ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? is there achance he will be back??
2007-12-06 02:05:59 · 26 answers · asked by rhea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a 29 year old wanted a 17 year old? damn! you dodged a bullet! that, my friend, was a LOSER! (truth hurts) ...i am SO genuinely sorry about your miscarriage, but part of me is glad you didn't have this bum's child.
yes, i have had my heart broken, too...and i can tell you: in time, you will see that you got out okay. he better not be back...that would be the worst thing that could happen.
focus on getting your life together. your dead weight loser is gone now....get into college. meet someone with a bit more ambition than a used car salesman who needs to feel like the big man by marrying a girl 12 years younger than him....again: you are blessed to be rid of him. you have seen that some 'MEN' are as immature and pathetic as horny teenage boys, but others are real, honey.
WHEN HE COMES BACK: don't let him in your door.
i think youll get over this quicker than you imagine....and i think karma does exist. you being rid of him shows you YOUR good karma. don't think of it as a 'revenge' for him...only think of it in terms of yourself.
you'll be in good shape. . . . .now, don't make any more stupid man decisions. there ARE good ones out there. don't rush into finding one. to the girl who said to jump into getting another man: can you really be that dependent/naive? hehehe. jesus.
2007-12-06 02:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by blue-in-groove 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just read this.........
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2007-12-06 02:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by stayc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you get over this? Be VERY thankful he does not want anything to do with you. The big question is, why do YOU want anything to do with him, what, are you desperate?
Learn this very good lesson my dear, you got out of this very bad situation with a real loser pretty easy. Next time, if you don't learn from this, it won't be so easy, trust me.
Get your life together, stop believing what someone (especially a guy) tells you and follow your dreams. Have respect for yourself, don't take any garbage and protect yourself at all times. Also, don't be with a guy that much older than you, they are only looking to control you.
Wise up dear, you are still very young and have a great life ahead of you. Live it with more common sense now. Make a man prove who he is, that take time, don't believe what he says, see what he does. Use birth control until you are ready to have a child too.
2007-12-06 02:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope for your sake he won't be back.
Why on earth would you want someone in your life that is only out for him self?
You are very lucky to see what kind of person he really is before you had kids with him.
I know that the heartache is real bad for you now, but later as time goes on you will fell better and will also know not to believe everything a man says.
You have learned allot of things from this relationship good and bad, try real hard the next time not to make the same mistakes and learn from this experience.
2007-12-06 02:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he has take a bite at your self esteem, before all this come to pass u had goals, dreams and college and he built around this, however, he showed his true colors by leaning on your 2 support the two of you, and not being there during the accident, which has affected the self esteem, and I am sure he blames you.
My advice, he did u a favor, pick yourself u and move on with out him he is 2 much baggage , and I am sure that you will have 2 rebuild the trust that you lost.
Trust starts with learning 2 trust yourself again and healing from this expereince.
Blessings,
http://www.kasamba.com/light4you
2007-12-06 02:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by http://www.kasamba.com/light4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably used you. Most guys do that. But, how old are you now?? It's gonna take a while (depending on how long you guys were together).
I had a relationship once for a week, and even then- it was hard to forgive & forget.
Just try to not think about it. As much as it might hurt, it's something you need to forget because if you go back, it'll only be two times worse. I really hope you can get on your feet again and have a good life because just hearing this story makes me wanna take you in for myself and show you the real 'good' life. I'm sorry this happened. But you can only learn from it-
*Trust no guy, fear no betch*
2007-12-06 02:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that your hurt and for God Sake you should hope he will not be back. A man who treats you the way he did is not a man. He is a looser. Have some pride, self respect and move on. Don't think about how it once was or how it could have been look at how it was. Why would you want a man who lied to you and did care about you but also could care less about his own child.
You can do better.
2007-12-06 03:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man was trash. It is a good thing you got away from him. Why would a 29 year old want a 17 year old? He has some kind of mental problems the way this story played out. Talk is cheap---------actions speak louder than words.
You are a good person. You will be okay. Karma-------bulloney---------Get away from this nut. I am so sorry that you were emotionally abused by a nut and a user. Take care of yourself. God Bless.
2007-12-06 02:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are perhaps the most fortunate girl in the world! You should be kicking your heels up! This guy was a straight user--a total bum who took advantage of your youth and immaturity. There was no love in his heart for you. And don't take that personally, because this guy doesn't even love himself. Although no woman wants to lose her baby, you are most fortunate to not be pregnant with this man's child. You can get on with your life, with no attachment to him. Don't make the mistake of taking him back. Please, don't do that. He has proven himself to be a liar. He's shown you that he won't be there for you. He won't be the man he's supposed to be in your life; so don't be foolish enough to walk into his trap again. You are FREE now--FREE of an accident that could have killed you, and FREE of this monster who has made your young life miserable. Be thankful that you have such a wonderful chance to start a new life. You can go to college, or do whatever else you'd like to do. God has been so good to you. Don't ruin it for yourself, girlfriend. Be happy that you're FREE, and never let yourself get caught up again with a loser!
2007-12-06 02:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been there and it took me almost four years to get over her enough to ask another girl out, but I did get over her and you will get over him.
OK, you fell for someone who turned out to be lower than whale poop. That doesn't lessen the pain any because you loved him, and probably still do. But sweetheart this is one time when you have to deny those feelings, be strong and move on.
Use this as a learning experience. I sincerely hope that you find a guy who will treat you like he's the luckiest guy in the world to have even a fraction of your attention.
Good luck and be careful.
2007-12-06 02:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by drgnrdr451 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋