What are a list of possibilities of why a husband would lie about watching porn?
2007-12-13 13:32:14 · 55 answers · asked by Hawai'i 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is probably afraid of potential consequences or judgements from you. He may feel guilty about it or embarassed. The best thing to do would be to try to talk about it.
2007-12-13 13:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by ripham23232 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-24 21:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are saying shame, but I do not think that is it.
Primarily, because most women react the same when they find out. "You don't love me, you don't find me attractive any more, you don't think I'm satisfying."
It isn't about any of those things. Pornography is not about love, of how you feel about your wife. On a scale of 1-10, most wives are not a 10. While most porn stars are a 10 or close to it. Just because he gets married does not mean he is magically attracted to only her, and does not find these women attractive. Fantasies are HEALTHY and NORMAL. Pornography helps with those fantasies. Men need more visual stimulus then women, that is a fact in most cases.
Most men watch porn before they get married, you should love some one for who they are, faults included. Do not try to change them just because of something you do not like.
A lot of women try to stop their husbands from watching porn. That is why they lie about it. It causes a fight, the woman over reacts and gets defensive and starts feeling bad about her self, and the man is just trying to enjoy him self and have some private time.
2007-12-13 14:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ayana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's ashamed. Most wifes don't like men watching porn and it might be embarrassing to him. Probably is. He's afraid you might get that 'I'm not doing enough for him' vibe. Even though you probably are. Men are basically just 'excited' round the clock and sometimes I guess theres a computer near by. Hope everything works out. Good Luck.
PS>It's NOTHING you've done.
2007-12-13 13:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say embarrassment, and because he feels that it could jeopardise your marriage. Something like 92 percent of men look at porn according to a study I just made up, but the figure is probably pretty accurate. Men need new and constant stimulus to enable us to work that wonder we refer to as our wangs. Basically he was probably trying to shield you from what he views as his perversion that is in reality very normal. Rest assured that he wouldn't be lying about watching porn if he was cheating, why watch if you can do? My question is how often have you been giving it up to your man, is he looking for outside fulfilment because he isn't getting enough from you? I don't know about him, but I need to have sex about 4 times a week or I'm looking for a new girlfriend, not that he will, but if you want to ween him off of the porn maybe you should try getting sexy with him, nothing freakish that will lose you respect, but maybe a school girl outfit, a nurse etc. You could also try risky sex, such as borderline public sex. You could also offer to let him take sexual pictures of you. Anyways people try to keep hidden things that they believe are unknown ergo your hubby and the porn.
2007-12-13 13:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mark C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not a man, but I would have to say that some of the main reasons that people lie about anything is that they are embarrassed, they feel guilty about what they have done, they are greedy and don't want to share, they don't want to get caught doing something that is illegal or frowned upon by someone, they want to have something/do something that is theirs alone that they don't have to share, and then there are some people that lie for no reason just because it is a habit. I realize not all of these apply to the situation at hand, but these are just some reasons that people lie. (If I had to guess, I would say that he might be embarrassed)
2007-12-13 13:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amy E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because he doesn't want to upset you or make you feel insecure, or undesirable, he just likes those naked chicks. Men like Porn !! Women do too ! It's a Visual Stimuli !! Watch some WITH him. Forget the Popcorn though! lol !!
2007-12-13 13:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by casper 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of those who have responded to this. He is ashamed, embarrassed or doesn't want the conflict.
So why don't you avoid the problem and suggest that both of you watch some. This will relieve the problem, let him know that you do not judge him for it, and might give you a wonderful night of love making.
2007-12-13 13:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eembarrassment, there is a stigma about married men and porn, they shouldn't need to watch it as they have a partner, which is BS. That your husband is trying to hide his use of porn and is reluctant to let people know he needs it for what ever reason.. Doesn't want you to know he's using it, maybe thinking you would feel bad, that he has to use or that you are not having sex as often as He wants.
2007-12-13 13:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Shame. Some people think it is foul and feel bad. If you are ok with his interest maybe try to help him feel more comfortable with it. If not why? Men like action adventure movies i doesn't mean they are going on a high speed chase. Besides men that watch porn are usually much better lovers.
2007-12-13 13:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. McK 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Are you giving him enough? Are you satisfying him? If not maybe that's why he's doing it, and maybe he wishes you were with him to get turned on and get on him. If you are satisfying him, then maybe he just likes it and is afraid to tell you thinking you will be nagging him about it and and accusing him of being a pervert! Sex is a normal thing and should be fun and safe. And I think you can learn a few fun things watching porn. I did when I was younger and it helped me get better and to please my wife better.
2007-12-13 13:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by Camelot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋