Marriage & Divorce - 8 November 2007

2007-11-08 04:39:11 · 45 answers · asked by JWalker 1

I feel like my partner has completely gone off of me and I don't know what to do about it anymore. I used to get phone calls/emails/messages all the time when he was working telling me how much he loved me, now it's only if he wants me to do something for him. We have an 8 week old daughter, we've had sex once since she was born and before that it was when I was 7.5 months pregnant (his choice not mine) - yet he talks about sex all tthe time, comments on women he'd like to sleep etc with but just isn't interested in me. It's been like this pretty much since I became pregnant. I didn't put on much weight when I was pregnant, and I'm now slimmer than I was before, I make an effort to look nice for him (which isn't reciprocated) and I try to initiate sex but he isn't interested. if he's interested in checking out women in real-life and on tv, what's so wrong with me? Other men find me attractive, but the one I want to doesn't :o( Have tried talking, but he just dismisses it

2007-11-08 04:29:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband had an affair, I have a ton of evidence, confronted him, he confessed.. We are trying to work on it.
But the OW who I have demanded all contact be cut between the two , will not stop... She knows I check the cell phone records so she has stopped calling and texting, BUT she also knows his work schedule so she just calls him all day at the base, He unfortunately knows this upsets me so he trys to cover it and lie about it.. Not good for him...
She also leaves little messages on her myspace page meant for me, her moods like loved, hopeful, etc.. and quotes that change daily for me to read, VERY annoying, he no longer has a myspace account as that is where they would contact each other so it had to go.
My husbnad has been diagnosed with cancer, and the OW wants to help him out through this hard time, as they have been friends for years, she thinks I need to let the affair go and let them have contact... UM NOOOO..
So anyone been in this situation? how to get her to STOP!!!

2007-11-08 04:12:42 · 35 answers · asked by Rebecca Y 1

2007-11-08 04:03:00 · 14 answers · asked by Miriam R 1

2007-11-08 04:02:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband of four years told me that im getting to emotionally attached. he has been sleeping at our lake house for 4 days. a few months before he left he started acting really weird and suspicious.whenever i talk to him about it he avoids the subject.

*we have a 3yo daughter n two more on the way
(maybe hes feeling smothered?)

2007-11-08 03:59:02 · 14 answers · asked by .i. 1

The mere thought of it, makes me physically ill? Is this a medical condition, or what? I don't know what to do, since my boyfriend of 5 yrs is saving to buy a ring? Egad.....

2007-11-08 03:31:23 · 40 answers · asked by jefskta 2

2007-11-08 03:30:57 · 17 answers · asked by Rastaquouère 2

2007-11-08 03:14:44 · 14 answers · asked by Thora 4

My friend made a confession to me a while ago. To make a long story short, I have a friend who cheated on her husband with another man and got pregnant. Her boyfriend said he wouldn't take care of the baby unless she got rid of her husband. He pushed her to press spousal rape charges on the husband so they could move on with their lives. He was convicted and she ended up with all marital assets, all because she wanted a new life with her boyfriend and their baby and didn't want to lose him.

When she admitted it was a lie, I felt bad that he was convicted, but he was a pretty bad husband. He was even abusive at times. That's why she cheated. But he's innocent of the rape charge, which is what he was convicted of. What can I do? Should I tell someone? I don't have actual proof and it might just make it worse. Should I mind my own business?

2007-11-08 03:14:15 · 16 answers · asked by ♥~Shauna~♥ 3

I have been reading many legitimate articles explaining that women can actually "learn" to ejaculate. My wife writes these off as bunk and it is impossible.

So, at one time were you not able to and then tried the techniques and became able to?

I'm just curious b/c the descriptions make it seem like this type of orgasm is so much more powerful than any other.

Thanks for the honesty ladies.

2007-11-08 03:12:48 · 11 answers · asked by No Name 1

we have only been married a yr (lived together for 2 yrs before getting married) i have never denied him sex, in the begining we had sex 3 x's a day, i give him oral sex and i have masturbated him myself. lately though we dont have sex unless i initiate it. i have been finding towels and things that he is masturbating in and then he hides them - i confronted him and told him i dont care that he is masturbating but to please put the dirty towels in to be washed instead of hiding them in with clean clothes or under the bed etc. i also told him he can have sex whenever he wants it and his reply was that i dont want sex - i told him i do but that i would like for him to initiate it once in a while - im tired of kissing his *** for sex - i dont think i should be the one to initiate all the time. i know hes not cheating and he doesnt look at porn in magazines - a few times we have watched porn on tv but it doesnt seem to arouse him. what is going on? is it him or am i just being paranoid?

2007-11-08 03:04:44 · 15 answers · asked by anitaeric2004 2

Thanksgiving is coming up soon and my husband and I currently live with his mother for the moment because he recently got laid off and we had to give up our house. Well my mother in law adores all of her daughter in laws including his ex girlfriend/mother of first 2 kids who is not really or never has been her daughter in law since they were never married. Anyway I know she is not going to leave her out when inviting guests for Thanksgiving dinner. After the kids have spent the morning with their mom at home, is it okay to take the kids and go to my family's house instead when they come to my mother in laws? I mean this is me and my husbands first thanksgiving as a married couple and I would liove to share it with his children just not her. Already i have to suck it up for Christmas. What do you guys think?

2007-11-08 02:53:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think my marriage might be over... I've only been married a month but last night out of the middle of no where my husband told me that he doesn't want me anymore and he wants me to pack and leave. His reason was that I "didn't love him" and he wasn't first in my life... because I was busy when he called me during work hours. I can't commit to a lifetime of never being busy, but I do love my husband and I show him that everyday. If I don't do the dishes soon enough he takes that as showing that I don't care about him and the new house we just bought... I don't know what to do? I don't want a divorce but last night he said some pretty unforgivable things that are just plain not true and this morning he left without saying a word. This is insane, I feel like I have no control over this, there is nothing I can do to make it better. This isn't the first time he's done this but the other times I always cried and begged... I didn't do it this time. But should I have to do that?

2007-11-08 02:50:47 · 30 answers · asked by . 2

i was with a married man for over two years until i decided to leave him..now that i have broken off with him..he sends me threats..he even posted my pictures on the net n forward it by email to cause me shame.now i m very ashamed of what he did to me by sending out emails of my pics..n he tells me there is more to come..what should i do??i m afraid of my very own safety.i called his wife to let her know what he did,n she wants to come to my house,i rejected cause i dun wan to let my whole family noe about me n him cause they will really be mad..his wife says that im joking cause i dont let her come my house to settle it,what should i do?anyone pls help..

2007-11-08 02:47:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

WHAT DO YOU SAY

2007-11-08 02:47:32 · 30 answers · asked by JJ 7

My friend was telling me about a tricky situation she' s in at the moment. She's been going out with her boyfriend for 5 years now but a year back they were having really big problems and considered seperating. Thankfully, it all worked out ok and they are now happy and worked through their problems. At the time, however, she confided in a male colleague at work her problems and he was very supportive. He told her she is lovely and deserved someone worthy of her. A few months ago, he asked her how things were between her and her boyfriend and she said, good because they had solved their problems and are now happy. Ever since, she says the guy at work has been a bit aloof and moody with her and whenever he sees her he goes bright red. She has asked for my advice..what should I say? What's going on here?

2007-11-08 02:43:28 · 12 answers · asked by Fluffy ♥ 4

I cut her off for 2 years, now she is saying how sorry she is, and blaa, blaa, blaa, she's changed and wants to bring our family back together. I have talked to her via email, and she still acts the same. Whatever I say, she has to top it; like it's a competition thing. It's insane. No matter what, she always feel the need to be either doing better than me, making more money, happier in her marriage, kids smarter, whatever the need or situation is, she comes back to top it. Ex. my daughter is a cheeleader and son loves to read.....her daughter is a cheerleader, dancer for the band, and learning from Alex Haley...her son read heirogliphics, and Japenese. Or I may say, I cooked last night..."oh I cook every single night". Just no matter what, she feels the need to top or prove that she is better, and the funny part is....SHE LYING!!! What should I do. My intuition is to cut her back off, and call it as a lost. I only wanted our kids to grow up together b/c they are family.

2007-11-08 02:42:25 · 18 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

Assuming the father is your spouse/boyfriend and you didn't cheat. Men: How would you feel if you found out about it years down the road?

2007-11-08 02:39:54 · 15 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3

I lived with my husband parents for five years. We got married in 2001. I moved in with his parents in October 1999. Is this too long. I think it is.What about you?

2007-11-08 02:36:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now he tells me he is "damaged" and that he is a terrible person. "If I only knew"... While we have been together he has told me that he's never been tempted to cheat on me and sex has never been a real necessity for him. BUT - if he didn't cheat, is he guilty of something and that's why he wants a divorce?

2007-11-08 02:26:59 · 31 answers · asked by anike007 1

Is it possible to stay in LOVE with your wife till you die? will you still stay in love even when the pretty things starts to to wrinkle and sag? or does sincerity/honesty matter more than appearance?

2007-11-08 02:24:55 · 10 answers · asked by zackare89 2

2007-11-08 02:19:03 · 28 answers · asked by bebe 1

I got married 1yr ago and still use my old last name but I want to use my husbands so I called socal securitity and they told me that they will only change my ss card so who do I go through to get it changed, or is it already changed once the ring gets put on my finger?

2007-11-08 02:12:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you want?

2007-11-08 01:52:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband but sometimes he helps "to much" Ya it sounds weird to complain about it but sometimes he just won't let me do anything....It jerks me its weird..

HELP!!

2007-11-08 01:51:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husbands x-wife moved from Florida to our town in AZ this week. My husband and I have had their son for the last 4 months. My husband suggested that she live with us when she gets out here to help her out. Which really made me mad. Well, at the beginning of last month my husband went to jail and I have had their son since (plus our two kids). The x-wife got to our town on Tuesday and said she had some things in California to take care of and would be back on Friday. Their son is still with me. She got all of her things taken care of yesterday, but is still staying in CA until Friday. My husband is in jail in CA band visiting is on Fridays. She is staying so she can see him. So, while she stays and visits with my husband, I am watching their son. I haven't even gone to see my husband. Why is she going to see him w/out their son? Is there any reason? Should I be mad?

2007-11-08 01:47:50 · 13 answers · asked by iluvmyhubby 2

my wife is great and amazing and loving, she helps out around the house and so forth, she doesnt work but i do and we get by just fine. she is of course secretive about her friends she just says she is going to hang out with them but i always see her walking extra distance to where they are waiting her so i dont see them she wont even say if they are guys or girls. but no big deal. the problem is that she never wants sex, i can get by just fine cause i am still a virgin (we didnt have sex on the honeymoon either) but she isn't so im wondering how can she hold out? is there a reason as to why she is doing this?


i tried talking to her and asked her about counseling but she gets angry at me everytime i bring it up and refuses to talk about sex. she wasnt sexually abused or anything or raped i just dont understand.

2007-11-08 01:44:12 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

If one spouse does not want to have sex because there not in the mood should they still give in to make there partner happy?

2007-11-08 01:37:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-08 01:31:57 · 13 answers · asked by elaine 2