Can someone out there with their marriage experience share with me how to be someone's wife? what do the wife do and how to show the respect to the husband.
Even i have married for several years but I still failed to be my husband's wife, I have fail to do what all the wife suppose to do and thats why I had a broken marriage until my husband said lets get our own way
help me, how to be someone's wife and has a successful marriage?
2007-12-13 12:32:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my relationship, no one person "wears the pants" so to speak. However, I would not be with my husband if he tried to be in control all the time. We both respect each other, help out around the house, and have equal responsibilities. Not know what went "wrong" in your marriage, I can't say what went wrong.
2007-12-13 12:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Evie_79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your story to your past marriage but please don't beat yourself up as if your a failure. it takes two to make a marriage work. Im sure there's things you both could have done differently.
now about your question on how to be a good wife. Every man is different. To what is important to one man may not be to the next man. Some can be old fashioned some can be more modern in there ways some have different beliefs and religious ideas.
you get the picture i've painted . so don't be to depressed perhaps the next man you get will be happy with how you act and treat him.
give you an example. say you can stand up for yourself you have an opinion or a idea. and say your husband doesn't want a woman with a mind or mouth. perhaps he likes his woman to be subserviant to him and she belongs bare foot and pregnant without being able to make up her mind maybe he likes to control all her thoughts movements and makes all decisions. then you two would not jive together that doesn't mean you were a bad wife just means your not right for this kind of man lifestyle.
You need to find someone who you would compliment and a man who would admire you have a brain and can handle yourself in a situation. some men like a woman who isn't a damsel in distress and can make decisions without always asking him should I do this or is this okay. Just do it. with in reason of course have a good head on your shoulder not to embarras him or the family. everything within reason
So better luck next time. I Hope this helps you a bit and puts you at ease its not that you were a failure.
2007-12-14 00:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two. Talk about all the problems. Both need to want to give more than get. Mention some things that really bother you and let some small stuff go. He does not need to go off and you not know where he is and you the same but niether need to call the other all the time. If he wants to stop and have a beer with some from work once or twice a month fine but any more is to much. If you feel better then happen by in a bit one of these times and meet those that he has a beer with but not regular. You could plan to do something afterwards. Just find what works for you to and plan time to stay interest with one another like a a movie in or a date out from time to time alone just the two of you.
2007-12-13 20:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off it takes two to have a successful marriage. Men are protectors, providers, bug destroyers, use very few words, strong and have many other similar traits. Women are nurturers, supportive, talkative, beautiful and many more traits. Men today want a woman who will cook, keep a clean home, queen the castle when the king is away, keep herself up (looking good and in shape if possible), applaud him (validation). The biggest problem with most unsuccessful marriages is they forget that they are a team. It's unfortunate that today many younger women are not exposed to great- grandparents that had successful marriages and 7 or 8 kids with so much laughter and joy. It seems like those days are slowly fading away. Today we have microwave families, everybody is in a hurry (going nowhere fast) and no one is taking time to gaze at the sky, smell the rose bloom and walk in the park. If you keep a clean house, clean clothes (ironed if necessary), a meal on the table and intimacy most men are pleased.
2007-12-13 21:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a oneness, but it is a team striving for the same goals and dreams u both share. Me and my husband work well as a team. If he is at home and the clothes need washing he does them. If he is at work and the grass needs cutting I cut it. When one parent grows a little stressed over the kids the other one takes over. It is no one spouse's job to do anything. I love my husband and I never take him for granted, when we go out for dinner and a movie I tell him thank you, and let him know I had a great time. I never run out of kisses and hugs for him..... Special dinners and desserts our always cooked when I'm not at work. I take his side in all children disputes, and I teach our kids to never take their father for granted. I love marriage and I love my spouse. We talk all the time even though we have been together for many years now. If ur with the right person everything just seems right it will not always be perfect; because we don't live in a perfect world. Hope things improve K
2007-12-13 21:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be in his corner even if you think he is an idiot just keep it to yourself and talk to him like a baby, Don't ever tell your friends family bad things about him always protect him.
If he says something stupid in front of people wait to you get to the car and chew his butt out!
Don't nag men don't listen anyway when you want your way just don't talk to him that will drive him nuts!
give him sex at least 3 times a week I am sure he would want it more but come on lets be real.
Let him have guy time men are not like women we put our whole self into our man and children but men well men have to have that male bonding experience.
Good luck!
2007-12-13 21:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go buy Dr. Laura's "The Propper Care and Feeding of Husbands" It is a marriage saver.
2007-12-13 21:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be his friend
chat about nice things/jokes
learn to ignore ur negative feelings and focus on positive things
write him letters if u think u have a serious problem and he wouldn`t listen!(it works every time ..u say what ever u want...u have the chance to choose ur words ,and he never interrupts u!)
hug/kiss all the time with no occasion!
never ever tell anybody about ur problems,solve them alone with him..never let anybody gets in ur marital life
2007-12-13 20:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by LadyLynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband has unrealistic expectations of you....a wife is some one who loves her husband, who is loyal, honest, faithful, respectful, can communicate, can listen and can compromise....
2007-12-13 20:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Communication
RESPECT on BOTH sides
Help eachother acheive aspirations
Be friends to eachother
Listen to eachother
2007-12-13 20:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Renesme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋