Marriage & Divorce - 6 December 2007

I'm 25 years old and I've been married for 5 years and we were great from the start like usual. But since the start of this year our marriage has done a complete 180. He confesed he cheated on me with another woman back in june but I forgave him because I love him so much. Instead we've grown distant, so much to the point that for the past 4 month we've had sex 2-3 times max. I have gotten to the point were I don't trust him, I check phone bills just to make sure that there arent any numbers i'm not familiar with and second guess everything he says. This week it got so bad between us that we just about had called it quites but we talked it out and decided to make it work no matter what but to be honest with you I feel the loneliest I've ever been. I feel so alone and to make matters worse, when we agreed to make it work I told him that he has to prove himself to me in a matter of trust and he said I need to prove myself too so we can get our "spark" back. I do want to make this work.

2007-12-06 03:44:19 · 26 answers · asked by Kelly O 2

my husband recently took up on photography as a hobby, he says he wants to become a professional and sell his work. he often spends 3 hours after work, working on his photographs, he says he is "in touch with nature" or something like that, but i think he is gay and this is a way his out help what i do?

2007-12-06 03:41:26 · 31 answers · asked by Hi T 1

Have you ever been in this situation?

2007-12-06 03:40:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex owes me a lot of money and recently, I found out he has been spreading mean lies about me. He is telling people he never loved me, that he used me, etc.......... Anyways, he works for me and his checks come under my name. In the past, when someone did my ex wrong and money was involved, his attitude was to never pay them back and keep their money. Should I do the same here? We are having a family meeting today regarding this ordeal and I have his last check under my name. Should I keep the check and do the same he has done to others? He owed someone 5000 dollars many years ago and never paid him cause he claimed this person said bad things about him. Should he get a taste of his own medicine or just give him all his money and move on????????

2007-12-06 03:37:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is married and his wife suspect something is going on with him. Everything was perfect. I wanted to be the perfect mistress. He pull back but he can't stay away. So I started to pull back. I need ideas from guys what to do. I just want to be his mistress sometimes it feels like he is addicted to me. It's is going on three years. I love him but he was to understand I'm giving up more than him. I'm willing but things has to get back they way they were.

2007-12-06 03:29:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

A woman in a marriage walks away from her children and husband for another man. Once her husband decides to move on she decides she wants him back although she doesn't want to give up the boyfriend. (Sounds kinda like high school doesn't it?)

He starts to get involved then takes her back as she promises to change, etc. Once all the women are out of his life she decides she doesn't love him and then again leaves. This has been ongoing. She refuses to get help of any sort as "she is just fine".

In the marriage relationship she was very abusive to both her husband and children both physically and verbally.

Although he says he is done this time I would like to find the diagnosis and do some research as he is living in an abusive relationship and can't seem to move on. He hates to walk away from all their years of marriage be it good or bad.

What is the diagnosis for this woman?? I had there is a syndrome...related to the fact you don't want something until someone else has it.

2007-12-06 03:22:57 · 19 answers · asked by missfoxieloxie 2

[1]Will i get any indian girl to marry(i want to marry because of reasons other than SEX).

[2]My second question is Do porn stars get respect in your country.Of course in my country they dont get any respect but what about your country.


And thanks in Advance.

2007-12-06 03:13:26 · 21 answers · asked by good.boy999 1

2007-12-06 03:09:59 · 24 answers · asked by penny_penley 1

about some thing but just want believe you!

2007-12-06 03:07:10 · 11 answers · asked by Angel L 3

Ladies when your having whoopie with your man what is too long? when it comes to him finishing! I've had a few times in the pass month where it just would not happen, and we both tried everything.When do u just say ok enough let try tomorrow! 30min,1hr, 2hr...Help me!!

2007-12-06 03:07:03 · 15 answers · asked by gators gutt 1

That you thik you met the one, but he is married

2007-12-06 03:02:44 · 33 answers · asked by rose garden 1

Okay, y'all know the story now. Husband and I separated, for the most part friendly with each other, he's seeing someone.

We want our children to see Momma and Daddy acting in the same way we expect THEM to act, so we're working hard now to keep from being horrible to each other. Early on, though, very soon after he moved out and started dating another woman, there was a blowout, in which he disclosed some information in an email about his new personal life that has burned some really really horrible mental images in my mind. I threw up, then couldn't stop re-reading it for some reason. I finally deleted it.

He feels awful about it, and neither of us are innocent here. I know that. And I forgive him for what he said in a fit of anger.

But now I can't stop thinking of when WE were together, and these mental images keep flashing in my mind of him looking at her the way he looked at me, and seeing them together that way.

I know it'll fade in time but can I make it stop now?

2007-12-06 03:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7

does successful means that,you are able to win peopel`s heart on their perception about you?but how is this possible when ourself can even trust our selve and we know that we are not that perfect in order to wins people..but should we lie to ourselves to win others heart when we know this is only our limit?it seems that when you are likable to everyone you will be a star....because when many doesnt like you will only make people hate and begin to cause you trouble but how can i control l things like that when ourselve have our problem?

2007-12-06 03:00:29 · 8 answers · asked by truth set free 1

are men and women able to have a platonic friendship with any funny business?

2007-12-06 02:51:31 · 13 answers · asked by cocopuff 2

2007-12-06 02:29:21 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a contact who gets badly treated at home. I am scared for her life. (no, I'm not being a drama queen) She is in an abusive relationship. What can I do to help her?

2007-12-06 02:22:27 · 15 answers · asked by Miss T 7

We are going to couples counselling but my husband cannot come to our next appointment. I still want to go. Will the counsellor see me by myself or does my husband have to be there?

2007-12-06 02:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by lucy m 2

This guy I like.He has said he likes me. I knocked him back as we were both in relationships. He persists. I'm free now but one thing keeps bothering me.He is an awful flirt, don't mind that, but this one girl, she is a stunner and a major flirt herself.He likes her, I know that, but when I confronted him before he told me that she means nothing to him, that it was me he wanted. Being insecure in general, I declined once again to have a relationship with him.She lays on the sexual innuendo thick now and he loves every minute of it.I dunno, should I believe him or is he prob deceiving me.They were talking yesterday and when he saw me today he was acting all sad and stuff.I really care about him and this has gone on for 7 years, which seems like a long time for him to just want to get laid by me.I dunno, what do you think?

2007-12-06 02:18:33 · 15 answers · asked by susieboo 4

A few days after Thanksgiving, I tried to discuss Christmas plans with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. I asked if they would all like to come to church (husband's a minister) and then have dinner at our house on Christmas Eve. I got no answer and was told that we would discuss it later. A couple of days ago, I received a typed letter from my mother-in-law telling me the "plan" for Christmas Eve and Christmas day. She said that she and my sister-in-law had already decided that Christmas Eve dinner would be at my sister-in-law's house (We can't come because of church) and then she would be having spaghetti (for whoever, whenever) at her house on Christmas day and indicated that we are expected to come some time that day and that once again my parents and brother are also invited. My husband and I agreed when we had children that we would celebrate Christmas at home while the children are little. I'm sick of feeling angry and torn! Any suggestions?

2007-12-06 02:12:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 5 months ago, I met a wonderful guy online and decided to move to be with him. At the time I knew he had a two year old and was in the process of getting a divorce from his wife. The woman cheated on him.

He has a decent job but all his money goes toward a bankruptcy payment (declared before the divorce) which she refuses to help pay, child expenses and a lawyer. She currently is unemployed and keeps saying she will get a job but nothing has materialized yet. They've agreed to split custody and not to have a child support payment.

However, I don't trust her and neither does he. She threatened his life before when he told her that she needed to be on time to pick up their son otherwise she would make him late for work. She has violent mood swings and seems jealous of me for moving in town and immediately getting a job at the place she always wanted to work at. Now she is treating me like trash and we think she is going to sue for child support. What can i do? What can we do?

2007-12-06 02:08:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? is there achance he will be back??

2007-12-06 02:05:59 · 26 answers · asked by rhea 1

2007-12-06 02:05:51 · 17 answers · asked by Star doodle 2

Being your time might be limited and things you can't do cause the kids are too young.

Name top 3...

2007-12-06 01:56:15 · 14 answers · asked by Latin G 5

I especially want to hear from guys who married tourists.

2007-12-06 01:39:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

of a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere positive?

2007-12-06 01:29:23 · 21 answers · asked by Thunderman9 6

If we drift, we drift apart. If we grow, we grow together. Could it be that often the difference is determined by knowing our priorities and keeping them in focus? A priority is something we believe to be important. When we list priorities, we are listing those things we believe to be of great value in life.

Most Christians would agree that priority number one is our relationship and fellowship with God. Nothing is more important. In fact, our relationship with God influences the rest of our priorities. If God is the author of life, then nothing is more important than knowing Him. If God has spoken, then nothing is more important than hearing His voice. If God loves, nothing can bring greater joy than responding to His love. Jesus said, "Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness." Can we honestly say, that seeking the Kingdom of God is our first priority?

2007-12-06 01:22:23 · 20 answers · asked by unknown 4

2007-12-06 01:22:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married - kids. Wife will not accept responsibility - have 3 mortgages on house, (oh we can afford it - I was told) whenever I get mad about anything she blows up at me - accuses me of being depressed (family history-long story), not taking my medications, and won't back me up on anything. I don't feel depressed, but wes I have been more angry lately - have been saddled w/ a lot more stress than usual over past few months. Long story short - shes pissed about me not being on meds. Wants me out. I am at the point I am willing to leave and go off the meds permanently because I feel she is the reason I am on them in the first place. I am pissed that she never admits her problems with money and lack of control are why we are in such a hole. Should I leave? Should I stay?

2007-12-06 01:07:29 · 34 answers · asked by ripperdear6766 4

He disappears and cames back. Do you think his wife knew from the start? I think the sons must have known too. Apparently one of the sons has done a bunk from his flat in London in the middle of the night. What do you think is really going on ?

2007-12-06 01:00:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

The person with feelings of superiority is impatient with others' imperfections; is often domineering and strong-willed. When he meets resistance from his mate he attempts to force his spouse into line. If the spouse refuses to shape up, the person who feels superior will place all the blame on the spouse.

What truth will liberate the person with superiority feelings? It is an awareness that the ground is level at the foot of the cross of Christ. We all stand in need of forgiveness. Perhaps you have been unwilling to admit your failures. Then it is time for confession and repentance. You do not need to claim superiority in order to be important. People will think no less of you if you admit your weaknesses. On the road of confession you will find many friends. The road of self-righteousness gets lonelier each day. Admitting your humanity and accepting responsibility for your failures will lead you to a growing marriage.

2007-12-06 00:56:26 · 18 answers · asked by unknown 4