The mere thought of it, makes me physically ill? Is this a medical condition, or what? I don't know what to do, since my boyfriend of 5 yrs is saving to buy a ring? Egad.....
2007-11-08 03:31:23 · 40 answers · asked by jefskta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hard to say, since I don't know you. Does the thought of ANY marriage make you ill---or just the thought of marriage with this guy?
Maybe you have seen some examples of marriage that gave you a horrible impression.
At least you are taking it seriously--otherwise, you would have such strong feelings. When people don't take it seriously, they also don't work at it seriously.
I've been married for twelve years, and it is work. There's no fairy-tale marriages.
2007-11-08 03:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by CDB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. You don't have a medical condition, although you might have a psychological condition but I don't like to throw that out lightly.
Do you have a reason for ir making you feel ill? Did something bad happen in your past? What do you think happens to married people? Is it the commitment? The chains? The potential babies? Growing up? What have you seen? What do you associate with marriage?
Marriage is a great thing, you can't get that kind of support any other way. A loving commited partner is something people can only wish for, you are so lucky. Please don't feel sick, my boyfriend is also saving up for a ring, and I couldn't feel more excited! I love that kind of support.
Contact me if you want to talk any more about it. It really is a special thing that you will remember forever, so it's not right if you feel bad about it.
2007-11-08 03:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Hye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been with your boyfriend for 5yrs that is a good sign that you're satisfy with your relationship. Only a few things that come to my mind and one is Fear! I am sure that you have heard so many bad story about fail marriages that it makes you sick. Because you don't want it happen to you and destroy your dream and hope of a good marriage life. Next, I think you're not ready even being with him for 5 yrs. You feel better in a relationship than married him. Maybe some where deep down inside of don't love him enough to married him. So, I suggest that you sit down and rethink what is wrong and good about married him. If the wrong out weight the good, then you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend about marriage. Don't let him get his hope up too high when you know that you really don't want to married him. Good luck
2007-11-08 03:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they call it nerves. A boyfriend of 5 years buying a ring is a sign that he deeply loves you. If when the time comes and he present you the ring and asks you to marry him and you can not give him an immediate answer than you should not get married because you are not ready for it.
2007-11-08 03:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by kclarkhorses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety! It could be the GOOD or the BAD. At that very moment and the onset try to write what you are feeling and thinking and any thought, no matter how obscure. It may be fear of commitment, btu it could be that you are there cuz you 2 are feeling "it has to be this way" and to wait. I am being told that over & over again and I am at 4 months - I hope to make it to your 5!!!!!!!!
2007-11-08 03:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by bSquirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you are gay, and not really attracted to men? This happens a lot more than you might think. Maybe your boyfriend is not the man, ( or woman) for you. I would not advise entering a marriage when the thought makes you physically ill.
2007-11-08 03:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, to my knowledge there is no medical reason for this feeling, but what it sounds like to me is that you really aren't in love with your boyfriend, maybe you should make a list of all the things you like about him and all the things you don't like about him, try that and if the don't's are longer i would get out of that relationship.
2007-11-08 03:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by cowdog8me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are afraid of the commitment. Marriage is suppose to be forever, maybe that's what scares you. It could be simple cold feet and it could be much more serious, like you not feeling that he is really "the one". Only you can decide what makes you feel this way, but you need to think about EVERY aspect of it.
2007-11-08 03:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend is saving to buy a ring and the mere mention of becoming his wife makes you sick, then get the hell out of there. be honest with him and tell him how you feel. and for gods sake, as long as you feel this way, don't get married! there are enough divorced people out there.
2007-11-08 03:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then maybe you should think about NOT getting married to this man. You will probably devastate him when you tell him but you'll devastate him if you, tell him how you feel about the thought of marriage to him Anyway. so don't ruin HIS life by keeping him hanging on when you have no intention of marrying the poor guy.
2007-11-08 03:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋