Okay, so I'm not married and have never been married but being as that I am a 30 year old woman, I think about it from time to time. I remember hearing that an engagement ring should cost 2-3 months of the mans salary. I'm assuming most people coordinate some sort of payment plan but I really don't know. What is the rule, is there a rule, how do you decide how much to spend, and what do most women expect?
2007-12-06 16:19:35 · 35 answers · asked by laura1977 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Where in this question does it say ANYTHING about me wanting a ring...or about how much I want a guy to spend, or about wanting a HUGE rock???? Boy there are some G-R-U-M-P-Y people up tonight...I hope you have a better day tomorrow. Thank you for the serious answers, it's just a question.
2007-12-06 16:25:38 · update #1
you dont look 30 years old, but if your getting an engagement ring get one that can be joined with the wedding ring and look for a good sale cuz thier is no reason to pay full price, but what ever you can afford would you rather have a fun honeymoon or a big ring
2007-12-06 16:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Draven Kain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is really 2 months salary with a payment plan or him saving. This rule is more financial than anything. He is welcome to spend more or less this is just a guideline for how much he should be able to spare from the jump. Many women expect many different things. Some try to live like celebrities, some would rather have a healthy marriage than a nice ring some want to pick out their own ring etc.... I'm up 4 just about anything as long as it isn't yellow gold (A personal preference, I just find it tacky) You are the only 1 who knows you're expectations. a lot of people don't know enough about diamonds to know if they are getting a good cut anyway. Nowadays some women don't even want a diamond, I have a friend who has a pink heart engagement ring. Sometimes it truly doesn't matter because if u marry a man who isn't established and he becomes successful, he might upgrade your ring. Keep in mind that the most important thing is the union, not the ring hun.
Hope I helped
2007-12-06 16:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by stricklyai_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That 2 months of wages idea was made up by the jewlers so they could make more money. That may be ok for some but it's a real stretch for many.
Additionally, with many accepting the idea of "starter marriages" and your chance of staying married is about 50/50, that can be a lot of payments and interest that very well may outlast the marriage.
Then there is the honeymoon. When it's all said and done, I'm sure it's not unusual for the bills from the divorce attorney to start rolling in long before the last of the credit card payments have been made for the honeymoon.
Do the poor guy a favor. Have reasonable tastes when it comes to a ring. There are better things to go into debt for that will benefit both of you just starting out together. Money struggles are not something that you want to have, especially in the beginning.
Best Wishes
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2007-12-06 16:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One carat weight is very nice and impressive. It should be well under $10,000.00. In fact there are different qualities of diamonds that you can buy for alot cheaper and no one will ever be the wiser. If you are on a limited budget I'd suggest purchasing this at someplace like Wal Mart's jewelry department. You can probably get it there for less than $2,000.00. It's unnecessary to go to a big pricey jewelry store because you dont have to and you will still be getting the real thing. I think Walmart and some other places have a layaway program also. Good Luck to you!!! I'm sure your girlfriend will be thrilled! Hope this advice helped you.
2016-05-21 23:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really seems that the ring should be a quality piece of jewelry that will last, while fitting into the engaged couple's budget. There is no set amount that women should expect men to spend on a ring. Rather, I think couples should be very careful to purchase a piece of jewelry that is within their means.
What matters is what the ring represents, not how big it is or how much is cost. One good point is that a diamond ring is an investment and will appreciate in value. Just make a smart purchase. I would not wish to marry someone who was more interested in impressing me with bling and baubles than keeping the household within budget.
2007-12-06 16:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix: Princess of Cupcakes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a male I look at the situation like this. First, for all those people that say one shouldn't expect a nice ring believe it or not there are people that want to give someone a nice ring. To a certain extent I feel like the sort of ring someone gives is a representation of how much he values her. Sure, it matters more to some people than to other people but the bottom line is I'm not giving her a ring for me . . . get her what she wants. I feel like price is less important than giving her something she wants. What exactly does that mean? It means if she wants a ring that is $2,000 get her that . . . if she wants a ring that is $10,000 give her that. I am about as rational as they come, could $10,000 be better used on a down payment on a home? Sure, but you're talking about engagement, not a birthday present.
2007-12-06 16:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alex F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard 2 months salary was a standard, however not to long ago I heard a salewomen(no doubt on comission) saying
that 6 months salary was appropriatte. the reality is how much
do you want a shiny rock that the jeweler won't buy back for more than 25cents on the dollar when the down payment on a house or a new car might be much more useful.
the truth is the whole diamond industry is built around selling
vain women shiny rocks to show off and since the bigger and more expensive the rock the greater the profit they push the biggest rock you can make payments on.
2007-12-06 16:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by wise old sage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear cms1977,
I have never heard of a rule of what the engagement ring should cost. I have heard the term "rules of engagement", both of these are quite different in nature; I wouldn't say it should cost allot of money but it is a keepsake that (in a woman's eye's) is held sacred to heart. On the other hand, too some women it doesn't mean sh_t. If the man loves you and he wants to marry you and you love him what should it matter? I could say a minimum of $50.00 or I could say $500.00, does this make a difference to you? If it does then you're marrying the wrong man (?). Take that to heart!
2007-12-06 16:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My great uncle was a jewler and the rule is that it should cost no more than 2 months of a man's salary. It was a "tradition" started after men came back from WWII and wanted to start families right away. They usually had about two months salary (military pay)saved so that either paid for a ring or for those who wanted to go BIG...made the downpayment.
2007-12-06 19:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rule abt that. Well I didn't expect a ring that will cost him 2-3 months of his salary which will makes him flat broke and my fiance get me an engagement ring worth $1,500 it's less than even a month of his salary but it's not a big deal as long as he loves me enough then it'll be ok...
2007-12-06 16:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by choco_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋