What do I do next on the issue of my exwifes new husband showering with my 2 your old son?

Question

The judge did not care that my ex's new husband is spanking, showering, and calling him daddy. No one in the county court system will help me. Who do I talk to next? I cant afford a attorney and I was ordered to pay my ex for her attorney fees and she drives a Escadle and lives in a 500,000. house I built. Im ready to pull my hair out, why is it only people with $$$$ get what they want in court. Exspecially when her parents are millionaires.

Answer 1

i would appeal to you to not bring up these anguishing issues that clearly bother you in front of your son, how do you know they are showering together? are you asking your little boy? i would strongly strongly ask you to not do that. your questions can be addressed to the mother, in private, away from the boy, but, i caution you strongly, questions like this to a little boy will give him cause to worry. showering, which probably means nothing at all to him, no matter who with, will take on a sinister aspect, with guilt and fright if you make it that way. he is way waaaaay too young to have to account for his actions while he is not with you. if this is how you find things out, you are wrong and you are hurting this boy. if you care you will not do this.

i will say this with sympathy, you are out of the loop and you are hurt by this. your attitude toward your wife's family is not nice, they dont like you, i get it. but dont in turn ruin your son. be wise, and be respectful of his right to live a peaceful life. please, for his sake. showering will not hurt his innocent feelings, your jealousy directed toward him WILL.

Answer 2

there isnt anything you can do about it..if thats what the judge ordered thats what he ordered and you have to follow it or it can end up way worse for you..about the son thing..i know it sucks that he is calling this other man daddy..but i dont know you and how much you are in your sons life if it isnt a lot then what can you do?? but all you should be concerned about is whether or not your son is happy and unharmed..he is only 2 so showering with him i can understand why you would wonder what the hell especially since this isnt his kid..but really this man is a big part of your sons life whether you like it or not and maybe it is just innocent..if this bothers you this much the only thing you can do is talk to the mother about it and let her know exactly how you feel about this, dont be rude about it just be calm and honest and tell her that as his father you dont like it and you think that as his father you should have some kinda say in his raising and you would prefer if this wasnt done

Answer 3

dirk -the reason the courts won't help you is because it is not an issue. It is not abuse to shower with the child, more than likely he showers with mom too. He is your ex's husband, in her home, if she feels he should be someone who disciplines, that is her choice.

I understand you are feeling replaced by the step-father, and I realize how hard that is to deal with, but you can not control what goes on in your ex's home.

There isn't anyone you can talk to that will tell you any different. It has nothing to do with you having a lawyer or not or money.

You can discuss it with your ex, but if she doesn't respect how you feel, there is nothing you can do about it.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what you can do. Talk to a lawyer that does an initial visit for free, for starters. If they believe they will win, I think they will take your case and just get the money later. I am not 100% sure. Its worth a try. I personally would be pissed if I found out someone else was showering with my child, or my child was calling someone else mommie, when I am around and a perfectly good mom. She should be paying her own attorny fees, thats for sure. I'm not sure of the entire situation, but, good luck!

Answer 5

As much as I hate to say mate, "you're up shite creek"! Money buys a heap of stuff including smart *** attorneys. I know how you feel, if my little boy had a shower with any other male than me, I'd be busting his door down and hurting him very badly. It may sound dramatic but my little boy is my life, and no other toe-rag is going to be nude around my son.
There must be a way, keep trying, Good Luck!

Answer 6

The first question is go to the News Media and tell them what is going on and you think the guy is a pedophile and have his back ground checked out.
Next the second question is simple as to why the courts cater to the rich.
Our Justice system(so called LOL) is NOT about justice at all.It's about M-O-N-E-Y.Whoever has the most money gets the judgments they want from the courts.

Answer 7

try to get a better job try to prove to the court that your child will be better off with you im on your side no one has the right to spank my baby if i dont let them [which i never would] especially if they aint blood related to them and the shower part is wrong because you dont know what his is doing to your baby in there and your ex wife is wrong for letting this happen sorry but i dont know who you should talk to

Answer 8

IF I found that someone other than myself or my spouse was showering with my child, I would take my kid away as fast as I can to Canada or any place far..the hell with you people saying it's OK to shower with someone else's kid this is how sexual abuse happens..your exwife is a total idiot as well..I'd love to give her a piece of my mind. How dare she let some asshole bathe with her son..STUPID!!

Answer 9

well with the issue with your son and your ex-wife's husband showering together. me personally i think that is is fine because he is a man. but on the other issues try going to mediation with your ex- wife maybe you could try and compromise

Answer 10

money rules the world and it is never fair.