My husband won't have sex with me anymore?

Question

we have been together for 6 and married for almost two. We were very sexual in the beginning of the relationship but then life changed our living arrangments and had to move in with his parents. i thought it was being there but now that we have a house it is still the same. You think he would want to christian he whole place, nope...i think it has been about 1 1/2 months since we have had it. Don't get me wrong i have thought about going elsewhere but my heart will not let me cheat on him, i love him way to much to ever do that to someone again. He says that its not me but of course we as woman always think it's us. Does anyone have an opinion out there. I know he is not cheating, he is too stupid to do that because he would get caught and feel so dam bad he would tell me. Please Help

Answer 1

Sexual problems in a marriage are usually just a symptom of other problems. Look for what else is really going on in your marriage and you'll most likely find the issue that needs to be discussed. Are there financial problems that you need to talk about? Is there something that has come between the two of you that you just bury and ignore? These are the things that left unaddressed may show up as sexual problems, but really have nothing to do with sex. They just leave you feeling disconnected so it makes it harder and harder to enjoy having an intimate sexual relationship.

Look deeper at your marriage and you'll probably find where the problem lies. Talk with your husband about what is troubling him. Chances are it has little to do with a lack of attraction to you.

Answer 2

Geez , It,s only been a mere 1 month & a few weeks since you,ve been intimate! Calm down, & then to bring the word cheating up? For gods sake, relax, this is nothing to worry about, alot of married couples have times when they are more sexual then others, this is just how marriage is, you dont have to have sex daily in order to have a solid marriage, I think you are taking this way to harsh, men go thru stages & have their peeks, just as women do, so lighten up, & stop with all the drama, their are couples out their who havent had sex in years & guess what? The idea or thought about cheating doesnt even enter their minds, as they love their spouse & would never do anything to cause pain or hurt to the other, so calm down & when the times right, he will come around, till then, take it easy!

Answer 3

After living with others he is out of the habit. Start to make some changes to get him more interested and then the more he gets the more he will want. This is as much habit as having about the same thing for diner every week. Try watching some romantic movie with some snacks around and you in something easy to play with. Just make a few slow moves to get started. Ask him in some conversation you steer that way what he would like to try and make them happen.

Answer 4

The first thing that you should do is sit your husband down and have a chat to him about this. He may not realise just how concerned you are, and open communication in a relationship is very important. He may have stresses at work that he is not talking to you about, or it could be something else. He may be worried about not being able to perform. Anyway, talking should always be the first step.
You may want to surprise him with a weekend away to some romantic hotel and some new lingerie!! just to spice things up a bit. Good luck and I hope things get better soon.

Answer 5

I went through that when I was married. It very well could be that the stresses of life (including your living arrangements) are weighing on him. It could be he's depressed and/or frustrated about things that have nothing to do with you. Women are conditioned to think that men want sex all the time and if they don't, then they're getting somewhere else or they don't love you anymore. That's not true. Talk to him, but don't push him or complain about it. The way to approach him is to tell him you still think he's sexy and you've been fantasizing about doing it lately. That should get the old juices flowing. DON"T nag at him about it - it will TURN HIM OFF!!!

Answer 6

Men go through stages like this some times,it can be due to stress in his job,or he is worried about something,pamper him a bit,take a weekend away,change the daily routine,surprise him with a day trip,have a dinner party.any of these things might help him,but pushing him and talk about having sex will only make things worse.Hope all works out for you

Answer 7

Maybe the problem is you i mean come on you are saying on one hand you know he's not cheating which is good but then your running him into the ground and calling him stupid

then your saying that you love him to much to do this to someone again you need to look at that

Who wants to have sex with someone that runs them down all the time

Have you ever heard of talking to him about it without running him down

If your running him down on here i can only imagine how you run him down to his face

Now if he were to turn around and say something nasty to you you'd be pissed off so how come it's ok for you to make him feel like crap

GROW UP


If i were a guy i wouldn't have sex with you either with that attitude

Answer 8

First, no pressure. Difficult for a man to feel in the mood when he's pressured. Just relax and make yourself available. Don't push, or pressure or be painfully obvious. Be patient and allow it to be his decision or at least allow him to think it's his decision. Put on make up while your topless and he can sneak a peek or have the towel accidentally for off after a shower. Be indecisive while dressing and change outfits in front of him. Don't get defensive if it takes a few trys. Remember be patient and NO pressure. Don't be a MOM or a boss, no one wants to lay in bed with either. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Hey go on a second honeymoon and stay in a nice motel and have the weekend by yourselves and do anything you and him want to do. But maybe he just doesn't want to do you anymore becasue whether you believe it or not he might be doing someone else. But if you think not well we all have our own opinnions. But ask him if you and him will go on a second honeymoon and one of two things will happen when you tell him that. One he will get all excitted to finally ahve you to himself with no one around and two well he will make some kind of excuse for you and him not to go. SO go ahead and tell him then if I am right that he chooses the second one IM me and tell me.

Answer 10

girl you've been together six years and you got it 1-1/2 months ago, that's not bad! I haven't done my girl for almost 2 years and we've been together almost six years.

I tell her it's because I'm tired and out of shape. The truth is she's out of shape and I'm tired of her.
In fact some women, over time, just grate on your nerves...you love them but in time aren't "in love" with them. Sex isn't worth it anymore.

Show him my response and ask him if I'm right and if there's any hope.

For me, there's no hope unless she gets her body back and dresses haawt and gets the rest of her life together. Sorry, but I want her to be the mysterious stranger I adored not the sister-like nag she's become.