should i leave him. im scared to
2007-12-13 11:50:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHAT HAPPENED LEADING UP TO THIS HAPPENING AND WHAT ALL DID BOTH OF YOU DO
2007-12-13 11:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
You know what you should do, the thing that is stopping you is WILL HE FIND ME? My mom lived with an abusive man for 5 years and finally she just went to the police and filed a restraining order. Before she did she made sure she had a back up plan with friends and family. She was terrified the day she packed us kids in the car and left for my aunt. He tried to contact her and he drove to my aunts house but my mom expected that and the cops picked him up and threw him in jail. My mom always keeps Mace on her and she carries and sharp envelope opener in her car just in case. She was terrified for the first year and then slowly her confidence came back. I know you may be terrified but you need to make the decision on living or dying. How can you be so sure next time will be worse, do you want to find out. Start making plans and if you have physical evidence, go to the police. They chart it and it is in the files, so if and when you file a police report, it is documented. Please get away from this guy because he uses your fear as an adrenaline rush in dominating you. You are alot stronger than you appear but you have buried that girl a long time ago, now it is time to bring her back. Best Wishes and Be Safe
2007-12-13 12:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Military Mama due 03/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked with a woman a few years ago that her husband would beat on her. It was always her fault. I kept trying to get her to leave him a go to a shelter, she wouldn't. One day I went to work and everyone said, "did you hear about Kathy". I said no. Then they told me that he had shot and killed her and a neighbor that had tried to stop him. Then he killed himself. If she had gone to a shelter and had gotten the State police involved, maybe they would all be alive. You never know, but i don't think it would have ended so badly for any of them.
2007-12-13 12:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all call the cops and get it Documented start a trail if need be . Then go to a shelter or a good friend out of state if possible. Once you've documented there is something to connect him to on paper if something should happen to you.Are there children involved? My experience with a control freak made me learn the hard way and to this day repercussions sound
2007-12-13 12:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by 2tweets 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DONT YOU EVER EVER THINK ITS YOUR FAULT as its NOT!!!!! if your scared at what he'll do if you leave...do some research before you leave. These situations sometimes arent as easy as just running out the door...I know that fear as I was brought up in a violent household. Do you have kids with him...if so do it for the kids safety and well being and do it NOW.
Ring your local crisis line..they can arrange transport to get you and your kids to a womens shelter....once there they will help you get set up, with clothes food etc.
If theres no time to pack...dont worry they are only material things...your life and sanity are more important.
take care and be safe :-)
2007-12-13 11:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by wogaridginie77 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, you should call the police. Is he crazy? I can understand being scared of someone (male figure) What steps have you taken to try to leave him? There are so many support centers that can help you. Heck I would even call the police for you.
2007-12-13 12:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful. 1. Make a plan 2. Enlist friends that are loyal to you ONLY and the police 3. Do it - if you stay you are only agreeing with him that it is OK to treat you like dirt. You are better than how you are being treated, you are stronger than he estimates you, and you can do this. Godspeed.
2007-12-13 12:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by autonomous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will come back and cry and say how much he loved you and I am sure you love him and this is really hard but let me make is simple.
My cousin loved a man that abused her not that much but did and then cried.
She was hit in the head with an Iron two years ago and died!
No man should ever hit a women. I am not saying men don't get angry cause they do I seen them punch walls ect...
But once they hit you IT IS OVER!
He will hit you again and again.
I know women we can be nagging B'S but real men walk out until they cool off.
Even if you hit him first he would restrain you but never hit!
Good luck
2007-12-13 11:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you a brother a father around that you can run this by. You should definitely get away but you want to be smart about it. It's not your fault he cannot handle himself in an adult manor, it's not your fault he cannot communicate like a descent human being and results to violence.
2007-12-13 12:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
? call the police and get out! Do you really need to post this on yahoo. I mean he choked you. I've been emotionally abused and that is awful to but he could really hurt you or take your life.
2007-12-13 12:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER your fault. Find out about women's shelters in your area and start making plans to leave.
Good luck.
2007-12-13 11:54:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋