what would you do, if your husbad or wife fall in love another qoman/man badly, as he/she was crying to meet her and be with her. My husband fall in love another woman, he is crazy about that woman and even cries for her infront of me, he is still very kind to me and help me on everyhting but i know his heart with someone else 100 % , what shud i do, should i let him go and get divorce that they can be together
or should i keep him and let him feel misrable for rest of his life with me
2007-12-13 14:49:29 · 35 answers · asked by gb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
or he will forget her after some times
2007-12-13 14:50:34 · update #1
your too good for him find someone who wants to be with you and loves you and only you
2007-12-13 14:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by lisa n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married and how long has this been happening?
I went through the same thing. My husband had it bad for his ex (before me), and I finally guess when he was going to tell me. He would cry for her, even talked to her. It was very hurtful and frustrating. Of course, memories are always greater and the grass always seems greener, but I know, it's not fair to you.
Is this a woman that he like before you were married or someone he's grown fond of since then, because, as a married person, it is totally appropriate for a man or woman to even have contact with another person enough in such a way allowing these types of feeling to develop. I always say that if you avoid inappropriate conduct, a lot of problems will be solved.
My situation went on for about seven years, but it seems to be getting better. Of course, it was worse and he was more open when he would drink. Do you know how she feels about him?
2007-12-14 14:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband want? If he wants to leave then let him go...that is what the Bible says...
"But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or
sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." 1 Corinthians 7:15
On the other hand...if he feels guilty and wants to work on your marriage.....I would talk to him about making a choice between you and the other woman. She cannot be part of your marriage. You seem like a very caring person to have put up with this at all...to even ASK about what to do. But, honestly, if you care for his soul...then you need to set boundries and not let him get away with this in your marriage.
I know this has to be so hard....I am sorry you have to deal with this in your life. I will pray that God will give you the strength and courage that you need to do what is best. You take care and email if you need to talk ok?
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-12-14 12:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry when he leaves you for her and gets married that won't workout either. You should have learned the facts of life before you got married:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-14 01:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about you two separate for a year and see how he is.. if he is happy with her completely then arrange for divorce.. you are doing the right thing even though it may be hard but it takes a good woman to love her husband enough to let him go so he can be happy. I am proud of you
2007-12-13 14:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will hope you will be the grown-up and love yourself to get out of this relationship. If a man is crying about her in front of you then, Leave for yourself, he doesn't care about your feelings even if he is kind to you. He not met to be with you. Plus of he cheats one most of the time they do it again.
You need to ask of you have children or not. How much does he love me, He is being selfish not you, you need to love yourself to get beyond this feel sorry for him. He is not sorry for hurting you. Love yourself the way he has been letting TWO WOMEN love him. Remember you are not the one that has cheated, put it back on him.
2007-12-17 07:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetpea2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how bad a marriage appears, you both deserve a chance to make it right. if he truly loves this other woman, he will still love her 6 months from now. make a deal to seriously work on your marriage for the next 6 months.
God worked very hard to bring you two together. Are you saying God was wrong?
I believe any marriage can be, should be and is worth saving.
2007-12-13 15:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh GB, I am so very sorry about your situation. However, marriage is only for two people and HE took those vows with you. Have you ever asked him what he wants? Does he truly want to give up you for her? Perhaps, he wants his cake and eat it too? I do know this, if there are three in a marriage then, the third should be God....not another man or woman!
GB, if you want your marriage to work and him to remain loyal to his vows, you are going to need to really do some deep heart to heart talking. However, I would ask that you pray and ask God to guide you with your words and with wisdom. This is a marriage, there is NOT room for wanting to be in lust 100%, for another woman.
I want you to know that I am praying about this as well! I ask God to please open his eyes to what he is throwing away...his life he freely wanted and undertook. May God guide you and give you the words to say which will open his eyes and heart. May God give you peace and replace your pain with joy...no matter the outcome, I ask God to guide you and bless you!
Gail
2007-12-13 15:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a divorce.
Your husband is there for you as a friend but he's not there for you as a husband. His mind, body, heart, and soul is with this other woman. You're going to have to leave him, it's not fair for you to stick around with someone who is unfaithful to you. Regardless if he hasn't done anything physical with her yet, he is having an emotional affair and it's time for you to let him go.
2007-12-13 15:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a girls point of view...
leave him.
have some pride!
that is crazy he would do that to you...cry in front of you about her?? What is wrong with this man? and why are you still with him if hes in love with anther woman? He does not love you like a real man should during marriage if hes In love with another woman! Divorce...asap.
2007-12-13 14:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by SaS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crying in front of you for another woman?? Heavens yes give him a divorce....Why stay with a man that says he loves another woman?.....besides...how do you know that he will want to stay married to you? Even if he does stay and is miserable for the rest of his life with you....you will equally be just as miserable....
2007-12-13 14:55:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋