Does it mean my husband wants other women because he watches porn after i go to work?
2007-11-05 13:11:37 · 14 answers · asked by Shady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at all. He watches it when you aren't around probably because he already knows that you don't like it so he is respecting you by not having it on in your prescence or when its your time together. And besides he is no doubt just watching the particular acts that he likes that you probably wouldn't do for him. Like if he is into anal or 3somes or something, he will watch those and take care of his own fantasies and not burden you by bringing them up. Especially when he knows that you will say no. So in a word, he is being more considerate to you that way. May not seem like it, because some women just like to focus on the other women in the pornos as the "enemy", and forget about the fact that their own close minded views have led their man to porn in the first place. So its just best to be a bit more open in the bedroom and at the same time just let him use the porn to relieve his urges to do certain acts you know you will definitely say no to. I mean porn is way better than him finding someone out on the street doing stuff for him like that. And at least you won't be at risk of catching something either.
2007-11-05 13:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are dealing with this.
I have read so many stories about men (women too) who use porn. It is destructive and he is taking away something that should ONLY be given to you.
If you want to put an end to his porn (at home at least) install a filter like cybersitter (www.cybersitter.com) its inexpensive and works well (nothing is 100%). If you have a MAC you can go to www.integrityonline.com and get their dynamic filter as it is the only one available for MAC.
Your husband is using porn to replace relationship. He doesn't have to communicate with an image, meet the needs of an image or possibly be hurt by an image. He just uses it as a band aid.
I deal with porn addicts nearly every day and porn is destroying families right and left.
If you want some additional resources please visit my web site. www.savetnet.com
If you need some help with the filter installation go to my site and send me an email. I can help you remotely.
I recently changed my phone number and the site has not been updated. I don't give my number out on this forum but I will send it to you in an email if you request it.
Lastly, I know this probably hurts YOU. It is NOT about you. It's not about how you look or don't look. It's not about how you please him. There is something broken inside and he needs help to deal with it.
I bet your husband had a controlling mother, has eating issues, and more than likely some deep seeded anger.
Take it from someone who has been there and I can tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel if he CHOOSES to get help.
In the mean time. Protect yourself and your children (if you have them) from the porn coming into your home. Set boundaries for yourself and don't enable his behavior.
Warmest regards.
2007-11-05 13:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by pkgfinder 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they've been conditioned to engage in this type of activity alone since they discovered it. All those years hiding it from mom....it must have an affect......that seems to be the logical answer to me. That or the fact that it's out of respect for you OR it's more relaxing to wack it to a fantasy while alone....
I know it's more relaxing for me to flick my bean when the house is empty. You can just relax more. Does it mean he wants other women? No. It means he's an adult male with a computer. As long as things are normal in all other ways, life is good. :)
2007-11-05 13:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
human beings who do no longer watch porn are the two psycologically deranged or lieing. no longer actually everybody watches porn as a rule, and girls human beings do no longer watch as in many cases as adult men in unfavourable well being wager yet whilst somebody has under no situations seen 2 human beings screwing on digicam this modern-day they stay under a rock or belong in a psychological college.
2016-11-10 09:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a question that men should be answering. Women can only guess unless they have talked to a man who gave them some insight as to why.
2007-11-05 14:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by jennniferlea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are selfish and they want to orgasm without having to do any other work. When you're gone, he can fantasize and not feel guilty. If you want him to stop, just subscribe to Playgirl, leave a few copies out for him to stumble upon and the porn will disappear.
2007-11-05 13:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they will watch it with you or without you. Depending if your available. No, it does not mean he wants other women.
2007-11-05 13:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might or it could be that something is missing in your sex life and hes geting pleasure from porn, when you get home does he pull you into bed right away, if not he is proably masterbating ,or you could be right
2007-11-05 13:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
geez, Cursed_Romantic has it right!!!!!
give her the 10 points
she is brave enough to say what must be said
2007-11-05 13:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is a thing we do..don't know why.
But he loves you all the same.
2007-11-05 13:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋