2007-12-13 05:28:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find out the reason why he drinks so much and deal with that issue. His drinking is merely a symptom of a deeper issue.
2007-12-13 05:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him so ultimatums like its me or the booze. Get some help or I'm gone. No more sex until you get a handle on your drinking. Really tell him that you cannot live with a drunk all the time and if he doesn't stop and seek AA then you have no other recall then to end the marriage.
If you haven't said anything to him then how does he know you have a problem with this.
2007-12-13 05:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have many choices open to you. There are many women who have had to sort out these difficult problems. I'd lean on and draw from the experience of this large group of women and men. I would recommend attending Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis as a good start. It only takes a hour a week. People are very accepting. They're not prying. They're glad to share their lives. They're glad to share what they've learned. They are glad to listen if you feel you want to share. They have excellent literature that is a combination of the experiences of many spouses who have found themselves in the position you find yourself in now. They know your pain. They will share what they have found that works for them. They are not dogmatic. The won't make you commit to some creed. There are no dues. It could be the best move you ever make for yourself. I know it was for me.
http://www.al-anonfamilygroups.org/meetings/meeting.html
You may very well find a contact number in the blue pages of your local yellow pages that could get you a listing of the Al-Anon meetings in your area.
2007-12-13 15:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem with his drinking I would suggest that you seek out an Al-Anon meeting because I have yet to met anyone who can actually get their husband to quit drinking so much...
2007-12-13 05:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start putting a lot of Visene or other eye drops in the booze.
It will cause him to have the runs.
If he goes to bars right after work, give the police a description of your car and license plate #, and tell them to do a sobriety check on him.
It's drastic, but it's your little secret.
2007-12-13 05:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out what the underlying problem(s) is that he is having. If he won't open up to you, get all his friends to confront him about the drinking. If all else fails, you need an intervention. Best of luck.
2007-12-13 05:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, sweetie. It must be their choice, otherwise, they will just find a way to be sneakier and will take bigger chances to find the opportunity to drink.
My parents and now, a few sisters, have this particular problem. Don't sacrifice yourself, your safety and well being by thinking you can save him, it will only cause disappointment and it's never a healthy thing.
I wished I had a magic answer.
2007-12-13 05:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he drinks, smash him with the beer bottle over his head, tell him every beer he has after that, this is what is going to happen, see how long it lasts.
2007-12-13 05:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rhyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk is cheap, and it takes action to move mountains! He has to want to quit for himslf, or it will never work, unfornately, when people get sobe/straight they find their realitonships wasn't really what they wanted in the 1st place!! How far are you willing to go to get him thinking!!
2007-12-13 05:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It's up to him to stop drinking. You can express your feelings about it, offer to get him some help, etc., but unless he recognizes it as a problem and wants to stop on his own, you can't "make" him do anything.
2007-12-13 05:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋