he knows damn well those are his kids...they were both planned..we broke up cause he was cheating on me..at that time i was 2 months pregnant with our second child..whom hes never seen and hasnt visited or at least called our daughter in like 6 months..ok so today i go to check the mail and to my suprise theirs a halloween card..addressed to my daughter it says to dezy from dad..???? ok??? it talks about halloween and that he loves her and hopes she has fun trick-treating.. saying i love you your daddy?? what is his deal why would he do this??
2007-11-05 11:54:26 · 13 answers · asked by nahdya21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes we planned them back.
2007-11-05 12:01:49 · update #1
we were not legally married but in texas in common law..we were together for 3 yrs.
2007-11-05 12:09:47 · update #2
yes i got an attorney whos is gonna try to limit the visitations as much as possible..he lives out of state.and he hasnt cared to see my kids in over 6 months actually cause my son was six months last wk so its been about 8months.
2007-11-05 12:11:00 · update #3
its just so absurd how he lets his gf run his life and make his decisions he was a great dad to my daughter ..and now look at him didnt even come see her for any holidays last yr. (her bday xmas halloween, thanksgiving new yrs. any freakin holiday.
2007-11-05 12:12:11 · update #4
He wants to get a DNA test on the kids because he doesn't want to pay the child support. My guess is he's hoping that one of them will turn out to be someone else's and he'll be off the hook. He does still love your daughter but I think he may also be trying to upset you by sending that card. I hope everything works out for you and the b*stard pays for what he's doing to you. I'm so sorry.
2007-11-05 12:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Cassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a DNA test on any child I didn't think was mine. He might think the kids arent' his. What I really think is, he's asking for the test just to piss you off some. Be thankful he's sent a card. Thank him, ask him to send more cards and more often, and include a check every now and again. Good Luck
2007-11-05 12:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you let someone you don't really know inside your pants.
You make kids that are going to be nothing but future problem children of America.
The father sounds like a real stand up guy. You are probably not far behind.
The Rat
2007-11-05 12:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to make himself look good for court honey . I would let the courts know that this is the first time he has had any contact in 6 months . the judge wont buy his daddy dearest crap and you will get the child support . I dont think daddy will want to contest it cause if he does ,the judge wont like that . good luck and god bless honey .
2007-11-05 11:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a jerk !!!!!! Go along with him but let him know he is paying for the DNA tests,,,You havwe an attorney right..let them know that he hasn't seen or called either child in 6 months ...
2007-11-05 12:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being a jerk. Just go along with it and make sure your attorney has him not only pay for the tests, but also pay for the attorney fees. It's a stall tactic. He knows they are his. Good luck. This is only the beginning!
2007-11-05 13:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get the test done and move on. You two are playing games and this is definetly not healthy for the kids. Grow up and be more mature. Act like adults and not your shoe size.
2007-11-05 13:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him have the DNA test, then it's written in stone that they're his (make him pay for it).
Get child support and do not interfere with his relationship with his children.
You may not like him, but they have every right to.
2007-11-05 13:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by DesignDiva1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you married.. if you have the dna.. and you were not married then you give him his parental rights.. if your were than there should really be no dna.. but i would do it anyway..,most men do not like paying the child support.. they think it goes for the woman.. and her man.. not the child.. and yeah if he ask for it and child support dont order the dna. he will have to pay for it.. then tell him when the children are older your gonna tell him he did not think he was there father.. even if you never plan to do it.. it will bother him
2007-11-05 12:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is confused. Maybe he is unsure cause there are people filling his head with nonsense, but at the same time if it is his kid, he doesn't want to be missing out out them growing up.
2007-11-05 12:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋