Need ideas on how to spend time alone- Separated?

Question

My husband moved out last weekend while we try to see if we should divorce or can reconcile. My family has been my life for 17 years. I need some ideas on how to spend my time alone while I adjust to being alone.
I have one son 23 (lives on his own) and son 12 (lives with me but will have lots of visitation with his dad).
A few things I know is organizing the house- joining a health club. I am just trying to stay busy in my alone times, so I don't feel sad or feel like I want to call him. I want to give him his space to "see if he misses me".
Thanks in advance guys!

Answer 1

Time at the beach, time with friends, work longer hours (which in turn brings more money), a few Barbara D' Angeles books.

Answer 2

You can try to find things in the evening to do with your son, and you can use the internet to do such things as read books online or even learn something new. I will give you a link to handwriting analysis and you can learn that and it gives you a great way to learn about others. I learned it some time ago and it does keep your mind busy looking at handwriting of others.
If you put it in your search engine you might even find a site to learn another language. I saw one recently for Japanese. You might also find some friends on here to talk to by email and that will help pass the time away. I will give you a link to the handwriting site and for reading, the first link will connect you to a good site as well. you might eve check out asamanthinketh, a great site as well.
If you can do it without beating yourself up, you can also think of the relationship and what each of you could have done so that you wouldn't end up where you are now, appart.
Good luck to you and I hope things work out for you..

Answer 3

I know how you feel, I'm going through the same right now. Dealing with being separated. It's hard at first. But what gets me through the days is, spending time out of the house...keeping myself busy. Spend time with friends and family. Take some classes in whatever interests you. Try not to do things that will only remind you of him. You'll get through this. I hope things work out.

Good Luck =)

Answer 4

Well, are there any classes at a local school that you have thought you might have interest in, ex. photography, scrap booking, s/thing like that?
Are there any girl friends that you could start doing more things with, like going to the movies, out to dinner, girls night out (not bar hopping) kind of things?
Do you work? If not, maybe a parttime job. With the holidays coming up retail is always hiring.
Any kind of clubs that you would like to join in your community?
Volunteering at your local church or s/thing like that?
counseling for yourself to work through this hard time in your live.
There are lots of things, but after devoting so much time to your family only, it's s/times hard to come up with ideas. Take this time to refind yourself. Get back into the tings that made you happy when you were single or not being a mom and wife and housekeeper and everything else that has kept you from those things. Figure out what makes you, by yourself, happy.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

I'll just tell you what I did that helped me more than anything!! I traveled. When my children were gone to be with him on the weekends I would get outta town. Anything to keep my mind off of him and what he may be doing. I kept a journal and wrote down everything about how I was feeling every day. You could go to a movie, join a book club. The more people you find yourself with the better off you will be!! But beware, only surround yourself with happy people, so that you don't find yourself in the dumps during your alone time. Make it fun!!

Answer 6

Use this time to do things that you couldn't or wouldn't do for yourself before. Take care of yourself. Try a new craft or hobby. Have an adult pajama party with a few friends. Get out and go dancing. Spoil yourself. You deserve it. I admire the way you are handling yourself. And you are right about staying busy and not calling.

Answer 7

Try out a new hobby. Joining a health club is good, you can also join a book club, go to a craft store and join their knitting or quilting classes... or even better if you know how to do something like that, join a mentoring program or after school program and teach it to some kids. And whatever you do, making new friends is good for keeping your mind off your husband while you wait to see how it works out.

Answer 8

I think you better spent your time with the lord, try to read a bible and ask God why it's happened to you. Maybe there is a problem with your relationship to your husband. God is only help you if you trust him and seek his right way you never go wrong and you have a peace of mind. God bless...

Answer 9

Call some old friends. But stay away from the bar scene.

You'd be like a lamb in a den of wolves.

The Rat

Answer 10

take some courses at your local adult school or community college... start going to church, volunteer for a cause that fits your interests or skills. obtain a part time job doing something you like.. learn more computer skills, doing something that you have not done before might make him think, you are doing your things with out him, and make him open his eyes to the new you... if and when you see him, be kind but a little distant, be at home at night with your son...get interested in some of your child's activities and interests, you now have time for yourself and use it to improve your self and your sense of self.................