My friend made a confession to me a while ago. To make a long story short, I have a friend who cheated on her husband with another man and got pregnant. Her boyfriend said he wouldn't take care of the baby unless she got rid of her husband. He pushed her to press spousal rape charges on the husband so they could move on with their lives. He was convicted and she ended up with all marital assets, all because she wanted a new life with her boyfriend and their baby and didn't want to lose him.
When she admitted it was a lie, I felt bad that he was convicted, but he was a pretty bad husband. He was even abusive at times. That's why she cheated. But he's innocent of the rape charge, which is what he was convicted of. What can I do? Should I tell someone? I don't have actual proof and it might just make it worse. Should I mind my own business?
2007-11-08 03:14:15 · 16 answers · asked by ♥~Shauna~♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself just one question: Can you live with knowing this and keeping it a secret without it eating you up inside?
There is your answer - either way.
2007-11-08 04:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing everything that your friend has told you is true, I would take it straight to the authorities. Then once this is accomplished, forget about everything...including the friend. Think about it. Either this woman wrongly convicted her husband or she is down right lying to you. Either way, she is not the type of friend that you want. Now depending on where he was tried, unless an attorney is involved I'm afraid that the husband has little chance of having the decision reversed as the state more than likely has picked up the charges. However if he is set free, then it would be my hopes that your friend was jailed, fined and later sued by the husband so that he may get back what this worthless woman has stolen from him. Just my 2 cents.
2007-11-08 03:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what your friend did supports why one would think the husband was abusive... don't you? I think that is also a lie! Lies tend to support other lies. I would get a new friend and that is an imperative! I would go to that x-husband and do the right thing! Would tell him what you know and give him support in any legal action. What your, so-called, friend did was probably as I said,. she lied both times, and may of had many men! Face facts in this life! What gender we are does not make right or wrong. does it? I am almost positive this man never was abusive to his wife! Aren't you? She lied and that support the idea that she also lied about his abuse! Your friendship stands in the way of doing what is right, also. Doesn't it? I bet he is a good man who treated her in love, but was rejected,. and she wanted to play! Do the right thing and do not even tell her! Why? What she did does not deserve an explanation of what you should do! God bless. Earl
2007-11-08 03:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's harder said then done...What we think we might do may not be that easy if it was one of our friends...I might consider going to the proper authority but, yet again everything that happens in the dark ALWAYS surfaces to the light...Your friend might not have been that smart...You never know who else she is telling this to or who might the boyfriend be bragging too...Try to keep a distance from her because a person who is capable of doing this is a person with HUGE issues and you don't want to be in the middle of anything...
2007-11-08 03:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell your friend's husband's lawyer. If he didn't rape her, it isn't justified for him to be convicted of it, regardless of whether he was "abusive at times". The other guy must be a real piece of crap himself to push her to do this. A good person doesn't cheat because her husband is crummy...she files for divorce!
2007-11-08 03:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by acatnamedpluto 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. Charges of abuse can take many forms and we don't know if thats true. I hope you aren't friends with your ex-friend. She is lower than a worm, and by association, you..................
Anyone want to deny the fact that the laws are tipped towards females? Some are more equal than others?
2007-11-08 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should go straight to the police department and tell them what you know. Noone should be thrown in jail over something he or she did not do no matter what type of jerk he was before hand. She had the option to leave him a long time ago. go tell authorities or you are just as guilty as perjury.
2007-11-08 03:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she lied and got her husband put in jail, you absolutely should tell. That is wrong in so many ways! She is nobody I would want for a friend.
2007-11-08 03:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An innocent man was falsely accused and is now suffering the affects of that. Tell what you know, his possible incarceration depends on it.
2007-11-08 03:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business, whats done is done. No proof and you just look like an @ss. Lets hope the guy learned his lesson about abusing people.
2007-11-08 03:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋