is there something wrong with me I get bored then I just shut down.. what going on here whats wrong with this picture.....
2007-11-05 13:11:47 · 20 answers · asked by b ranch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then break up with her
you do not like her
nothing wrong with that
she probably in all reality does not like you
2007-11-05 13:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
New girlfriends are so cool because they are so new. It's only reasonable to figure that after you've been with someone for so long, you'll start to run out of things to say, and the "New Car Smell" will have worn out. When the luster has worn off (and it always wears off) it's easy to want to start searching for that feeling again. It's only natural.
But that doesn't mean you should call it quits, either. You have a good thing going here, and you've made it work for 4 years, which is better than about half the population nowadays.
My gf and I have been together for 6 years now, and we're getting married next fall. We both know what it's like for the shine to wear off the relationship, and 2 years ago, it almost cost us everything. We seperated for 3 horrible months, and that showed us just what a good thing we really had going on from the start.
Your problem is not an easy one to solve, sadly enough. Lots of relationships fail, because people miss that New Car Smell and start to search for that feeling they lost. The answer lies in find things you can do together to bring that fun back. It's hard to find, but it's worth the effort.
2007-11-05 13:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think there is no love if you get "bored" or "tired" of someone...... or maybe there was at the beginning but you're not a very tolerant person and get easily disappointed. That happens to me too. There was a time in my life when I jumped from one relationship to another and I had 3 in a 1 year span......... yikes. This happened after having had a 5-yr relationship with someone I was about to marry but luckily didn't. Then I had more formal ones, but they only lasted for 2 years or less each. I've always thought that there must be something wrong with me..... but then again, maybe I just haven't found the right person yet. Of course I'd like to find someone to spend many many years with.... but apparently that person just hasn't come by. Hopefully one day.... and maybe it'll be the same for you. There are people who just can't commit for different reasons, and if this is your case and you're happy this way, then there's nothing wrong with it as long as you try not to hurt those girls in the process. Good luck to you......
2007-11-05 14:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you haven't found the right person yet, you're not ready to get married yet, or you're just not marriage material.
No relationship with two people madly in love will get boring. You're obviously not in love with her, so it's time to say good-bye. Make sure you're really in love with someone before immediately jumping into a marriage. It's a big deal.
And sometimes, people are just simply not ready to get married yet. Maybe you're still in your young years, and you need to learn more about yourself.
And for some, they just don't feel like they're marriage material. They can't share things, they can't be affectionate, etc. I find it kind of hard to believe, that with the right person, they can't be happy. However, it's been done. Some people just despise the whole idea of marriage.
2007-11-05 13:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are a lot of work and the work has to be done by both parties. If no one works for the relationship it will just wither away until all that is left is cold kisses and arguing. Sure, people argue. Couples who communicate together and work towards a common goal stay together.
2007-11-05 13:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it just takes you longer to realize she's not the one? Maybe you're just not marriage material? Could be lots of things. I've been with my husband for 20 years and though things have been sluggish on occasion, we've been able to recover and get back to whats important. Maybe you need to ask yourself exactly what you want out of a relationship and get out quicker if you see it's not going to work out long term. Maybe you just need to date around a little more and discover who you are. Good luck ;)
2007-11-05 13:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear chap, chemistry is a very difficult thing for chemists to understand, much less the every day average man. What rule is there that you must engage a woman for a longer period than the four years that you have brought up in this equation?
Sir, sometimes we have to follow our male impulses without giving compromise to the fairer gender's perceptions. If four years is your cap, then follow your path and don't worry so much about their own Disney version of what life should entail.
2007-11-05 13:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-08 13:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stay married because they have inner love of person which does not diminish with time and complements their personality. You might not be spending enought time in the selection process and perhaps expecting too much of a relationship.
2007-11-05 13:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by ensoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just haven't found Mrs. Right yet. I have only been married for 1 1/2 years, but trust me, i'm not bored!
2007-11-05 13:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say Hell?...so i came a running..the day the girl dumps you is the day you will wonder "How the Hell did she dump me"
Marriage is to complicated just stay single....its much more fun.
Plus don't you see all the cheating going on in Marriage and Divorce section..
2007-11-05 13:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋