I have a contact who gets badly treated at home. I am scared for her life. (no, I'm not being a drama queen) She is in an abusive relationship. What can I do to help her?
2007-12-06 02:22:27 · 15 answers · asked by Miss T 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The biggest reason women stay in abusive relationships is fear. ( I know) The only thing you can really do for her is be there and let her know her options and help build her self-esteem and strength in order to get out. Abusive men don't sit back and ignore when u do walk out that door, u have to be prepared for the consequences that follow such a move. The most important thing for her to know is that she has real support from someone and can feel as safe as possible when the time comes to do it. I really hope she does because you don't realize how abusive the relationship is until u are out of it. Even if she gets angry at u and seems she wants u to stop meddling in her life u need to be strong and persistent until u convince her there is a much better life out there. She is lucky to have a friend like u. Don't give up. :-)
2007-12-06 03:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do for her is find a place for her to go that help women in abusive relationships. If she chooses to go great but 9 times out of 10 they don't.
2007-12-06 02:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. PRAY
2. ASK HER PERMISSION to call a meeting of her extended family to discuss it.
3. Encourage HER to document it, or YOU document when she tessl you every incident.
4. Seek PROFESSIONAL ADVICE YOURSELF from a battered womans advoates group, rather than on here.
5. CAUTION If it is increasing in frequency and or severity that the danger level just went up 100%. Be careful. If the abuser finds out that others know, it could push them over the edge and the result could be deadly. You need to have a Plan B, Plan C, Plan D and ask a lot of "What If's" and do it QUICKLY.
2007-12-06 04:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by ntl_promo_guy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to stress the importance of her getting out of the relationship. All you can do is keep on putting it into her head so that she can decide to do it. Other then that there's not a whole lot you can probably do for her as you aren't there with her physically. The best thing to do also is to try to get as many people as possible who know her to talk with her as well.
2007-12-06 12:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women that are in abusive relationships are sorta brainwashed by the abuser. She may be foggy on what recourse she should take. Encourage her to get away and offer solutions as, 'go to a shelter or a friend's house'. You can give her my web address and have her email me if you want, I can offer her support and possible resourses. http://www.incaseoflife.com
2007-12-06 02:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by tidbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep talking to her and build her self confidence up!!right now,she has a very low self-esteem!you have to build that up!she won't leave him,unless she gets her self-confidence back!she has to be mentally ready to be able to leave him!and right now,she is scared!what you both have to do,is start planning!you have to have a plan!!if she leaves him,she has to have a plan!she will have to go into hiding,and there are organizations that help abused women!i think that YOU should call one and ask for help,cause they are more qualified to give you and her the help that is needed!!
2007-12-06 12:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she lives kind of close, i would go over and be there for her physically!! if not, talk to her and explain to her how you feel and that you think she is in some kind of danger!! meet her somewhere....if she doesnt want to hear it then just pray and wish for the best babe!!
you can only do so much!
2007-12-06 02:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to convince her to leave, but ultimately the decision must lie with her and how much she values her own life.
2007-12-06 04:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the news and wait for her name to pop up.
What can you do? Some women seem to like getting abused for whatever reasons. I'll never understand it.
She can make her own decisions.
2007-12-06 02:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by WhereTheBuffaloRoam 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can only be there for support she must be the one to take action.
2007-12-06 02:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by lman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋