end up feeling remorse at some point in the future and realize the lives they devestated (spouse, family, friends)... or do most live in la la land for the rest of their life?
Just curious... I ask because wife (23) is currently living with the guy (21) she cheated on me with.. been 2 months... doesn't seem one bit sorry she screwed up my life, and her families lives. Curious if one day a person that can just walk away ever feel regret
2007-12-13 04:40:26 · 32 answers · asked by BlaBla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's found a way to justify the pain she's caused. It's possible she'll feel remorse one day. Actually if the guy dumps her she'll definitely feel sorry enough for herself that she'll call it remorse...
2007-12-13 04:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statistics say that no, most people who cheat do not actually regret it. Many, who are caught (and receive just due) are regretful of being caught, but not of the actual act itself. There are exceptions to every rule but...you know. Thing is, at some point in our lives most of us will take a moment to look back on things we've done and possibly how we could have done them differently, and usually this happens when we are at a difficult time in our lives which we sort of brought ourselves to. However, I think what you're asking here, is "will she ever be sorry she hurt me like she did." Chances are, she is, to some extent, already sorry. Not enough to make amends, obviously, but a part inside of her knows when something is wrong. We all do.
It's also possible that you might be asking "will she come crawling back," and the answer to that lies only with her.
Sadly, I will have to agree that she's probably moved on and is content. For now. Might she come back? Possibly. It would seem that commitment isn't something she's quite ready to do yet, so yes, there's always the possibility that just as she left you she will leave him. I would, however, recommend that if she does come back, and you decide to take her back, you do so with the clear understanding that "do it once, and you will probably do it again." This way, if it happens again, at least you're forewarned. Personally, I wouldn't take such a person back but each of us is different with different levels of tolerance.
In closing I want to tell you that you are a special person within your own right and you should go out there and find the person who deserves you. Stop brooding over one who doesn't.
Good luck and be blessed.
2007-12-13 04:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by ShyeWolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone makes a conscious decision to cheat their significant other, they're only cheating themselves out of being honest and true about their relationship with that person. Once they have cheated, they may feel remorse if they still want to be with that person, but if they choose to leave for good, they may feel justified. However, there are no good reasons to cheat, ever. If a relationship isn't working, you either work on it or get out before you start looking around.
Don't let her spoil your life, hon. You deserve better than to wallow in the spoils she's left you in. She moved on, you should do the same. But it's a pretty recent blow so take time to really reflect on yourself and what you want from a future relationship. Hope this answer helps. :)
2007-12-13 05:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all the time, but most do. In the end, she may wish she would have stayed. For one, relationships start off with cheating will have a hard time trusting each other. One day she may really see what this guy is all about or fall out of la la land. May be going though it now but just do not know it.
2007-12-13 04:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by pecantantwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated because he did, and I left because he was abusive and cruel. Do I regret???...Hell NO! F**k regret. The only thing I regret is ever meeting him. I hate him, even though we had 3 kids together, and our families were torn, he should have told me before he proposed marriage that he was already married and that he didn't think to get the divorce before he married me. He should have thought about cheating on me when I was 9 months pregnant and then handing me 50 dollars when she was 3 weeks old and telling me that he didn't love me anymore, and that I had to leave with my 2 little girls! Does he regret? He does now! LMFAO! Now that I've lost 60 pounds and I'm post-cancer. He can go to H*LL! Thats how I see it. Karma comes back around. And if you were a good man to her?...She will get what is coming to her>Guarenteed! Then u can sit back and laugh like me.
2007-12-13 04:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cheaters feel remorse, some don't. What I have found is most cheaters figure out that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence and they usually figure this out when their partners find someone else and move on. Then they want to come home.
2007-12-13 05:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by blondspitfire 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that cheaters ever realize the hurt or pain that they cause. I don't think they even care. I have been divorced for 26 years and my ex still thinks that he did not do anything wrong - he is just sorry that he got caught - he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. Honey - you are too young to let this idiot screw up your life. Try to be strong and know that this new guy didn't win any prize. if she cheated on you, she will cheat on him. Find someone who appreciates you for the good and decent human that you are and don't think twice. In the end - they all get what they deserve.
2007-12-13 05:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Babycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would NOT give her the power to, as you say....."screwed up my life". I doubt that she will ever feel guilty for what she did, and this is because she is not mentally mature enough to understand what she did, nor has she matured enough to put herself in someone Else's shoes, and think about what it did to them. You got married too early, Next time wait until you are about 28-30. get your live together, save money, travel, etc. have fun being single. But don't give her the power to screw your life up, move on, and be glad that it happened early enough in the marriage and that you are young enough that you can do all the things that I mentioned b4.
2007-12-13 04:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will feel remorse when he kicks her to the curb or cheats on her. Make sure all of her friends/family know what's she doing and I would file a law suite on the ****** for alienation of affection and if it's a co-worker of hers I'd file a suite against the company as well. Make her life a living he11.
2007-12-13 04:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ray D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you have that moment on whether to cheat or not....you have a choice...you obviously didnt take into consideration everyone you are hurting...so that is why I believe cheaters dont have remorse....they only think about themselves and may feel remorse only when it happens to them....you should feel sorry for your ex-wife since she +&*%ed up by ruining a marriage...dont worry....when its too late and she realizes that she messed up she will regret it BUT ONLY because she feels sorry for HERSELF no one else...Good luck...youll find someone better.
2007-12-13 04:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by ClaiReBear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋