i was with a married man for over two years until i decided to leave him..now that i have broken off with him..he sends me threats..he even posted my pictures on the net n forward it by email to cause me shame.now i m very ashamed of what he did to me by sending out emails of my pics..n he tells me there is more to come..what should i do??i m afraid of my very own safety.i called his wife to let her know what he did,n she wants to come to my house,i rejected cause i dun wan to let my whole family noe about me n him cause they will really be mad..his wife says that im joking cause i dont let her come my house to settle it,what should i do?anyone pls help..
2007-11-08 02:47:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was going to say, "You made your bed, now you have to lie in it," but that wouldn't be helpful at all, even though that's how I feel. My more practical advice: print out copies of all emails involving threats and report them to the police. Additionally, you may want to file in court for a restraining order. If you don't take seriously someone who is threatening you, you're making a big mistake.
2007-11-08 02:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your problem. No one should have to be threatened by anyone for any reason, but since you are being threatened then there are some things that you can do to protect yourself IF it is your desire to actually end this relationship. First be aware that the threats can just be a control tactic so the first thing you must do is TAKE CONTROL of your life. Send a registered letter to the man telling him what it is that you want (stop bothering me) and advise that if his behavior ( detail it) does not stop then you will go to the police. Give a cease and desist date - the date of the receipt of the registered letter will be fine. Do not under any circumstances make any more contact with this man's wife - that is a whole nother can of worms, just don't do it. If your cease and desist letter does not do the trick then follow through and seek the counsel of an attorney, but document any and all contacts from him from the date you mail the letter and please keep all contacts with him prior to and since you have indicated your desire to stop seeing him. Make sure if you have to seek legal counsel that a part of your suit covers pain and suffering as well as punitive/tort.
2007-11-08 03:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by still sharp47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact an attorney and see about getting a restraining order and also about how he is trying to defame your character by posting pics...., you might want to break down and tell your family before they find out some other way. Maybe they will be mad, but if you tell them that you realized it was wrong and broke it off, they should give you support to keep yourself safe. What the wife thinks is really none of your business, so I wouldn't even worry about trying to contact them at all and refuse any attempts that they make to talk to you. Do NOT answer emails, messages, phone calls or have any other contact with them. If this sick man thinks he has any power at all over you, he won't quit, but if you have nothing to do with him and he can't see that you have any reactions over his bullying tactics, he will most probably just give up....
2007-11-08 02:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should hgave thought about it before having an affair with a married man. Get a restraining order and do have a little more respect for yourself and the wives and children of those men out there.
2007-11-08 05:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife will not side with you since you had an affair with the husband what do you expect ? the husband will keep harrassing you since he lost a mistress his loss entirely frankly you should left married man alone off limits its not rocket science now you could be attacked only for having an affair with a married you could loose your life i guess karma
2007-11-08 03:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by aguardianangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could this be the wife retaliating against you and not your former lover? As others suggest to meet with them. Bring a print or two of the nasty emails to prove you alligations. Hopefully, you'll will be able to settle this wothout libel and slander suits.
2007-11-08 02:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are probably screwed...no pun intended. That is the danger of letting someone take pics of you. Just let it all go and if he continues then document every phone call and threat that he makes. If he won't stop then turn his *** in for harassment. If the threats get violent then see if there are any terroristic threatening laws in your area and get him on that. You are going to have to play hard-ball to get him to stop. Don't feel bad about the pictures though. We were all born of this world naked, and nudity (if you are nude in them) really shouldn't be an issue. Good luck.
2007-11-08 02:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Report him to the police, show them everything he has sent you. You should never get involved with a married person, this is the sort of pain and heart ache it can cause.
2007-11-08 03:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not let her come to my house nor would i go to her house. i would offer to meet her in a public place if you need to discuss it with her. i would also contact the police and put a restraining order against him because you never know what someone is capable of.
2007-11-08 02:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by always thinkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is posting nude or that type of photo's of you online you need to make a copy and call the police.It's against the law to post photo's of someone online that they don't approve of.Get the cops involved.Good luck.
2007-11-08 03:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋