of a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere positive?
2007-12-06 01:29:23 · 21 answers · asked by Thunderman9 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you everyone for your thoughtful answers. I honestly wish I could give more than one best answer for this question.
2007-12-06 08:01:59 · update #1
Only you can decide that, but in my opinion it's when you're no longer happy. I think you should get out now, but whatever your decision, I want you to know that I'll support it 100%, Hon.
2007-12-06 03:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess Princess Minky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question! If you are married it is even a better question. I have an answer that is not my own but one from a much higher authority then me. That authority is one from God. God is good and he cares about you and your relationship to your loved one. He truly wants this relationship to work out and to become good. Our happieness sometimes gets in the way of what God truly desires in our hearts and lives. With God in a relationship you will find out many more ways to try and work things out for the better. With just us working on the challange we give up because we think we have tried everything we can do. I to am in a very tough spot with my wife and she wants to be done with me! I promised her in my vows that I would never leave her in sickness or in health, richer or poorer, for better or worse, until death us do part. Right now it seems for both of us it is sickness, poorer, worse, but we are not dead! If God is with us which He is with me! Who can be against us! He will make a way when there seems to be no way or even a deadend! What can we do to make it better? Give it over to God and let Him have it! Go see a counciler with someone at church or Grace Life Ministries. Don't do this alone! Let someone come alone side of you and be an encouragement to you and stand with you in this time of need. Ask God to clean your heart and to renew a right spirit (His Spirit within you!) He will! Ask God to be with your spouse! He will! I will be praying that you will know God and he will be in your heart and your spouse and that He will set you both free to love each other the way He intended you to. I am sorry for what you are going through! It is tough, but with God their is victory in everything! I believe this with all my heart and soul! If anything God has changed He has changed my old heart of stone, criticalness, anger, malice, and self serving attitude to one that gives His love away freely. This is worth much! The world can see a new heart that gives away instead of being served. This is truly freeing! Hang in there! I am praying for the best! Don't let fear and doubt creep into your mind. Let God into your mind and He will set you free! Have a great marriage in Him! Scott PS. You get out at death, or when boundries have been crossed. They are hurting you physically or your kids. You set the boundries and then be apart for a recomended time to work things out with help, forgive one another and work towards reconcilation with the goal always of getting back together with God being in the center or your marriage! This is Gods plan for us! He cares that good things come about in you, your spouce and your marriage! The world says all those short answers you read before. I wrote this because God is in my heart and he cares truly about you and your heart!
2007-12-06 02:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Scott C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If nobody in the relationship is happy and both have tried to be happy then it's time to get out and find new people that do make you happy. Nobody deserves to live their life unhappy
2007-12-06 01:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you know you have done all that you can. It isn't getting any better and won't get any better. At that point you should be able to walk away without regret or remorse. If you have no regret about getting out, it's time to go.
2007-12-06 02:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the joy of a phone call> you don't want to answer> Seeing them make you fell sick>Wanting them to not touch you>Making excuses not to be near them> This gives you and idea>Talk is a confutation>
2007-12-06 01:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you ask a question like you just did, thats when its time to get out.
2007-12-06 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS soon as you feel the need to ask this kind of question I would say that's your indictator that it's time.
2007-12-06 02:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably when you start asking a question like this one.
2007-12-06 01:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When your not happy, relationships take time to build, if your not happy then get out, if your still working on it then give it time, all will work out.
2007-12-06 01:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time is valuable and life is too short to be unhappy.
Is it worth keep on dragging this any further?
2007-12-06 01:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋