Have you ever been in this situation?
2007-12-06 03:40:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say then they are no friends of mine.... I come with the full package... husband and two kids... if you don't like it, thats cool, it is your opinion, and guess what... I don't have to have you as a friend.
2007-12-06 04:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not discuss any of your personal business with the friend re: you and your spouse/partner because everything trust me will be negative and if there is a legitimate reason for the friend not liking the spouse/partner it will come out sooner or later without the help of the friend and a true will be there when the spouse/partner is long gone
2007-12-06 07:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're all human and this is natural.
We cannot all be friends with everyone.
Personally I would explain to your friends that they can have their opinion but keep it to themselves and respect your wishes and your decisions.
I find myself in a similar scenario but on the other side. A friend has an obnoxious spouse but who am I to ruin my friendship by telling my friend I cannot stand their partner? This person is a good friend who has made a decision and who am I to argue?
I would explain to your friend the way you feel about your partner and ask them not to criticise further, argue or make their dislike obvious for the sake of your friendship.
Those who tell you to dump the friend are giving bad advice. We all need our friends, no matter what they think of our choices and decisions in life.
2007-12-06 05:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Glen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A true friend knows what is the best for you ^^ You should make clear why they dislike your spouse/partner so much...they have their own reasons.
However, your partner is the one you choose to spend your life with...If he/she really cares about you...he/she would definitely wants to get along well with your friends. You are the one who can settle the conflicts between them :D Remember they both love you ^^
2007-12-06 03:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Apple 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have been on both sides of this fence. There is usually something that the friends see that you don't. I would talk to your friends and see if they will explain how/why, evaluate the weight of their reasoning. You have two choices, keep him/her away from the friends or get rid of friends/partner.
If you choose to keep significant other away from friends, just remember why you are friends with them and why you are with this person. Value both relationships for what they are.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-06 05:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dottie G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on their reason for not liking him. Ask them why they feel that way towards your spouse/partner. If one of my friends said that they didn't like my man I wouldn't leave him alone as I know how nice he is to my friends and family, and most of all how much we both love and respect each other.
One of my girlfriends is married and I dislike her husband. I feel that I have a very valid reason because her husband treats her like crap. He is so rude, abusive verbally and physically towards her and it upsets me to see this happen. I only said something once in her defense, but I realized that she is not willing to leave him alone so there is nothing more I can do.
My family hated my ex with a passion, especially my mother. Of course I ignored their dislike for him as I felt that I was so
in love. Looking back I wish I would have taken their advice. It would have saved me a ton of hearbreak that's for sure.
2007-12-06 03:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Applered24 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it could be one of two things: your friends are jealous because THEY dont have a man, all they have is you and they want you all to themselves. OR, they have a legitimate complaint about hi,m... look at the whole picture: are your friends single? are they in crappy relationships? Is your partner good to you or abusive/mean/cheating/rude/smelly? try to get to the bottom of WHY they dont like him. then you can decide if you need to cut them (or him) loose.
2007-12-06 03:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by Addie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't!! You put your wide/husband over family and friends if you can't you have no business being married, tell the other people if they can't except your spouse to take a hike..
2007-12-06 03:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes i have but you know what best friends come first and you come first you have to make that chose, my friends don't like mine and o well they just deal with it because i am with him. if they was your real friends they would stick buy your side any way
2007-12-06 08:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. Your spouse comes first. Get rid of your so called friends.
2007-12-06 03:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋