Marriage & Divorce - 5 November 2007

2007-11-05 14:29:44 · 12 answers · asked by Married and Bitter 1

He has always had problems waking up. I literally half the time used to have to kick him out of the bed to get him awake. Now he is working third shift, so I thought it might get easier, but no - it is becoming more difficult again. His best friend suggested I get a plastic baseball bat and beat him with it if he doesn't wake up after the second time I tell him it's time to get up. I think that's childish, I feel like he should be able to get himself up and be responsible and get himself to work. No one wakes me up to get me to work. I am tired of having to take care of my husband like I do my kids.

My problem is if I don't get him up, I'm afraid he will lose his job from always being late. How are we supposed to survive on just my income if he can't hold a job? So far, I haven't let him sleep late enough to even get in trouble. But I am so stressed out and it is so infuriating to see him mope around trying to wake up and not make an effort to be responsible. HELP!

2007-11-05 14:20:02 · 8 answers · asked by swheatmamato3 2

Does it feel the same or would she feel the difference?

2007-11-05 14:19:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just to sum it up..I took my bf back after a 3 yr break up. We are married now with a 7 yr old. We are good parents. When we were just bf and gf we broke up because he left me for another female (our son was 2). Since we been married, he's talked to her on several occasions, before I found out I let him do as he pleased because I forgave and trusted him again. Now I wonder after finding out they've talked several times....what does that mean? He says it's nothing. I don't want to question my husband anymore than he's answered but I can't help but wonder..If it bothers me, shouldn't he respect that? If it is nothing, why does he do it? I want us to have freedom to do whatever we choose and be able to be faithful at the same time.
I feel like I do support him in good or bad situations. I believe in us. I don't ask the question anymore since he answered but
Why the need to talk to her? He says he'd never even have a fling with her so Why talk?

2007-11-05 14:17:11 · 18 answers · asked by Mrs 1

One has a very negative, selfish outlook, but is loving towards the spouse and the spouse only. The other is very positive, outgoing and spiritual. Money is first for one and people for the other. One is very dishonest and seems to fight with everyone all the time. The other studies Buddhism and is trying to become a better person. However it seems cruel for the one to leave the other even though they agree finally that they are too different. It would be taking away the one bright spot in his life, but maybe it would also force him to create other bright spots for himself. The couple has overcome many obstacles and do love each other, but their opposing natures constantly present problems. One loves the other, but the other's behavior has changed the attraction so that it is more of a parent/child relationship. It is horribly difficult to leave, but one is growing slowly and the other feels their growth is severly stunted by the whole situation. Is it time to move on?

2007-11-05 13:59:42 · 5 answers · asked by wrytoasts 1

When a guy wants to divorce them when she gets fat in the marriage. When a guy marries a skinny/average weight women and she gets far, I think it is ridicoulas for women to be mad that her husband doesnt love her anymore. Or do you think that unconditional love means that you can do anything and he will still kiss your feet?

2007-11-05 13:58:09 · 23 answers · asked by metro900 3

My husband and I just got married and he just started working 2nd shift. I work days. He is never at home and we fight all the time. I never get to see him, have dinner with him, sex with him, never get to sit down and TALK!??!?? What do we do??Am I looking for an easy way out?? I just am depressed coming home to NO ONE and as a newlywed its hard. I am so depressed and then he is leaving me at home and going on a hunting trip. I have to work yes. But I want to spend some time with him. What do I do?? Advice please

2007-11-05 13:48:42 · 18 answers · asked by hawaiiansun_82 2

Ok I´m a young single mom to a 4 yr old becuz the father of my child left me to marry someone else, during all the time they were together she told him to NOT have any communication with me and he obeyed her like a puppy. It angered me since he didnt even get along NOT vwen for my kid since he was not allowed to talk to me. His mom also never liked him having anytype of communication with me, prohibited him too. Time passes by and now he is NOT with the wife anymore...His dad who lives in another country comes here and says he wants to straighten things out and wants us to get along and have communication like we´re supposed to and tells his son that what he did to me was wrong and tells me i´m part of the family and blah blah which is nice cuz he made me feel good and like of he was on my side...but problem is that I´m not sure if I´m ready to make nice with the dad of my child since he has done to many things that have hurt me TREMENDOUSLY

2007-11-05 13:44:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-05 13:41:04 · 3 answers · asked by Farley 1

Okay Me and my husband have been together for 5 years. and we have 3 small children. i am 25 and he is 21.
i just want to know How do I know if he still loves me anymore after all these years. He has done some pretty hurtful stuff behind my back im sure you all know what im talking about! But that left me feeling pretty bad and jealous. I t ry to trust him but cant find it in myself. He says he loves me but it seems like just a routine thing when he says it. like there is no meaning to it. He doesnt seem like he is interested anymore. Yes ive put on a lil weight but I still look good and dress up with my heels and what he likes. but I have to fish for compliments or get hurt and cry over it before he says anything.
is it me or him. Does he still love me? or Want someone else?
How do I knkow that he wont cheat again.?
I am and have been completely faithful through out every thing and im still here. so its nothing that I have done. Guys am I just old news or something? i need to know

2007-11-05 13:32:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you move on from someone who told you he never wants to see you again. Especially when you did nothing on your part for this to happen, and really knowing this person wants nothing to do with you and you will never see that person again. How can I move on?

2007-11-05 13:32:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was fortunate enough to have been able to have spent my summers in Paris at my family's summer home while I was growing up. However, my brother was always intent on taking part in "volunteer" work and mostly stayed around our winter home in New York year round.

Frankly, his lack of travel and seeing the world has very much limited his view on relationships, and the type of girl to enter a "life" partnership with. My fiancée Megan (pronounced Mee-Gun) is a fantastic intellect. She is a partner at her floral shop and speaks three different languages. Every day is a learning experience with this beautiful flower of a woman. We travel to Paris and talk about paintings at the Louvre.

My brother is married to some dame who works at Subway. My goodness, she is not even interested in what is going on in the world today. Her idea of a good time is a hot dog and good seats at the races. She calls my brother Robert "Bob", which to me is a verb and NOT a proper name. She drinks BEER.

2007-11-05 13:26:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

is there something wrong with me I get bored then I just shut down.. what going on here whats wrong with this picture.....

2007-11-05 13:11:47 · 20 answers · asked by b ranch 1

Does it mean my husband wants other women because he watches porn after i go to work?

2007-11-05 13:11:37 · 14 answers · asked by Shady 1

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. It has been a WONDERFUL 2 years until "THE MONSTER IN LAW" comes around. She acts like she is a saint in front of her son but when her and i are alone she acts totally different. She tries to control parts of his life that she should have given up when me and her son got married. I don't know if i should be mad at my husband for allowing her to do the immature things she does or should i be mad at her for being a grown woman not knowing her boundaries and a mother and my place as a wife. I am really at my wits end with her. I really need some advice. I am open to suggestions.

2007-11-05 12:59:37 · 18 answers · asked by Damsel in distressed 1

I married this man a little over 3 mths ago, and dont get me wrong but i do love him, and his daughter which is 8 yrs old, but i am feelin at my wits end, his WHOLE life revolves around his daughter, hes on the verge of superoverprotector-he just got a new trk and guess wht this is his daughters, shes a great child, spoiled, but shes great. I hve tried to leave sev times but keep going bak some rsn, also her mom is here and we get along good, so no conflict there. I am so depressed abt this, now my hubby wont be intimate with me-fyi---hes 42 and im 22, i hve needs, and he refuses to be intimate becuz he says i snore at nite, and is punishing me frm having a bad attitude, but if u lived with him u would hve a bad attitude also!!! I am wanting to get a plce of my own, but im having a hrd time affording it, i just got a new job 2 mths ago, so im tryin to get on my ft, and mve, but i dont know if im doin the rite thing, im married but SO LoneLy : ( Please n e advice appreciated...

2007-11-05 12:58:04 · 17 answers · asked by alleybug_2003 1

Ok, so there's this married guy I work with. He flirted with me a few times, stares at me when I'm not looking, and I notice him come by my office more than usual. To me, that hinted that he might possibly like me and so I started falling for him.

However, when we're in the same room, he walks out or is gone before I even know it. Why is he avoiding me like that? Is it because 1) he likes me and knows it's wrong, 2) is it because he likes me and just is intimidated by me or 3) he doesn't like me?

Am I taking this too personally?

2007-11-05 12:45:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend and me have been together for 17mths Im 38 he is 35 I have kids he does'nt he has been making little remarks about getting married my question does a man bring up marriage unless it is in his head I never bring it up but he does qiuet often but he wont ask me whats up???

2007-11-05 12:35:35 · 6 answers · asked by tessa d 1

My husband use to be a womanizer. He went to strip clubs and bars to flirt with woman. Since we married he seems to have changed. I'm just wondering deep down is he really capable of changing these habits? or is he doing them without me knowing? We have a 3year old and planning to have another baby. I really need someon's opinion.

2007-11-05 12:27:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 11 and this is not a typical divorce. My parents REALLY do not get along. They cannot be in the same room with each other for more than 10 mins.I have not been to my dad house in about a year. he is not able to maintain cleanlyness in his home so child sevices wil not let me go to his house. Child sevices interviews me once and a while. I am a total daddys girl, but my parents really put me on the spot when I have to go to court with them. in 3rd and 4th grade I missed several days of school do to court and stuff. i have told my mom about this and she does feel bad but there is nothing she can do. please give advice! And yes, I do see a phycologist and my school guidance counselor.

2007-11-05 12:21:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband moved out last weekend while we try to see if we should divorce or can reconcile. My family has been my life for 17 years. I need some ideas on how to spend my time alone while I adjust to being alone.
I have one son 23 (lives on his own) and son 12 (lives with me but will have lots of visitation with his dad).
A few things I know is organizing the house- joining a health club. I am just trying to stay busy in my alone times, so I don't feel sad or feel like I want to call him. I want to give him his space to "see if he misses me".
Thanks in advance guys!

2007-11-05 12:19:38 · 17 answers · asked by Mommyk232 5

He's been lying. I kicked him out for a couple of days to give him an out if he needed it. I agreed to not have the same argument which was about him lying if he agreed to be honest in counseling. So he came back. And is still lying. He has lied about looking at porn (which really isn't even a big deal to me. my only problem is that he lied about it.) He lied about talking to "a friend" on the phone that he has known since middle school. He said he only sent her a message saying that she looked good in her pics because she just broke up with her boyfriend. After I confronted him, he said he changed his email for myspace because he was trying to cancel it and needed to get a notification and couldn't remember his password to his current email, but I pressed forgot password, it sent his new pass word to his same email. I can't stand being lied to. He says he loves me. My father did about the same thing and my parents ended up divorced. I don't want to wait 20 yrs to divorced

2007-11-05 12:16:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-05 12:13:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-05 12:12:24 · 13 answers · asked by blonde3 1

my mom and dad have been divorced for about 4 years now
i dont think it was my fault
they are still friends
i see my dad every other weekend but
he has a fiance
they want to have kids but my dad already has 4 kids including me
i think its really selfish of them to have kids
is that wrong?

2007-11-05 12:06:21 · 9 answers · asked by lillyisverysilly 2

I have been with my husband for almost 3 years now. We just got married 5 months ago and 2 weeks after he got up one morning went to work and never came home. I knew where he was and what he was doing( partying, drugs, sex with another,crimes,ect.). Recently he was arrested for 3 felonies and still sits in jail. He sends word to me that he wants to see me and would I go visit him. When I go visit him he expresses that he wants to work things out and get back together, he is sorry for what he did and blames the drugs for his actions. During our seperation I started seeing someone from my past that I was very comfortable with and really cared for alot. I don't know what to do. I love my husband very much but I care for this other man too. What should I do?

2007-11-05 12:05:41 · 25 answers · asked by marcy 2

he knows damn well those are his kids...they were both planned..we broke up cause he was cheating on me..at that time i was 2 months pregnant with our second child..whom hes never seen and hasnt visited or at least called our daughter in like 6 months..ok so today i go to check the mail and to my suprise theirs a halloween card..addressed to my daughter it says to dezy from dad..???? ok??? it talks about halloween and that he loves her and hopes she has fun trick-treating.. saying i love you your daddy?? what is his deal why would he do this??

2007-11-05 11:54:26 · 13 answers · asked by nahdya21 2

have you ever left your spouse? i need to leave. how do i do it? how do i make the giant leap?

2007-11-05 11:52:12 · 5 answers · asked by BOX 4

my husbands ex is taking him back for more child support he has pais in full and on time for over 6 years and he is actually ahead and he allready pays 400.00 a month he makes under 30,000 a year do you think they will raise it since he has paid soo soo good all these years

2007-11-05 11:49:58 · 11 answers · asked by Victoria S 1

The love of My Life Has Left Me What Do i Do???????????

2007-11-05 11:49:25 · 24 answers · asked by colin050659 6