COVERT INCEST is when the parent uses their child as a serrogate spouse. There is no sex involved, but they treat their kid as if they are married.
Has anyone else ever experianced this in one way or another?
2007-12-13 14:53:05 · 10 answers · asked by Señora Rosie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him to knock it off he's married to you.. sometimes momma's boys do this but they need to grow up and realize that helping out is one thing this is anouther. if she is married then he needs to do this for her if she isn't then the longer he does this the harder it is to get him to your self .. she needs to get out and find anouther man..
2007-12-13 14:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Alisha N 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yep. Half the reason the marriage didn't work,and she is not allowed to even call the house now with his new wife. She once got in a disagreement with me and tried to take my son (then a baby) forcibly out of my arms...I looked at her like she had lost her d*amn mind and said "LET him GO." I hear to this day when my son goes over there she acts like it's her child...and of course the ex contributed to that because he lets her handle his business instead of him handling his own life like a man. She once flat out accused me of trying to take her son from her. I was like are you crazy? I am trying to be his WIFE, not his mother!
Mommies boys, can't stand them. Be respectful of your mother, but don't be her damn man.
Of her three sons i say he has to be the favourite cause he's the only one she could sucker into moving into her city. Everyone else stays far away so they can have a real life.
Oh, and I suffered that from my father. I think the women in his life sensed it because they all had an issue with me...once my stepmother, who usually gets him his dinner plate, angrily snapped at him "why don't you get your WIFE to get it for you"...she meant me. And he said I could date at 16 but then i turned 16 and he found ridiculous reasons to stall it further. It goes on and on...
I talk to him a few times a year by email mostly or phone but I haven't seen him or been back inside his place since 1999. I try to watch out for any effects of it but sometimes i look back and say i fell into some bad effects (trouble maintaining relationships, for one) without realizing it... I fight the whole thing with a type of self-counseling...read a lot on effects of children with certain childhoods, recognize anything wrong with me, try to foresee how certain choices will leave me vulnerable in the future, and talk it out, even if to some stranger whose judgment or lack thereof doesn't affect my daily life...
The one thing i worry about is if or when i do marry again, the whole traditional period beforehand where the boyfriend takes trips around the holidays to meet the parents, and the being given away at the wedding, all the traditional stuff that matters to me, is impossible with the immediate family issues I have. I don't even know if either one of them will be invited, and that's just sad. I have to basically divorce myself from it and feel like I'm alone facing the world...I'm strong and stubborn many say but I get tired of being strong and stubborn all by myself, so I am pretty sure I am settling into a family life of my own soon, or never at all.
2007-12-13 15:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by MissJamaica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it's historically an ever present syndrome - the mother-in-law never wanted her boy to grow away from her, so no other woman is good enough for her son. She dotes on him and refuses to cut the apron strings, because her sense of self is tied so strongly to being his mother.
2007-12-14 10:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never experienced it personally but have seen it happen before.
One of my friends married a man whose mother was so torn up about the death of her husband, she started seeing herself with her son because he resembled her husband so much and because he would do things (not sexually) for her like around the house... so in conclusion, she ended up having some type of incestuous feelings for him. It put a damper on their marriage, they're now divorced.
2007-12-13 14:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i havent acutally seen this in genuine existence yet ive seen it on clean prince of bel-air whilst will smith imagines residing along with his mom for something of his existence. not that i actualy could want that might assist you yet all i will say is tell him to offer up being a mamas boy and be a guy!
2016-11-03 05:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-13 15:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Oh that is sick!.....I have heard of it....but don't have any experience with it.....Your husband and his mother would benefit from some kind of therapy.....
2007-12-13 14:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why blame her? perhaps your husband thrives on that too; they need counseling and you probably do to, since you are 'in it'
2007-12-13 15:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it happen to me 35 years ago and did i pay for it ( run )
2007-12-13 15:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by poppy 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Report it. It's illegal.
2007-12-13 15:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey H 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋