My and my wife are in the process of divorcing, She just recently lost her job and is very depressed. When i first talk to her she said that will only see my daughter when she says so. I pay child support.She refuses to signed the divorce papers she just gives me such a hard time, then she starts to open up and tells me that she been feeling like killing herself.She said that she filed for bankruptcy and she will lose her car.she said that she hated me sometimes and sometime she dont. I felt very sad about that. And the arguing stopped, and well talked regular. She said that she feel uncomfortable with men and little girls(she doesn't know y), that y she gives me a hard time about seeing my daughter. Can my wife do this?
2007-12-13 14:21:59 · 10 answers · asked by ace82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lefted me and said she loved another man. I gave her 10,000 dollars the last time she was in financial trouble. I always offer help but she simple refuses. She moved out my apt and went back to her mothers house.this is the seconf time she left me. the first was during a military deployment. she also broke the relationship with me. I didnt want her to lose her car, she simple cannot make the payments and it will be reposed. she doesnt want any help for me because i helped her before , so she refueses. she has alot of pride.
2007-12-13 14:39:50 · update #1
No. If you have a visitation order from the court (which you should have if you already have a support order), your ex cannot change the terms of the visitation on her own. If she does, she can be held in contempt of court. But I would be careful. It sounds like she might be unstable enough to accuse you of molesting your daughter. You should make sure you have family members around when you have time with your daughter to guard against that. I would also document her statements about wanting to kill herself, etc. You may need to go back to court and request custody based on her mental state.
2007-12-13 14:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so much to this story you are not telling! Wow, first why would you want the mother of your child without a car. She lost her husband and her job within a very short time, she has a lot to be depressed about. Because you are paying child support you feel that takes you off the hook for everything else, it does not, your child is still in that house. She told you she feels like killing herself, not one time are you concerned with getting your daughter out of the situation, you are concerned about seeing your child a few hours for visitation....Man the Hell Up! Get another job, until she can get on her feet, offer to take 100% responsibility of the child to help her out, do something! Hell I dont even know you and I want a divorce,,,,,,
2007-12-13 22:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your custody agreement and the law of the state that you live in. A lawyer that practices family law should be able to help you. A lot of areas have a program called legal aid if you are worried about costs. You may want to look that up in your phone book to try to find a lawyer and get a consultation (Sometimes the local court administrator's office will have the number). Good luck!
2007-12-13 22:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by fishfry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a court order saying that you have visitation then you can take your daughter when it is your time and she can't stop you. You can file papers if she doesn't let you see her. But if no order is in place yet then you need to have one put into place. If you think that she may kill herself then you should try to get custody of your daughter until she gets help.
Good Luck
2007-12-13 22:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she cant but in the divorce decree it needs to state visits for the child, support for the child. but you may want to seek temporary full custody since mom is unstable mentally, emotionally, and financially. just go and petition the court and give them the reasons why you seek custody and you should get her at least til mom gets herself together on all levels. but she can not stop you from seeing the child. get a lawyer if you have too. but fight for the relationship with the child regardless of you and mom issues. GodBless
2007-12-13 22:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First as you are still married you have full custody with her and can see your kid any time you want.
Second if she files while you are still married it goes on your credit report and you are in bankruptcy with her. You may end up paying her debt.
Third she has repressed memories of being sexually abused and needs counseling.
2007-12-13 22:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pay child support you are entitled to visitation. Your ex sounds like she is just trying to hold onto you.
2007-12-13 22:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has she went though first, you gotta understand her. I know yall know how to talk like people somebody has to get off there high horse and level with each other. wish you luck.
2007-12-13 22:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to be talking to your attorney about this.
Second, you need to involve the police next time she references suicide.
Finally, if you haven't learned it yet, learn it now.... you cannot control her.
Good luck.
2007-12-13 22:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can keep your kid from you.. Its not right and you will have to go to court to get them to force her to let you see the child..
2007-12-13 22:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by boohoo1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋