13 14:53:05 · 10 answers · asked by Señora Rosie 1

2007-12-13 14:52:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

what would you do, if your husbad or wife fall in love another qoman/man badly, as he/she was crying to meet her and be with her. My husband fall in love another woman, he is crazy about that woman and even cries for her infront of me, he is still very kind to me and help me on everyhting but i know his heart with someone else 100 % , what shud i do, should i let him go and get divorce that they can be together
or should i keep him and let him feel misrable for rest of his life with me

2007-12-13 14:49:29 · 35 answers · asked by gb 1

WHAT THEY WANTED OUT OF A WOMAN". How do you feel about these type of guys.

2007-12-13 14:47:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did your sweetheart come into your life when you least expected it? Is it true that it happens when you least expect it?

2007-12-13 14:42:16 · 16 answers · asked by DO YOU LOVE ME♥*´`*•.¸★｡ 3

I truly think all men cheat! So here I'm going to leave my man because he cheated and then the next man I meet will do the same thing. So where the hell can I be going if their all the same? I do want to leave but if I leave and I get the same **** what I'm I complaining for. Men how long have you been with your girlfriends or wives and never cheated?

People are telling me I might have a self esteem problem cause I said he complete me. How many of you have husbands or wives who have cheated and complete you. He is a big part of me and when he's not here it just doesn't seem right.

2007-12-13 14:38:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

He means marriage papers. Also he wants to be boss of the house. I told him that this has to stop and he needs to move out because of several things besides this. He said he legally is supposed to get a 30 day notice before I can tell him to leave. He doesn't work and finds excuses not to.

2007-12-13 14:33:32 · 15 answers · asked by catsangel777 4

my wife wont come to court to get a divorce and has her family lieing about her and my sons whereabouts and now the judge has ordered me to serve her one more time what happens then and if cps gets involved which he said will happen if she doesnt come the next court hearing how long after that will i see my son cause she is avoiding the courts and the mentor called to speak to her family and im the back ground heard the mother of my ex talking a bunch of crap?

2007-12-13 14:31:35 · 4 answers · asked by yourtowny 1

Everyone around her including her own family can see that she is destroying her life and the life of her 2 children. She blames everything on the husband but she can not tell him what it is that he has done to cause her to want out of the marriage. She has disconnected herself from her children and asked for a divorce. She does seem to think that by asking for a divorce and having the husband served with papers is painful and destructive to him. It is as if she is a totally different person that he married. The body is the same but the spirit living in the body is someone that he does not know. No history of marital problems no drugs no abuse nothing at all just one day the wife up and asked for a divorce and said tha she no longer wants to be married. What can be done besides let her go, sell the house and move on, knowing that one day she will hurt very bad for what she has done but she can not see it.

2007-12-13 14:29:10 · 6 answers · asked by lyvine27 1

I thought if I would give my wife something that would give her more energy (venti caramel frappuccino), she would have more energy and show more interest in having relations with me. But apparently this is not the case, she says it does nothing for her. Our time together has not increased.

What do you think?

2007-12-13 14:28:44 · 9 answers · asked by Elven Archer 2

2007-12-13 14:26:43 · 13 answers · asked by juanillo57 1

To want to start over with your life? My daughter will be moving out next year. Then all my children will know where to find me, but I want to move on and not let anyone else know where I am or What I am doing. I'm talking another state and job

2007-12-13 14:24:38 · 14 answers · asked by catsangel777 4

2007-12-13 14:24:35 · 6 answers · asked by AggieMom 2

My and my wife are in the process of divorcing, She just recently lost her job and is very depressed. When i first talk to her she said that will only see my daughter when she says so. I pay child support.She refuses to signed the divorce papers she just gives me such a hard time, then she starts to open up and tells me that she been feeling like killing herself.She said that she filed for bankruptcy and she will lose her car.she said that she hated me sometimes and sometime she dont. I felt very sad about that. And the arguing stopped, and well talked regular. She said that she feel uncomfortable with men and little girls(she doesn't know y), that y she gives me a hard time about seeing my daughter. Can my wife do this?

2007-12-13 14:21:59 · 10 answers · asked by ace82 3

I have a friend who's in a weird situation. She stays with her husband, and I know mainly because she's scared of life...she's truly had a hard life, in her defense, not your ordinary "life sucks" situation that we're all tired of, but that's highly personal so I'm keeping that to myself, really because it would take all year to write about it She has no family left except for her two daughters, because everyone she had died in the last two years. Her husband treats her like a child. He even tells her what to think. She can voice her opinion, and he will say, No you don't feel that you, you just think you do. This is why you feel this way, and then lecture her about it for the next three hours. If they try to go out with friends, she just stays in the background afraid to say anything, because if she says the wrong thing, guess what? LECTURE TIME!
There's not enough space left to explain more, but how do I give her the courage she needs to leave him? Her spirit's broken :(

2007-12-13 14:19:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met the love of my life 6 months ago, we've since travelled together & moved in together (about 3 months). We're trying for a baby, have joint health insurance and are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. However the M-word (marriage) has never been spoken...
We're both 40 and neither of us have been married before, mainly because we've been wating for the right person to come along.
I feel that he has and I guess that a ring for Christmas would be a pretty solid Hint that I do want to make things official between us. Is there anything wrong with doing that??
He currently often wears a ring that an ex gave him some time ago. He says he feels "naked" without one. I've previously mentioned that I'd like to get him a new one & he really liked the idea, but he was probably thinking we'd go shopping for one together....

2007-12-13 14:18:14 · 5 answers · asked by Jules 5

Any suggestions? We are 500 miles apart and it is very complicated. We are very much in love but cannot be in the same place right now.

2007-12-13 13:57:08 · 24 answers · asked by Mrs. McK 3

What would it take to leave for another person you know would love you forever and take care of you?

2007-12-13 13:55:11 · 6 answers · asked by catsangel777 4

my wife left me after 26 years and its getting very lonely,I would like to meet a good woman as a friend at first,then who knows.I was replaced by a younger man

2007-12-13 13:41:52 · 18 answers · asked by jack 1

do you know any high paying jobs where you dont have to be at work and youll be early my moms in a crysis and her daycare isnt realy profititable as in which she gets onley 49 dollars a week she has lots of kids and 2 assasistants ,she gives all her money to the assistants we can hardly pay the bills we have to go out of my dads retirment money and this is are 3rd time doing this . any advise for a new job ps i have to be at school at a time so shes worried about who can pick me up and stuff i just want to help my familey cuz my parents are talking about divorce and sueing and i dont want that to happen

2007-12-13 13:41:31 · 7 answers · asked by *KEVIN* 2

2007-12-13 13:35:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex left me for his ex few months ago. I decided to make totally no contacts with him. The reason why I let him go was I had some personal issue, I know if I do not work on it, I can not have a good relationship with anyone. After realized my weakness, I started to focus on my career and improve my own weakness. This morning, I received an email from my ex, I read it, but I did not reply it. Three hours later, he recalled the email. Any idea about why he did it? I love him very much and still do, but I did not plan to contact him any sooner because I am still feel I need some times to get everything together.

2007-12-13 13:33:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous