for MEN only: Would you stil love your partner even if she gained weight?

Question

Or you would eventually get turned off? Do you secretly wish you were with someone sexy and slim? Only honest answers pls! Thanks. 10 points to the best answer.

gained weight means got fat all over! rounded face, big legs and arms.. in other words, not as thin as she used to be when you met her..thanks!

Answer 1

it obviously depends on what your partner looked like before...if she goes from 150 to 250 i am sure my sex drive would go down and some visual aides would come to play...but if she just gained a few pounds for whatever reason that wouldnt stop me from wanting to do her 3 times a day...

Answer 2

Charles is so right about some ppl being attractive on the outside and ugly on the inside. They don't care how they go about getting what they want as long as their own selfish needs are met. This depends on an age group as to what kind of answer you'll get. I know when I was younger and inexperienced, I would have said that the weight does matter. But now that I'm wiser I don't care as much about the excess weight. I may find an overweight guy attractive based on what he's like on the inside. He may be a big teddybear inside...warm, cuddly and romantic. :) You shouldn't judge people according to size...and this doesn't go for just romantic relationships.

Answer 3

Think about it...I loved my wife when she was pregnant. I had a little something to do with that. I loved my wife when a much needed medication caused extra pounds to pile on..What part of my wife is less lovable here?..Do I eventually get turned off?....LOVE turns ME on.
But is there a chance I would sooner or later find this too unattractive to stimulate a physical sexual chemistry?.Of course.. physical chemistry is what it is and there's no loving your way around it. And this could lead to secret sexual fantasy thinking...which if it can ignite a lovemaking fire with my wife,,,,might just be a very healthy and helpful thing for a marraige.
But before I even THINK about some condescending attitude towards my more weighty wife...I need to take a good long look in the mirror.....then ask the real tough question.."What's my part in this?"

Answer 4

it would all count on how lots weight. If she went from a narrow a hundred and twenty-30 to a huge 2 hundred, that could desire to be a huge substitute and could make a difference. yet whilst she basically won 20 pounds or something like that, that would not remember in any respect. i'm an athlete and workout consultation addicted guy, so there is no way my spouse/gf might income weight because of the fact I wouldnt enable her, if she did a technique or the different, O properly.

Answer 5

Love should not be based on physical attractiveness alone. People gain weight as they age. It is a verifiable fact of modern living. Typically, it's 10 pounds per decade. In most cases, it is the husband who is responsible for the wife's weight gain if pregnancy is the reason she's gained the weight. Why would a man not love his wife if he was responsible for her weight gain in the first place? Love is much more than skin deep.

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Answer 6

Well......yes. In a sense. Certainally we'd all like to see our spouse stay trim/fit and be a sexual acrobat in bed. But lets face it...age and than funny thing called gravity take control and unless you have loads of money for cosmetic surgery and then work 4 to 6 hours a day excercising the weight gain happens to a lot of us.
Doesn't mean I'd love someone any less. After all....I didn't marry you solely for your body. Personality, compatibility and security still reign supreme.

Hey...anyone ever tell you that you have a great backside? No? Well...now someone has.

Thanks.

Answer 7

Love is much deeper that looks so if my partner gain weight I wouldn't get turned off. Now if she became obese then I would do everything I can to trim her down. This would most importantly for her health and then her looks. But a women with only a few pounds is actually nice compare to a women with her shoulder bones and ribs sticking out.

Answer 8

Yes I would , and did. She was very big, but that's not what I saw. She fought with the weight for years,had a gastric bypass. Lost lots of weight, looks wonderful... Found a boyfriend,says she has been unhappy for years. Divorced me.I still love her, wonder if the boyfriend would about a 100 pounds ago?

Answer 9

Her weight gain was porportional to our children. The feelings have not changed over the years. As for the weight gain, I beleive I gained some myself, at least as noticed on 2 pant sizes.
Many moons ago, we both decided to loose that extra luggage.

Answer 10

First of all, being sexy and slim is not the same thing (to me). I find a woman with nice curves and items to hold on to very sexy. Second, love is not a function of body mass but of mutual attraction and loyalty. Third, when you talk of sexual attraction - yes, a great weight increase can reduce attractiveness (in both sexes, I would assume), but still that would not be a reason for me to stop loving my partner. I would rather try to help her get back to a figure that we both feel comfortable with.

Answer 11

I'm going through that with my wife as we speak. I love my wife but after two kids she just keeps gaining weight. And I think she is even heavier now then whe n she was pregnant. It is getting to be a huge problem in our relantionship! I am no body builder, but at least I try to maintain the same wieght and clothes size. It seems like every 6-12 months she is buying new clothes saying they don't fit, blaming me that I shrunk them in the laundrey. I am at a loss, I do not know what to do!