I met a man a little over a year ago. We hit it off and he moved into my house about 4 months ago. Shortly after I started to find little signs that he was smoking pot. I confronted him and he said he didn't do it very often not to worry about it. I'm total against it and will not allow it in my house or around my daughter. He brushed it off. I insisted that I won't tolerate it. For a wile I didn't see anymore signs but kept my eyes open. Last week I found little pot on the desk in my bedroom. We work different shifts so we don't see each other during the week. I confronted him again and told him I wanted him to leave. I can't except the sneaking around behind my back when I flat out told him I wanted nothing to do with it and he must have had it in my house again. My problem is that he said this is his residence and I have to go to court and get a 30 day eviction notice like he was a tenant. I live in FL. and don't know the laws. Do I have to do all that? Please help
2007-12-13 01:21:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for all the answers. It is my house, I own it, not him. He agreed to pay $100 a week to help with the expences but has only paid me $200 in 3 months time. I would love to change the locks and put his stuff on the curb but will the law come by and say he has the right to live there. I would have to eat crow and let him back in. I can't do that and save face.
2007-12-13 05:48:58 · update #1
I live in Florida. I'am a property manager. Unfortunarely for you, he is right. However, he forgot to mention the fact that most courts, when it comes to endagering a child due to drugs, will speed up the process and you can get him out in 7 days. Hand write a nothe to him, giving him 7 days "with Cure" to comply. Make sure you date stamp it. After 7 days give him another 7 days notice "with out cure" (These are the proper terms),,,After your second letter, you can evict him legally. If you have any more questions, please email me. I can help you...good luck.
2007-12-13 01:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the laws in Florida but you can start learning by filing a complaint with your local police department. This situation is more than a landlord asking a tenant to leave, this man has violated a law and their is a minor in the home that the law will consider. He sounds manipulative and has no sense of respect for you, your home or your child. Do not let him manipulate you, from what he said, it sounds as if this is not the first time he has pulled this on others to be able to use them and get his way. Please, next time, be careful of what type of men you bring into your home. Your daughter's welfare should be first priority, and bringing the pot head into your home has made an unhealthy living environment for her. Get him out and get the law to help you. Best of luck to you!
2007-12-13 10:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, you going to fall for that a lie! Ask yourself these questions and him too.
1) did he fill out an application to move in your home?
2) Were there a Security Deposit and an Administrative Fee or Processing Fee.
3) what are you charging him for rent per month?
4) Does he have his own room or the two of you share the bed? If he sleeping with you, is that also in the application that he fill out?
If I understand your situation that he move in with you because the two of you felt something there as boyfriend and girlfriend, not as landlord and tenant. Just tell him to find himself another place to go and be done with it. If he refuse to leave get some of your tough male friends to come over and throw his butt out. Or get the police to do it. Don't let him pull this over your head and used you. He move in as your lover and not a tenant. So you don't need to go to any court to have his butt out of your house.
2007-12-13 09:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to call the cops and tell them he wont leave and that the relationship is over it is your home and he needs to leave they will escort him out then go to your county court and find out for sure if this is indeed something that you need to do. If not then file a restraining order and get his things out of the house. If there is a law that you do have to evict him then get the eviction going I think the normal time to give him is 30days give him that time to find another place but meanwhile you should take your kid and find a place to stay at until he is completely moved out. Iv never heard of having to evict someone that is living with you in relationship style expect that this maybe just a tactic to let him stay. Research all resources. Good luck!!!!
2007-12-13 09:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ah, this is child endangerment... I see a few options here, try them all! 1st... call children's services... this is child endangerment... 2nd... call the police, they can arrest him for possession, possibly sale, too... 3rd... pack his stuff... throw it on the curb, he's breaking the law, and you are abedding a law breaker...
oh, and don't forget to do this while there is some proof of the crap around somewhere... =)
so... do all 3, not necessarily in any order =)
good luck! =)
he's basically laughing in your face by doing this anyway... such a disrespectful man... an idiot... who deserves to be alone! and not around your daughter...
I disagree w/ the property manager up there... because of the weed and a child involved I believe you can get him out today...
2007-12-13 09:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...hes right. You've landed a class "A" scumbag. Get the papers ready and have him served. Expect him to either (A) trash the place before leaving or (B) Be ripped off of every electronic device and anything else of value in the home.
A word to the wise....next time evaluate "hitting it off" with someone alittle more closely next time. You'll find this experience is going to be a tough lesson learned.
2007-12-13 09:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call the cops and have him removed from the property. He sounds psycho anyway. Tell them he keeps doing drugs and you fear for your daughter's and your safety. A restraining order will work. If he moved into your house, I am sure he has no rights. Change the locks while he is at work, and put his stuff in the front yard. Good luck!
2007-12-13 09:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Toss him out. Put the burden of using the legal system on him. Even if its not a legal eviction, force him to be one who has to go to the judge and pay for an attorney. See if he wants his dirty laundry brought up in court. This scumbag is bluffing you, force his hand.
2007-12-13 09:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do i use to live in FL. and i try getting my brother out that is what the cops had told me to do. Now if you two work different shifts,while he is at work CHANGE ALL THE LOCK ON THE HOUSE GET LOCKS FOR THE WINDOWS AND PUT HIS CRAP OUT SIDE.And when he comes home trys to get in call the cops and say he is breaking in your home.But then go down and GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM AFTER YOU CHANGE THE LOCKS......I WISH YOU LUCK
2007-12-13 10:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now don't tell me your that stupid to believe that B.S? Pack up all his things, put them into a garbage bag and put it out to the curb. Call him up at work and tell him to pick up his things at the curb and never, never, never call you or come to your home again else you will get a restraining order.
2007-12-13 12:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋