He has always had problems waking up. I literally half the time used to have to kick him out of the bed to get him awake. Now he is working third shift, so I thought it might get easier, but no - it is becoming more difficult again. His best friend suggested I get a plastic baseball bat and beat him with it if he doesn't wake up after the second time I tell him it's time to get up. I think that's childish, I feel like he should be able to get himself up and be responsible and get himself to work. No one wakes me up to get me to work. I am tired of having to take care of my husband like I do my kids.
My problem is if I don't get him up, I'm afraid he will lose his job from always being late. How are we supposed to survive on just my income if he can't hold a job? So far, I haven't let him sleep late enough to even get in trouble. But I am so stressed out and it is so infuriating to see him mope around trying to wake up and not make an effort to be responsible. HELP!
2007-11-05 14:20:02 · 8 answers · asked by swheatmamato3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They make these really annoying alarm clocks that look like race cars...You set it to the time you want him up set it on the floor and it is loud and when he reaches down for it...it wont be there..It races around the room till turned off....
2007-11-05 14:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he's not getting enough sleep. Does he go to bed early enough to wake up? If not, try to get him to come to bed sooner, if you know what I mean...sex can put him right out!
It could also be that he's depressed. Sometimes when men are depressed they don't act depressed or sad or anything like that because men are not to express their emotions, culturally that's a weakness, so they shut down. Sleeping too much, having trouble waking up in the morning, moping around in the mornings (depression is typically worse in the mornings), shutting down and spending too much time infront of the TV or the computer and not caring about his job or money are all signs of depression.
It could also be a sleep disorder or some other medical condition causing him to be tired or unable to sleep. Why not talk to him? Suggest he see a doctor if you think this applies.
Or it could be that he just really hates his job...this one will take some work to fix, as he'll have to look for another job, possibly go back to school etc. but it's worth it.
2007-11-05 22:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem to your husband. It is really difficult for me to wake most days. Unless there is something I am really looking forward to.
I still struggle with it at the times when life has no challenge for me. I have found that keeping a positive outlook and always having a challenge helps, but it is not 100%.
My only advise is to do what you can to build a positive outlook on life and guide him twords challanges that will make him want to be awake and start the day.
I can not say for sure, but please do not be too quick to judge him as lazy or irresponsible. I do not think you would find a single person that knows me who would describe me that way. It is just really tough to gain conscienceness in after sleeping. Don't know why?
2007-11-05 22:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he needs a physical examination to see if there is a reason for that. Get some good daily vitamins because if he is run down that could be a reason for not waking up easily. another reason for sleep problems and waking can be ADD or ADHD so perhaps a good physical exam can rule those out.
Once you rule out any physical reasons for that you can work on the motivational reasons. Good luck!!
2007-11-05 22:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A main concern I would have is if he's getting enough sleep. If yes, is it good quality? Many people, especially if overweight, get episodes of not breathing properly at night, not getting enough oxygen and end up lethargic. Is he taking sleeping pills/aids? Does he have beer/alcohol close to bed time? What kind of job does he have--is it physically demanding? Does he get a varied, healthy diet? Is he addicted to caffeine? Lots of other things to find out first.
2007-11-05 22:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a Neurologist and have a sleep study done. He might have Narcolepsy.
2007-11-05 22:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep on his a55.
2007-11-05 22:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce paper ........will scare the hell out of him
2007-11-09 22:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by xoxoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋