He is married and his wife suspect something is going on with him. Everything was perfect. I wanted to be the perfect mistress. He pull back but he can't stay away. So I started to pull back. I need ideas from guys what to do. I just want to be his mistress sometimes it feels like he is addicted to me. It's is going on three years. I love him but he was to understand I'm giving up more than him. I'm willing but things has to get back they way they were.
2007-12-06 03:29:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow did you put yourself out there to admit that on this board, well I certainly am not one of "those people" I know we all have problems that others wouldn't approve of.
So to be a friend to you and give you my honest advice. I would think a married man that has had a mistress for three yrs, leaving his wife is not an option. That makes a hard life for you. But you sound ok with this, so you are just going to have to put up with him pulling away when his wife gets suspicious. He sounds like he has fallen in love with you or he wants what he can't totally have. If you want serious action what I would suggest is to pull all the way back, you have him where you want him. He is lonely at home and he wants to be with you but doesn't have the balls to leave her. I would get away from him a bit more than usual, you can go and play "he can't" that will eat him up and you will see results ..........fast!!!!!! Love or (lust) will lead him back every time.
2007-12-06 03:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was having this affair with a married man your second mistake was falling in love with him. You need to end it and fast. How is it you are losing more than he is? Hes married! He will lose more than just his wife even more so if there are kids involved. Im not a guy but I will tell you that what you need to do is let him go and move on. He is holding you back from finding the right man. Ever get the idea that maybe he is holding onto you because u are always there. Walk away now before someone gets hurt whether it is his wife or you.
2007-12-06 04:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you know he's married and you like being his mistress????? huh. Well the situation your in you have to accept what he can give. You can expect him to keep his word or anything else for that matter. If he married someone and can consistently cheat for 3 years he will get bored with you and move on too.
2007-12-06 03:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by n.s. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lying!. If you want to be the perfect mistress, why have you fallen in love? But it's OK, cause I want you to continue to be his mistress because in the end, he will dump you and you will have wasted years and years out of your life!! I can see the wrinkles on the face already!
2007-12-06 03:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no going back. you need to end it now. maybe you can't get what you want and have the perfect mistress situation. it's not going to work long term if you're giving up more than him. find a different boyfriend.
2007-12-06 03:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men want what they can't have. But the problem is that he can have you when he feels like it. But he truly is where he wants to be. With his wife. Your a convenience and he will deal with you when it is convenient for him to deal with you. It just appears to you that it's about him not being able to have you. Choices are easy, when someone doesn't choose it's because they don't want to. Real talk. The real question is why do YOU want what you can't have so much that you would do this for 3 long years of your life?
2007-12-06 03:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Erica D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't understand what it is to be married therfore when faced with the opportunity to stray and both men and women cheat ( I hate it when women think only men cheat) they do because they feel something is missing in their lives. I don't know what it feels like to cheat or be cheated on but one should never think that it can't happen,it's life we are imperfect.Ride this guy for as long as you can enjoy it and when the crap hits the fan be prepared for the consequences, you never know you may get him full time then he cheats on you. That's life.
2007-12-06 03:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mario R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry, but you need to leave that married man alone, how the f would you like it if you were married, and some woman was messn with your man. I know Ide be pretty f'n pissed. You have no right, and anybody that answers this question to benefit this lady is sick.If I were that other lady Ide beat your *** and his, and sure as hell get a divorce and take every f'n thing that man has. He deserves nothing...WELL, BESIDES YOU!!!
2007-12-06 03:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way they were? The way they were was he was a married man and not to you. Leave him alone. Leave her alone. He didn't say I do to you. All he's doing or thinking is I can get a cheap piece of @ss from you. Three years and you really think he loves you? Pull your head out of your @ss and get a life.
2007-12-06 03:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by Poppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you DO? You get your morals straight and let him go! What if you were his wife? She has probably done everything in her power, just as you have, to keep his interest. This guy is a loser and you need to dump his cheating *** now and get your priorities straight. He's treating you like he treats his wife. Pity her!!!!! She's probably on here writing similar things and asking questions like you are. Don't be blind. It isn't you, it's HIM.
2007-12-06 03:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋