Ok, so most of you knowhow hectic Christmas time can be. From Christmas at your own house, to Christmas at your parents to Christmas at HIS parents. Well, I'mone of those people that doesn't like a lot of chaos. Honestly, I'd just perfer to stay at home. But since that isn't an option what can I do to make Christmas dinner (and all the normal holiday traditions( go by faster. His parents say I don't talk enough (when honestly they aren't quiet enough for two seconds for anyone to talk( While I like his family...they can be overbearring. I really would like some ideas on how to get through this another year.
Sadly every year at Thanksgiving I spend/pass the time by planning outrageous excuses to get outta Christmas. haha.
P.S. Drinking isn't an option this time, oh boy.
2007-12-13 03:58:34 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ Baby on board ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wHEN i SAY OVERBEARRING, THE DO STUFF LIKE, IF THE BABY IS NAPPING THEY WILL WAKE HIM UP. tHEY EXPECT A CERTAIN "PRICE" GIRFT AND IF THEY THINK THEY SPENT MORE ON YOU THEN THEY WILL CALL YOU OUT. mY MOTHER IN LAW IS CONSTANTLY ON EVERYONE ABOUT EATING, AND i PROMISE, IF i HAVE TO SIT AT THE KIDDY TABLE ONE MORE YEAR, iLL SCREAM!
2007-12-13 04:09:30 · update #1
Oh man! I feel your pain! I would prefer to stay home with my kids and avoid all the in-laws too ! What to do? I have found that if I take "breaks", it seems to help. For example, tell yourself that every hour, you are going to go hide somewhere and get a break from the "celebration". Maybe you have to take a phone call, go outside with the kids to look for reindeer, even a bathroom problem will work here. Youre not alone, good luck. :)
2007-12-13 06:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is always an option if you are smart about it. Been there, done that. Here's what I did.
When I was first married I hated driving out of town to visit with his parents, or my parents. We worked all the time and I hated spending the day in the car. I started hosting a "Thank You" open house for my mother in law (my mother refused to participate) and invited her friends and our friends to an open house in her honor for all she did for us in the year. She actually was a good mom in law, so it was easy. I got to stay home, we had a big party and they couldn't complain about us not coming there.
My mother devised a Christmas eve family get together years ago, and its a total pain in the rear. When my kids were growing up I either had to fit it in around my work schedule and everything else you have to do for kids (I never slept a Christmas eve until the kids were in college), and if we didn't come my father would call and accuse me of ruining my mothers entire Christmas. Finally, I just put my foot down and go when I can.
So the best you can do is figure out a way to stay home, even if that means you host the parties. Its worth it. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-13 12:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I'm with you on this one! I am dreading Christmas day at my mother-in-law's house. And, like you, I have been trying to invent ways to get out of it but so far have come up with nothing that will be convincing. I guess we're going to have to just try to grin and bear it. Spend time with the little kids if in doubt---that's what I always do. I attach myself to my hubby's nieces and nephew or I find a quiet place in the formal living room to sit, or I just plop down next to my hubby on the couch so I don't have to deal with anyone else. Fortunately, nobody stays over there very late so it works out.
2007-12-13 12:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what I do, get there late, then you don't have to deal with it for a long time
Sometimes I even hop houses and hit the inlaws last, again shortening the visit.
2007-12-13 12:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!!
These people are disrespecting you.
You need to straighten that **** out for
your own self respect.
Will your husband back you up?
If you go, you need to have a way to leave if they persist in their disrespect.
They won't like it, but they'll get the idea.
2007-12-13 12:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl, you sound just like me!!!!! All I've ever been able to do is grin and bear it knowing that it will end and I will be able to go home! If you find the answer let me know!
2007-12-13 12:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Emanon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, your inlaws sound like horrible people, I am sorry. If drinking is not an option, how about drugs? Just this once?
2007-12-13 13:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband you want to stay at home this year.
Rotate the holidays,one year your family, one year his family, one year no family.
As for complaining about gifts, then get them nothing.
2007-12-13 12:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by C>/ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until kids arrive you just grin and bear it. After you have kids you can start your own traditions.
2007-12-13 12:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I feel you! Inlaws are Outlaws in my book also!
2007-12-13 12:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Little Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋