If one spouse does not want to have sex because there not in the mood should they still give in to make there partner happy?
2007-11-08 01:37:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know alot of women out their are gonna say, this girls crazy! or no way! but, a selfless loving wife will do whatever it takes to set her own needs aside to satisfy her husband, now I only make this sugestion for married couples not for boyfriend and girlfriends, your relationship doesnt count till your married, but for all the wives out their, satisfy your man! because if you dont, someone else will! I mean really, whats five minutes out of your day gonna hurt? and if it takes faking it, so what? we all do it, and girls, you know this is true!
2007-11-08 01:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well when you get to the point where love making becomes just sex then you both need some real pro help.When you and your spouse do have sex as you call it do both of you injoy it?And I don't mean when you give in and have sex with your spouse.Are you or your spouse on any kind of drugs that stop the feeling from being in the mood for sex?See my wife take a drug like Prozac that makes her not in the mood for sex.If that is not the case then you both need to try more ways to injoy sex. Maybe your bored with the old ways and need to jump start your sex drive.But your self in there place think how you would feel!Would you want them going out and getting it from some one other then you.You both need to sit down like husband and wife and talk about this find out where the problem is and work on it. Try some roll-play both of you put your self in the other place and see what goes on from there.Talk it out and find were the problem comes from and work on it. Don't let a thing like sex end your marriage work on geting back to injoying sex again. Good luck and hope things work out.
2007-11-08 02:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by the answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk about why she has to fake it. Their is a communication problem. Their may be something holding her back from being completely free to reach a climax. From the male p.o.v., women have to be aroused long before the physical intimacy begins. Women need longer to build up than guys do. Remember intimacy between partners is a mutual understanding. If its not that its just "getting off," and not ########### or physical intimacy. Their are four things that couples should talk about before marriage and during marriage that cause or may cause problems. They are sex, communication, finances, and children. Those four things make or break a union between a man and a woman. Hope that helps.
2007-11-08 04:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by cpianoman2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which one are you talking about--giving in, or faking it? When your spouse is in the mood and you're not, you need to make concessions and give in sometimes (not all of the time, but sometimes). This is not faking; it's a part of being married. It's the give and take that keeps a marriage alive.
2007-11-08 01:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I think they should!!! Although one could try to get the other in the mood. A body massage, or lots of 4 play.
2007-11-08 01:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. The wife should never do that all the time. That's not fair to her. But marriage is about compromise and sometimes it's ok to fake a little enthusiasm to see your sweetie so happy. I'm not saying you need to do something you're not comfortable with. Not at all.
2007-11-08 01:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Honesty and trust are key.
If one doesn't want to, respect that. It's not a "duty", its something special that two people share between themselves. It is indeed all the better when you both are in the mood and wanna get your boogie on! Oh yeah!
2007-11-08 01:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ponyboy99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So...in your house the woman is going to make the man have sex when he's not in the mood. I don't think so clever clogs. And the same applies the other way - in that case the proper name is 'rape' - and yes, rape is possible within marriage.
2007-11-08 01:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, there no need to fake. You should be honest with him but there are consequences to the truth. Ask yourself why you don't want to have sex? Once you have the answers to that go from there.
2007-11-08 01:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you cant make your husband understand about your mood, sometimes it is advisable to fake it.
2007-11-08 01:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ashok 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋