well a year ago i got this great job in a really good business and ever since isatrted there i liked the boss he was so cute so 5 months ago i slept with him and i didnt know he was married with two kids until after. so i left and then i started feeling really sick so i went to the doctor like around the first month and found out i was PREGNANT! and i know it was him because he was the only one i slept with since highschool so i told him and he said that he was going to help out only if i didnt tell his wife (this was 4 months ago) today he came over telling me that he told his wife and she left him and now they are divorced and he got a apartment and he told me how much he did care about me and wanted to help me raise the baby and he left everything to be with me. he left his job his house his kids everything and still deep inside i really still LOVE him but i really dont now what to do i need ome opinoins to help me because i said i will call him later? i need some serious help!
2007-12-13 12:12:50 · 10 answers · asked by Rachael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you genuinely did not know that he was married, no one can be mad at you. But do you want a man that would risk his wife, family and job for an affair? What does that tell you about his character? Not to say that it's not possible that things won't go differently for you, but the chances are not necessarily in your favor.
2007-12-13 12:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would screw over his wife and 2 kids for you, what will he do to you when some other cute little high school graduate goes to work for him?
I would trust him as far as you could throw a truck load of blue whales hon.
Just tell him you want the child support and he can set up visitation.Wait until after his divorce is final and YOU see the papers and talk to his ex, THEN if you still have feelings then do what you want.
2007-12-13 12:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately your first mistake was sleeping with the boss. He now has nothing. Sorry to say but I don't think your relationship will last. He probably won't bring you around his family because he's embarassed about cheating on his wife, secondly his kids will resent you if you two do stay together.
In any advent, I would definitely let him take care of me. You didn't make the baby yourself so you shouldn't have to take care of it yourself. Let him help you take him back and try to make the most out of a bad situation.
2007-12-13 12:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by hlppls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that would cheat on his wife would cheat on you, but since you guys are already in this mess...why not give him a shot? He's your babies daddy, and altho it's unlikely that he will stay faithful to you, at least you gave it a chance.
2007-12-13 12:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lexpressive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sue the b@st@rd for sexual harassment and child support. Man like that ought to be outed, you probably weren't the only one...poor ignorant wife of his!
p.S. Be careful going to him, he might have you disappear if he's wealthy or desperate man!
2007-12-13 12:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Bent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only decent thing you wrote, is that you DO NEED HELP.
Go ahead, marry him, have the kid, start a life together and in a couple of years the next secretary will take him away from you!!!
2007-12-13 12:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by suehellen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will probably cheat on you. Sorry to give you bad news but I think that if the cheat once they will cheat again.
2007-12-13 12:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is the man you want to be with? Just think if he'll do this to his wife what's makes you think he want do it to you.
2007-12-13 12:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he will cheat on you with someone else they always do....so maybe if you can handle it go for it but, if you can't handle it I'd not start a relationship....good luck....
2007-12-13 12:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you girlfriend?
2007-12-13 12:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋