Marriage & Divorce - 6 December 2007

What 12 rules would you give that every marriage should look to obtain to be happy together?

2007-12-06 17:28:52 · 11 answers · asked by midget 5

Someone who got married too young for the wrong reasons, and now both persons are not happy in their marriage. They are both still young, and dont have any kids together. They love each other still, but cant seem to work through their problems to make it work because one [or both] parties dont want to be married, or arent motivated to care if it works out or not. Im not sure if it makes sense, but if this is what you got out of it, what would you say? They dont want to do therapy...but they also dont want things to stay the way they are.
Should they just work on their communication a little more? And because of the fact that they do in fact still love each other, does that mean that they still have hope?
Is separation a safe alternative or will that make things worse?
ideas and thoughts please. thanks.

2007-12-06 17:03:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, I know all the business about strip clubs, all the stuff thats not allowed and everything, but my question is for when the strippers come to you.
If it is a bachelor party where say, 4 strippers are at the hotel, is there usually sex involved? From what I have heard some head is the norm. Is this true? Does this occur always, sometimes or rarely?

2007-12-06 17:01:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He grew up with her family since he was born. They haven't seen each other in a long time, and she has lived in Alaska. When I first met him, he chatted with her sometimes, and I was not worried, but suddenly, out of nowhere, they are in contact again, and now he has her number and her daughter's number in his cell phone, and he is chatting with her on Yahoo Messenger. We are having issues maritally, related to his sister disliking me (without any real reason), and it has strained our marriage. Do you think I should worry? I think she called Leann and asked her to get hold of Steven or something. Suddenly, his friend Brian (who is a horrible man who hates me terribly for marrying his friend and taking him away ...which is very childish), came out of nowhere to visit also, after a long time no see. I am afraid his sister is calling these people to run me off. I am really worried about our marriage at this point. There are problems from every angle.

2007-12-06 16:57:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been divorced for 61/2 years, have joint custody w/ my ex of my 11 year old, w/ me holding the primary residence for my son, my ex owes over 20K in child support and medical support and an enforcement hearing is scheduled next month by the Attorney Generals office, but he is now taking me to court next week to request for my son goes to live with him. He has been pressuring my son to say that he wants to go live w/ him, but though my son loves him a lot he wants to live w/ me and see him as much as he can. His dad has been good to him, but has never been involved in his school or extra curricular activities, couldn't tell you his teacher, doctor, friends names etc.... Does he have a chance to take him if he can persuade my son to say that he wants to go? He has requested a social study, which I beleive will be in my favor, my only fear is that he can get my son to say that he wants to go with him. Please advise.

2007-12-06 16:42:54 · 10 answers · asked by ad 3

I told my ex we can not continue with our friends with benefits relationship because I deserve to be with someone who will not use me.He said he is not using me, and I think he really believes that hes not.I do have to see him often because we have a daughter together, he usually comes down on the weekends to visit.Why does he think hes not using me?Please help me figure this one out.We were together for 6 years, but he has anger issues so I had to leave him (no he did not abuse me or my daughter in any way). How do I make him understand that he is really just using me, maybe hes just comfortable with being with me intimately, but I need to move on, he said he could never love anyone ever again.What do you think about all this?

2007-12-06 16:39:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Decision making requires weighing pros and cons and then going with what in your opinion is the right thing regardless how the choice may affect others.

2007-12-06 16:35:24 · 8 answers · asked by snookums 4

My husband went for a haircut today, the song "crank" was playing on the radio and the hairdresser who happens to be a lady started discussing with my husband how she wondered what "superman that ho" meant, so she went online and checked it out and told him what it means .To whoever doesn't know what that means (when you ejaculate on a girls back then put a blanket on her so when she stands up the blanket sticks therefore making her look like she has a cape: coppied from urbandictionar.com) My husband came and told me that and I was furious, I thought it was EXTREMELY inappropriate that a girl discusses this topic with a customer, and I started accusing my husband that he gave her the chance to say such a thing. Because if it were me, I won't let another man discuss such a topic with me. Do you think I'm making such a deal out of nothing????

2007-12-06 16:30:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i do so much for my family, my wife, my kid but my wife keeps nagging and fault finding for nothing. she always compares with people and find other husbands as great.
offlate, this has become a habit and when i discussed this with my close frineds , i realised that this is quite a common problem with all the men, when their women feel insecurity that the men don't do as much , as they are supposed to do.

why god made women as an unsatisfied creature

2007-12-06 16:25:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-06 16:19:53 · 4 answers · asked by da da 1

Okay, so I'm not married and have never been married but being as that I am a 30 year old woman, I think about it from time to time. I remember hearing that an engagement ring should cost 2-3 months of the mans salary. I'm assuming most people coordinate some sort of payment plan but I really don't know. What is the rule, is there a rule, how do you decide how much to spend, and what do most women expect?

2007-12-06 16:19:35 · 35 answers · asked by laura1977 5

If you are in a marriage and your spouse REFUSES to have sex with u and does not want to see a counselor. Is this a good reason to get a divorce?

2007-12-06 16:15:04 · 18 answers · asked by cyberdoggy420 1

Is it possible to have a healthy, trusting relationship with a husband/wife without having sex in your marriage?

I'm 24 yo and someday I'd like to be married, but I have many insecurities about my body (heavy, cellulite, excessive hair). I'm very embarassed by my body and don't think intimacy is possible for me. I've been called terrible names (ie. hairy beast) and have gotten funny looks and hurtful comments (you're a bad kisser) in the past.

2007-12-06 16:05:17 · 20 answers · asked by sneakyme_69 1

My wife is moving out and living with her nan, but she'll be spending weekends at our place

we agreed some time apart each week will benefit each other and maybe help our relationship.

my question is, what can I do around the house or to myself (like work out) to show my wife that I love her with all my heart and care about her, should I maybe refurnish the house or cook her a nice meal or something?

2007-12-06 16:03:19 · 21 answers · asked by TedRoy 5

2007-12-06 15:58:08 · 10 answers · asked by Prabhu V 1

2007-12-06 15:56:41 · 9 answers · asked by da da 1

I love my husband dearly, but he suffers from sever anxiety and OCD issues that have taken over his true personality. He has become angry and miserable. For the past year he has been on and off medications and will not consistently take them. He NEEDS to consistently take them. He has been verbally abusive for a good 6 months. We haven't spoken in 2 weeks.... I've been sleeping on the couch. I know this isn't the true person he is and that the anxiety is taking over him....but when is enough, enough. He honestly is a very caring and passionate man and I know he loves me deeply. When he stays consistent on his routine, we have a great life together.

We have been together for 10 years and I love him dearly but he is truly regressing. It is getting bad and he will not listen to reason. This truly is a mental illness and I vowed on my wedding day for better or worse...but I am just not willing to be treated this way. I don't know what to do..

2007-12-06 15:48:07 · 18 answers · asked by Keely L 1

why would a 27 year old hit on a 50 year old lady i'm happily married but i was at a ladys house to do something for her she was not there but she said her boyfriend would be and he was asking me if i had ever dated younger men and did i cheat on my husband and he told me he was 27 yrs old why would he ask all of this then his girlfriend came home and he got real quiet like he was affraid i was going to tell her by the way i have a 27 year old son

2007-12-06 15:12:35 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm starting to get worried about myself. I'm 24 and I've never I had a serious relationships with a man. I've only had relationship where I end up having sex (too soon?) with a guy I've fallen head over heels in love with but that doesn't want to commit... with me.

My last relationship was beyond hard. When he left me for a girl he had been seeing for as long as he had known me (one year) but NEVER TOLD ME ABOUT IT, it put me in the deepest and darkest depression I've ever been through.

I've made some progress though because I now accept that we will never be together, fact with which I was in denial for many many months.

The thing I'm worried about is will I be played like this all my life ? My last 4 relationship (first one starting when I was 19) have all had the same pattern.

I feel like I've learned many things, but I've become so fragile and vulnerable, I can't even imagine ever falling in love like that again, I loved him way too much.

In need of some wisdom.

2007-12-06 15:11:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am alcoholic. trying to maintain sobriety. couple slips but getting better. I want to give my wife the security and support that a husband should. She divorced me last year because I didnt meet her emotional needs. she wasnt looking but someone came into her life and and met her needs. a reward from God she thought. I told her it was a test. She said she failed then. I moved on missing her terribly. 4mo later she told me of her mistake. promissed all and would never quit again. 4 mo and filed again. My love and respect for her has grown with every problem we have overcome. I love her unconditionaly. She says she loves me truly but cant risk my possible relapse and her security. Is divorce the only option for her or is it an excuse to leave because her feelings of love for me have changed?

2007-12-06 15:11:00 · 8 answers · asked by Darcy M 1

When I say jealousy, I mean does fear of losing his girlfriend to another man ever motivate a guy to propose marraige to his girlfriend..?? Just curious

2007-12-06 15:08:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 19 my wife and i have had a really rough marriage. But i love her very much. She is sixteen and we are seperating but if we do she will have no where to go and there is a good chance our daughter (whom she was pregnant with when we met) will be taken away from her. So my plan is to stay married and live with her just so she will have a place to stay and our daughter will stay with us. I dont have much money im leagally blind and on a fixed income. Thats y i cant simply buy her a place......deep down inside im not ready to let go...am i setting myself up for heartache knowing she will probally move on before i do.....im confused am i doing the right thing.

2007-12-06 15:06:20 · 6 answers · asked by Mr.Gemini 2

I am a mother in California with not so much as a ticket on my record. I am a well educated chemist and in the process of divorcing this man. He was convicted of domestic violence against me while our 3 yr old son was in my arms. He also has been convicted of possesion of a controlled substance and intent to sell both felonies. As well as multiple DUI convictions. Also he is pending deportation for these crimes. Yet even with my attorney I can not get the county to take his custodial rights away. I know it seems insane, right??? Any suggestions???

2007-12-06 15:05:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-06 15:01:44 · 28 answers · asked by ugetinfo4 f 1

i am moving out we have 6 kids and a grandchild on the way. i still love her. she says she lives me ,but wants to give this guy a chance. she is driving me nuts!!!! what can i do to eleaviate her confusion?

2007-12-06 14:55:26 · 14 answers · asked by mitymite73 1

hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious

2007-12-06 14:48:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Help, go back to school? What do I do? I have spent my life taking care of my kids working two jobs and never really got ahead of all the bills. I have lots of friends but they don't keep me warm at night. My husband is gone so much and he just doesn't understand I need to be with him more. What do I do?

2007-12-06 14:43:58 · 29 answers · asked by ahunners 1

Is it possible to have a healthy, trusting relationship with a husband/wife without having sex in your marriage?

I'm 24 yo and someday I'd like to be married, but I have many insecurities about my body (heavy, cellulite, excessive hair). I'm very embarassed by my body and don't think intimacy is possible for me.

2007-12-06 14:25:38 · 30 answers · asked by sneakyme_69 1

We have 2 children, he can't keep a job, isn't an alchohlic - yet., lies constantly, verbally abusive (used to be physically),mentally exhausting, seems to try then gets distracted, is good at mind games.

2007-12-06 14:14:45 · 17 answers · asked by Lani M 1

A week ago, I sent my ex a text message asking him if he knew what was going on at a local club on New Years Eve. Since then, he's been calling and texting me. We've been apart for a pretty good while now and we ended our relationship on good terms. Today, he sent me a text and asked me if I still loved him. I told him that while he would always be special to me, my feelings for him had changed and all we would ever be was just friends. I told him I was sorry if I had hurt him, but I couldn't help the way I felt. He acted like he was mad (for lack of a better word) that I hadn't fallen back into his arms. He told me I must have never really cared for him and he figured I must already be with someone else. I was trying to let him down easy, but he seemed to be really hurt. He loves me. I ended things with him. Does it sound like I was too harsh with what I told him? I want us to be friends, but only friends. I can't be in a relationship with him. Did I do something wrong?

2007-12-06 14:03:07 · 36 answers · asked by devil_in_disguise 1