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Marriage & Divorce - 13 December 2007

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What are a list of possibilities of why a husband would lie about watching porn?

2007-12-13 13:32:14 · 55 answers · asked by Hawai'i 4

I am a student Primary Education teacher, and looking forward to Graduate and pursue my carrer in Education and teaching children, it's all i have ever wanted to do and b independant, i love my boyfriend so much and would do anything for him,
but i told him i don't want to get married and i never plan to have children (am in my early 20's this could change) and he went crazy he said, " he wants his life with me and he wants me to commit to him, to have children with me"
" i am being selfish because it's all about me,"
but he said its about give and take
but how can he say am being selfish when am i am saying am not ready for children,
I don't complain about his carrer as he got his degree last year so why is it such a problem for me to have one?
and i love him more than anything and don't want anyone else but he wants to marriage and am not ready,
Am i being selfish?
Should i agree to this?

2007-12-13 13:28:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband dearly but it is sometimes bothersome that he doesn't listen to my needs and concerns. He just retired from the military which I didn't like much at all for the 8 years I lived of the 20 with him. I always dreamed of a 50's type of lifestyle due to all the time away and unpredictable lifestyle and he knew and agreed to slow things down and find a job to be home at night etc. once he retired at 20 years. After trying one home business that didn't supply a steady enough income I caved and offered for him to be a vol EMT or firefighter (which firefighter was never on my fav list) but something he always wanted to do. I had been on him for nearly a year to get in better shape and I got my wish now that I agreed to the volunteer thing. (I feel hurt that he didn't do it for me but now is going to the gym.) I feel as if my needs and wishes are 1/2 heard and he is always giving to the community, and 50% to what I want. Our love life is down and he wonders why.

2007-12-13 13:19:17 · 10 answers · asked by TennesseeGirl 2

I was with my ex for almost 2 years and we have a daughter together. Though
he has never seen her, she is 3 weeks old. When we were dateing he was
abusive and when i found out I was pregnant i left him, in fear that he
might hurt the baby. I got with my current boyfriend who was also my very
close friend almost right after i left my ex. He helped me out my whole
pregnacy and was there when she was born. He also has a daughter who is
almost a year. I lost contact with my ex through my pregnacy because
besides him being crazy his family and him denyed the baby being his. My ex
went into the marines and is going to marry his new g/f, and me and my
boyfriend are supose to get married. But i talked to my ex the other day
and all the feelings i had for him came back, and now I don't know what to
do. I feel horrible for haveing feelings for someone other then my b/f and
I don't know what to think anymore. Its horrible. What should I do?

2007-12-13 13:13:44 · 34 answers · asked by jessica 1

Or wanted to watch it in order get turned on, would you be offended??

Or feel as though you aren't good enough alone?

If you were OK with it, how would you suggest that you are and offer that to your man?

2007-12-13 13:12:30 · 8 answers · asked by Renesme 5

She says nothing is up, but I suspect she is cheating. What do you all think?

2007-12-13 13:12:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

She trying to get my attention?
she hugged this guy infront of me and i noticed she glanced at me while doing so is this a good thing. She ignores me all the time were not even friends yet she is 18
she has called me cute before

i ignore her to b/c im nervous

2007-12-13 12:42:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

recently he was sick, (nothing serious), and i took care of him as i would my child. when i started not feeling well a couple of days ago his reaction was definitely not the same towards me. not only has he not even asked how i'm feeling or if i need or want anything, but he ignores me when i'm coughing and sneezing by making believe he doesn't hear me. he hasn't even offered to take the dog out so that i don't have to go out into the cold. this isn't the first time that he's behaved this way and i fear that it won't be the last. what do i do without being spiteful or starting an argument?

2007-12-13 12:40:03 · 18 answers · asked by ST 1

I find myself thinking more of her lately and i don't know why all the ones in my life that has passed keeps coming in my dreams sometimes i feel it is how they are reaching me but, i find myself when going out to eat they have them orenge half thing that she used to eat and i find myself always eating just a couple to think of her is that crazy or normal? I find myself daydreaming of my handicap son walking and seeing and talking It is so sad having a son that can not talk walk see and has cp he gets alot of surgery's it is hard and i am a strong mom....but, i feel so sad at times. anyways just wondering if there is others out there with these thoughts? and at times i miss a place i have never been yet never seen but, i sure do miss it....I was raised in church so i am a strong believer in Jesus and heaven.....my uncle and mom is pasters so just wondering how others feel if there is someone else missing a place (heaven) they have not seen yet.. and passed loved ones..thanks.

2007-12-13 12:35:42 · 8 answers · asked by daisy 4

Yes I know that I could leave.
Yes I know that I could cheat.
But we have 2 small kids.
Issues are:
no orgasm from him for 13 yrs.
Sometimes he brushes his teeth and most of the time no. His breath smells so bad that it actually smells like a garbage can or poop. no exaggeration.
He leaves **** on the toliet and the shower stall after he has used it is just plain nasty.
He doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom.
I am mean and nasty at this point when telling him because it's been so long and I am so tired of not having an orgasm because I am repulsed by his hygiene. It's just nasty. I've tried the nice. I've tried the cuss out. I've added him to my dental insurance but nothing seems to help. He still has the same issues. I am just angry. At this point IF he brushes his teeth, I am so angry that I just can't focus.
My question is what are my options? Cheating? psychiatrist? Can/would you divorce someone for being so filthy?

2007-12-13 12:35:08 · 31 answers · asked by ? 3

Can someone out there with their marriage experience share with me how to be someone's wife? what do the wife do and how to show the respect to the husband.

Even i have married for several years but I still failed to be my husband's wife, I have fail to do what all the wife suppose to do and thats why I had a broken marriage until my husband said lets get our own way

help me, how to be someone's wife and has a successful marriage?

2007-12-13 12:32:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our first Anniversary was great!!!! Now he says we dont have the money. That could be true, but our Anniversary always passes us by. It upsets me.

2007-12-13 12:31:03 · 6 answers · asked by ladonna 1

since i got married i gainde a lot of weight , i have no confindece and it leads to lots of insecurity. i'm constantly thinking my husband is sleeping around cuz i'm not attractive anymore or at least in my eyes i'm not, i put myself down constantly , does anyone have any suggestions? i'm ruining my marriage

2007-12-13 12:16:13 · 18 answers · asked by Mariela 2

2007-12-13 12:15:52 · 13 answers · asked by lightfootdr 1

A WEEK AGO MY SISTER HAD HER HUSBAND LOCKED UP FOR HITTING HER. WELL SHE RECIEVED PAPERS FOR THE COURT DATE. BUT SHE DECIDED SHE DOESNT WANT TO SHOW UP. WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO HER HUSBAND? NOW KEEP IN MIND WHEN HE GOT LOCKED UP HE WAS REFUSED BAIL MONEY.

2007-12-13 12:15:47 · 41 answers · asked by RODEO RIDER 1

well a year ago i got this great job in a really good business and ever since isatrted there i liked the boss he was so cute so 5 months ago i slept with him and i didnt know he was married with two kids until after. so i left and then i started feeling really sick so i went to the doctor like around the first month and found out i was PREGNANT! and i know it was him because he was the only one i slept with since highschool so i told him and he said that he was going to help out only if i didnt tell his wife (this was 4 months ago) today he came over telling me that he told his wife and she left him and now they are divorced and he got a apartment and he told me how much he did care about me and wanted to help me raise the baby and he left everything to be with me. he left his job his house his kids everything and still deep inside i really still LOVE him but i really dont now what to do i need ome opinoins to help me because i said i will call him later? i need some serious help!

2007-12-13 12:12:50 · 10 answers · asked by Rachael 1

we have been together for 6 and married for almost two. We were very sexual in the beginning of the relationship but then life changed our living arrangments and had to move in with his parents. i thought it was being there but now that we have a house it is still the same. You think he would want to christian he whole place, nope...i think it has been about 1 1/2 months since we have had it. Don't get me wrong i have thought about going elsewhere but my heart will not let me cheat on him, i love him way to much to ever do that to someone again. He says that its not me but of course we as woman always think it's us. Does anyone have an opinion out there. I know he is not cheating, he is too stupid to do that because he would get caught and feel so dam bad he would tell me. Please Help

2007-12-13 12:10:51 · 29 answers · asked by secret l 1

Emotional and psychological, manipulative

2007-12-13 12:10:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She loves it when I wake her this way. Anyone else like to start their day off with a sneaky quickie?

2007-12-13 12:10:20 · 12 answers · asked by jeff b 4

my friend is 36 years old and married for 7 years she still virgin. she is afraid to be hurt because she knows that loosing virginity is painful, how can we help her. they tried many times but shes always nervous. we need to help her .can u give some advice for her?

2007-12-13 12:07:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

...had kids?

2007-12-13 11:58:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've lived together and basicly living as though we're married . I'm ready, He said he's not , He said he does want to marry me but only when he's ready! Isnt 3 years long enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone? We have had a perfect relationship rare arguments no cheating, Great !! thats whats so boggling!!

2007-12-13 11:57:54 · 21 answers · asked by Angel N 1

Thank you for taking the time to read my question. My wife and I have been married for 3 years, been together for 7 years. We have 3 small boys ages 1,3 and 5. I have been in jail (3 times) due to my wife calling on Domestic Violence, every time she was either pregnant in the last trimester, or after the birth of one of our boys, all cases were dismissed with prejudice against her. I never hurt or harmed her, she just went crazy. Twice she was intoxicated on wine, but the police took me away, because I am the man and she was pregnant.
In 2005 we started a small seafood business, she quit her job which had great Benefits (Starbucks) I asked her not too because of the burden of health insurance on a small business, we did great to start, but she insisted on overpaying us out of the company, also she wanted to buy a house so we also purchased a home 2 months into our new business. I was trying to make her happy. Since then our relationship went downhill, this is where I started feeling hopeless with our relationship, although I went through the court system and jail, I forgave and told myself to hold the family together.
In summer 2007 the money in company ran out and she told me that she wanted to separate, she took the kids and moved to her mothers home, I ended up having to file a chapter 7 personally, due to no money and Credit Card debt above 25000 dollars, I also have decided to surrender my home, because I can't make the mortgage.

Currently, she is going to counseling for herself, I feel alienated because when I ask about 'us' the family and she and I, she says that she does not know. She moved out at the end of August, and she has not done anything for the sake of the family, but only for herself, I have talked to my parents about it and they want me to divorce her, they believe that sometime along the way of our lives, she decided that she just wanted a meal ticket, they want me to find someone that will work with me and love me.
Another important point I want to make is that my parents invested 20K, and her grandfather invested 50k into the company, this is how she and we maintained the lifestyle that is now falling apart. In the bankruptcy I listed my parents and her grandfather for protection. Recently she told me that we need to pay her grandfather back, but no mention of paying my parents, I wrote a letter to her grandparents wanting to know what the situation was with the loan they gave my wife, but they have not answered back. My wife wants me to pay her 500 per month for the next 6 years to pay back this loan, I don't believe her, especially now without an answer to my letter sent to her grandparents. I feel that she is holding the relationship hostage to get her way.

Should I move on, I am only 37, I think that she has some mental and emotional issues, that only she can work on, I also feel used, I mean she left me right when all the money ran out, and left me to fix it.

I have written letters to her letting her know that I love her with no response.

My friends say that she has turned into a gold digger.

I need some arbitrary advice on this...

2007-12-13 11:56:33 · 10 answers · asked by ocean 1

I just got reported for saying someone was stupid for asking a question about marrying someone with hairy arms. he asked how to find a woman with very hairy arms, the question was stupid, and i feel like people should have legit questions and answers and not waste peoples time on here. im sorry if i offended anyone, but am I the only one who thinks some of these questions are stupid? like they are just asking and answering to get points.

2007-12-13 11:56:30 · 13 answers · asked by chicksmom 2

2007-12-13 11:53:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i leave him. im scared to

2007-12-13 11:50:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband left my daughter and I to move back to Michigan to be with his ex girlfriend. I am filing for divorce and I need to know what happens in the State of Colorado or in general if he refuses to sign the papers and if he does not show up for court. He has some problems and one minute he is ok and the next he is off on something that he refuses to do anything.

I dont think he cares and will sign the papers what i am afraid of is that he will fight for our daughter and he has barely been a part of her life except to ignore her (she is 9 months old)

HELP

2007-12-13 11:42:09 · 20 answers · asked by Jenn 1

hi i have been married for the past 12 years and after a year of marriage i found out that he was wearing my under wear to get himself off and i thought it was just a thing and it would just go away but have just found out that he is doing it again and i am horrified that he is doing that he is not the man that i married and i can not look at him anymore it has hurt me in so many ways.for the people out there who think that what you are doing is not hurting anyone is just lying to them selfs and the longer you leave it to not tell them the more hurtful it is when they find out and believe me they will.as for me i really dont like the fact he kept it from me again and the fact that i cant trust him near my under wear and the fact that i have spent so much money to bye it then for him to take it and use it on himself really makes me sick to the stomach. but i cant leave him either.i am up in arms in what to do?or how to under stand it ?

2007-12-13 11:35:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

The judge did not care that my ex's new husband is spanking, showering, and calling him daddy. No one in the county court system will help me. Who do I talk to next? I cant afford a attorney and I was ordered to pay my ex for her attorney fees and she drives a Escadle and lives in a 500,000. house I built. Im ready to pull my hair out, why is it only people with $$$$ get what they want in court. Exspecially when her parents are millionaires.

2007-12-13 11:35:39 · 10 answers · asked by dirk0069 1

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