around or screwing around with someone in another room, because he couldn't find me. we've booth had a history of infidelity, in the past. he is a very jealous guy, to start with. near the end of the night, after most had left, i foud him in another room having sex. i didn't walk in, but went outside with the girl's husband. we talked until i could calm down. that was in august. like i said, this isn't the first time either of us have cheated on the other. now....after therapy and mental hospitalization for myself, we are planning on moving outof state to live closer to family, hoping the support will aid us in healing.
but what if i can't ever have sex with him gain because of the pain of all this? has anyone else been through this type thing? can the marriage lst ? also, we have 3 kids and want them to be happy, that's the other reason we are working on this.
2007-12-13 02:22:37 · 12 answers · asked by 723 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have not done so already, you need to get into marriage counseling. There is no other good advice that you will find on this website. Find a counselor, and both of you need to participate if your marriage can be salvaged.
2007-12-13 02:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he thought you were having sex, so he thought having sex too would make him feel better.And you were not having sex he just thought you were having sex.So this girl was having sex with your husband and you and her husband was standing there watching.Did the girls husband walk in and kick the **** out of your husband?You said this is the first time either of us have cheated on the other you saying you cheated too?Or you were the good girl and he was the only one that cheated.So you ended up in therapy and mental hospitalization for yourself after you saw him having sex with another women.And you said he is a very jealous husband and thinks you are playing around behind his back.Ok so you are moving a way from the place you were in to get a way from the place it happened in .And you are moving out of state to be closer to family hoping the can aid you both in healing.Healing starts with you geting over what happened and geting on with your like.To heal is to forgive,to forgive is to forget let the hurt go and injoy your three kids.You have all the right to cut him off from sex but what about you.You going to stop having sex because he had sex with another women.You asked if anyoneelse had the same type of thing.Yes I have but it was my wife who cheated on me but I didn't need all that you went through.therapy and mental hospitalization I took her back because I loved her to much to let it brake my soul and heart.You need to let it go and start a new life as a family he payed for his cheating by seeing your brake down and going through what you did.Just be a family and let it go because you still love him and need him in your life.If you need a friend that knows how you feel look me up we can talk and try to help you through this.mark_singer25@yahoo.com
2007-12-13 03:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the outside affairs are more out of revenge than anything.
Do you really think your kids don't know what's going on between you two?
Once adultery has been introduced into a marriage, it's never the same. And since you both have a history of it, then apparently you don't love or respect one another so why stay married?
2007-12-13 02:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"near the end of the night, after most had left, i foud him in another room having sex. i didn't walk in,"
You are a stronger woman than me.
I would of went in that room and killed the both of them.
Personally I could not stay with a man that had so little regard for me- heck, he screwed another women while YOU WERE IN THE SAME HOUSE!
This HAS to be a joke....I can't believe this.......I'm sorry.....
2007-12-13 02:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Violation Valerie X 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
counceling is a start and decide if it is worth the pain. Many stay together because of the kids and the kids are the ones who end up suffering the most. Kids see everything no matter how good you try to make it look.
2007-12-13 02:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either get away from each other, join a swing club. Where there is no cheating, its all 4 all. Just quit the sneaking around!!
2007-12-13 02:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, needless to say that isn't something new for him to be together with his buddies. strange, at NYE yet possibly no longer for the the two one in all you. i could be with buddies in the event that they intend to occasion at residing house. particularly, i'm residing house on my own, too. i do no longer concepts. in case you opt to be with buddies, you are able to consistently say; i'm attempting to get pregnant and if I particularly have a splash 2 week previous in the oven; i do no longer elect it eating alcohol. Or, you are able to desire to assert; i do no longer elect to drink anymore. i'm sorry that adult men are insensitive. He could be bored and depressing making cupcakes on NYE at a similar time as his buddies are eating and having a physically powerful time. My ? could be "what is going to or no longer it extremely is like after the child is born?"
2016-10-11 05:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as valarie said this is a joke right. you knew he was fu*king another bi*ch and you just walked outside with her husband.
wow you should have then took her husband in the room and let him see what was happening, or you did not tell us all the story you and he started fu*king?
2007-12-13 02:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by badgirlsbadboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like you guys should not get married at all. if he is jealous of you talking to other guy, it time to leave him and move on. you don"t want to hang out with a cry baby.
2007-12-13 02:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by LEXUSRY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once somebody has cheated, it's not a marriage anymore.
2007-12-13 03:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋