I love my husband but sometimes he helps "to much" Ya it sounds weird to complain about it but sometimes he just won't let me do anything....It jerks me its weird..
HELP!!
2007-11-08 01:51:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him do what he wants then thank him & then change it to how you like it later on.
Be glad he is there no matter what.,
one day he willl be gone,
especially if you complain all the time about him
2007-11-08 02:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you could let him know that while you appreciate his help, there are certain things you would like to do yourself, and if you require assistance, you'll ask.
My ex boyfriend did the same thing -- he had HUGE control issues, and it seemed i couldn't do anything right, even though i'd get the same results as the rest of the world...
He backed off when i told him how i felt... i wasn't mean about it, but a person can only take so much caretaking.
2007-11-08 01:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from. My husband frequently tries to help me, even when I don't ask for it. He's a wonderful man, very bright and kind but he seems to have the answers for EVERYTHING. We've discussed it before and he doesn't understand that when I do something, I'd like to do it my way first. If I fail, I'll ask for his help.
I get the feeling he doesn't trust my judgment or abilities. I wish I had some advice for you but all I can say is, you're not alone and you're not weird!
2007-11-08 01:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand and I have had to deal with this issue as well. I simply sat him down and we talked. I told him hw much I loved him helping, but that this is an equal partnership, and that I needed to feel useful so I needed to do stuff to feel like I was part of the whole thing and not just a spectator. He got it and things work out far better now.
2007-11-08 02:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird. It's probably annoying to you because on some level, you feel like him doing everything for you means he must think you're an idiot who can't do things for yourself. He probably doesn't think that at all. Enjoy his kindness but gently let him know that you ENJOY doing things for yourself and that part of who you are is an independent woman who likes to take care of some things for herself! Hopefully he'll understand. :)
2007-11-08 01:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be thankful because my husband is lazy, immature, and stupid and he doesn't help at all. You got something good you better keep it before you end up with a dumb azz like me from the Delta of Mississippi.
2007-11-08 01:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We ought to boot you out of Yahoo Answers for complaining. I would love to trade places with you. Just sit back and enjoy it.
2007-11-08 02:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let him know that there are certain things you would like to do by yourself and that he should trust you. Communication is very important.
2007-11-08 01:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by ruebezahl2001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him do everything until he gets tired of it.
2007-11-08 01:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by speedlump2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Didnt you just ask this question? Stop whining and give him more chores to do for you.
2007-11-08 01:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Islander 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋