my husband of four years told me that im getting to emotionally attached. he has been sleeping at our lake house for 4 days. a few months before he left he started acting really weird and suspicious.whenever i talk to him about it he avoids the subject.
*we have a 3yo daughter n two more on the way
(maybe hes feeling smothered?)
2007-11-08 03:59:02 · 14 answers · asked by .i. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TOO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED??
Aren't you two MARRIED?
What an azzwipe, he sounds like!
2007-11-08 04:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be freaked too if I had 2 on the way. That'd mean you REALLY have to be responsible, REALLY have to be a man, a father, a husband. Must be hard.
But he shouldn't say things to you like "too emotionally attached", he is the only person in life that is supposed to support you emotionally, physically, mentally. Sit him down, and tell him he MUST COMMUNICATE, because you are having these babies, and you can't be stressed. You will support him too, he doesn't have to go through whatever he is going through alone. That's why you got married. He must talk, he just must.
Guys act weird for even stranger reasons. You might not know what's going on but if you got the answer you'd be like "Oh!!!" and you'd understand. I doubt he is cheating, that'd be an awful thing to do. He just needs some man time. Maybe he is scared to sleep with you because.. I mean you got pregnant.
2007-11-08 12:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Hye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few months ago when he started acting weird and suspicious, was this soon after you found out you were pregnant w/ twins? If so, then I think he may just be overwhelmed and not cheating.
However his comment about you being too attached leaves me worried. Too attached? You are emotionally and legally bonded to this man, how much more attached does it get? That is something that young boys say to their girlfriend of a month, not something grown married men say to their wives. I don't know if that comment eludes to an affair, but I think its the most worrysome part of your question and you need to get to the bottom of it.
Sit down and ask him to give you specifics on what he meant by that. Don't take "you just are" as an answer. Possibly he'd just like to see you enjoy some of your own hobbies and present yourself independently? I can't answer that, only he can.
2007-11-08 12:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alaina's Mumma! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There signs of something out of the norm> You can go up to the lake house and see then you will know>I think you are the 1 thats smothered>what will he be like when there are 3>Best of luck>
2007-11-08 12:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how he can tell you that you are getting too emotionally attached when he is your husband. He has some issues going on and maybe it would be best right now for you since you are pregnant and your daughter to just let him be. You should not be getting stressed out this moment since you are carrying twins.
2007-11-08 12:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the lake house and don't say anything to him, when you arrive you tell him that you want give him a surprise and see for your self whats happening, you have to go on an appropriate time to catch them, and with a Little Lock you will find nothing and you have a great time together alone and talk thins over.
In hope for find out nothing take wine whit you and expect to have a nice night whit him, let your child whit your mom or someone
God Locke
2007-11-08 12:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by romati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. It could also be signs that he is just freaking out about having twins on the way as well. You need to get specifics from him as to exactly what you are doing that makes him feel this way and you should both try to understand each others point of view. Good luck.
2007-11-08 12:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband - so what is wrong with being emotianally attached? Maybe he has concerns over raising the kids esp with twins on the way. Maybe he is just getting away to be alone before alone time is non-existant? Maybe he is just having 'fun' before he has to settle into huge responabilities...
2007-11-08 12:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how my husband acted at first, subtle little things did not add up. and then he was in the middle of a huge affair.
I hope for you its not happening..
You need to get him back in the house with you, and I would also be honest with him and ask him, he may not be honest with you, but at least you will have tried!
Congragulations on the birth of your babies:)
2007-11-08 12:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca Y 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
id say hes feeling the pressure of family life rather than having an affair.if he was having an affair surely he would go to a hotel-somewhere you couldnt turn up unannounced. keep an eye on the situation though! good luck!
2007-11-08 12:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting Emotionally attached to your husband is part of the deal.......Being Co-Dependent is one thing......I would wonder enough about this myself......hire a detective.....
2007-11-08 12:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋