How do you deal with a sibling when their spouse is of a lower stature than your spouse?

Question

I was fortunate enough to have been able to have spent my summers in Paris at my family's summer home while I was growing up. However, my brother was always intent on taking part in "volunteer" work and mostly stayed around our winter home in New York year round.

Frankly, his lack of travel and seeing the world has very much limited his view on relationships, and the type of girl to enter a "life" partnership with. My fiancée Megan (pronounced Mee-Gun) is a fantastic intellect. She is a partner at her floral shop and speaks three different languages. Every day is a learning experience with this beautiful flower of a woman. We travel to Paris and talk about paintings at the Louvre.

My brother is married to some dame who works at Subway. My goodness, she is not even interested in what is going on in the world today. Her idea of a good time is a hot dog and good seats at the races. She calls my brother Robert "Bob", which to me is a verb and NOT a proper name. She drinks BEER.

WHAT is going on here, and HOW can I convince him that he is making a huge mistake. My family does NOT watch NASCAR and does NOT want to listen to this "woman" engage our cousins children with stories of drinking and……well, I just cannot say it out loud. But it's a word that rhymes with bore and signifies a true lady of the evening.

Answer 1

I am not a uptown girl (belch) excuse me but I bet that your brothers wife shows him a way better time than you will ever know! Are you a little jealous? Take me to the Mud Boggs and I am a happy Italian woman. Maybe you and Maygun need to take the broomsticks out if your butts! Just because you have money ...it does not make you any better than me or anyone else! I do make a decent living. I offer Technical support for Universities and schools around the world but it is just money. You cant take it with you and I dont care if I had money coming out of my ying-yang. I am and will always be down to earth. You lack personality and your brother Bob knows where its at.

Answer 2

I speak 4 languages,have travelled the world, and owned 3 businesses. It doesn't make me any higher or lower than anybody else. I have found that the simplest things, such as eating a "hot dog while sitting at good seats at the races", can be just as enjoyable as eating "un croissant with un cafe au lait" while walking through the streets of Paris.Speaking with an intellect or a single mom, is just as interesting. In other words, it makes no difference if one is a doctor or a waitress. It looks to me like your brother who as you said spent time volunteering, must have really connected and learned a lot about people, situations, etc. He probably found a person that is most suited for his type of personality. Just because it is not like yours, does not mean, his choice of mate is bad for him. If he seems to be happy, that is all that should be important. Spend less time on judging him and his wife, and more time supporting his happiness.

Answer 3

im sorry but it is not for you or anyone else in your family to decide what type of lady your brother marry's , unfortunately your being a pompus azz that cant see his own faults and thinks he's better then everyone else. Your brother obviously likes women that are more down to earth, and doesnt look at someones worthiness based on their finacial class. He's the one that has to be happy in this situation not you. If you married someone that makes you happy, thats great, dont deny him the same. Id tread lightly if i were you , you very well could end up losing your brother all together if you keep talking about the woman he loves in such a manner, and im sorry but i find that to be an extremely "low class" thing to do, so your not all that yourself.

Answer 4

I'm the person that styles your hair and my Stupid, Clumsy, Undereducated fingers just slipped and cut your throat. Now what do you do? Do you call me names and run out of my Debt-free salon or do you beg for mercy from this lowlife and hope that I can save your life ? You sir are just the type of people that I just love to pull off the high horse. And why in the world are you using something like a computer to ask a question? Isn't everyone beneath you? Do you and Megan even have friends? And how in the heck is her "flower shop" making any money if she is as snobby as you? Oh let me guess, all of her clientele are DEAD. Jeez, give me a beer. I need one after answering this question. I just hope you get what you deserve---a sad, lonely, little life!!!!!

Answer 5

Get a HOLD of yourself, man! WHY IN THE WORLD ARE YOU SO, well, SNOBBISH! Why do you care about this rubbish?! Does it really matter to you about how high your spouse's stature is than others? Who cares if she drinks beer? Is that any of your business? Just because you live in Paris does not mean
you must be so high class! Let loose! Relax for a while! Meditate or something! COME ON! Who cares about this guy's lack of travel? You have got to stop caring so much about other people's personal lives!

Answer 6

first of all we are all human and will all return to dust. she has not been as fortunate as you, i have personally felt a change in myself since my hubby began making more money. maybe you shouldn't judge her as harshly. i was not born rich, and have found a way to enjoy even a great hot dog with a beer at the races. i have also enjoyed a great glass of wine with a delectable lobster in a high priced city. maybe you should teach her a thing or two that you know and maybe you will learn something too. the fact that she isn't as book smart as you fiancee doesn't mean that she is not worth taking your precious time on. don't be a judgmental privileged man, nobody likes that kind of people. i myself speak two languages fluently and a little bit of an other. i was proudly born to two working class persons, that have taught me as much as they could. i have not traveled the world, and i do not consider myself stupid or dumb. i love and enjoy a good piece of art. and have a great relationship with my spouse that you could say had nothing but my love to help him pick himself up. indeed he did and now after five tough years he has a painting company of about thirty workers. i am extremely proud of him and would love him even if he didn't have new money. you are human and don't forget it!

Answer 7

As the saying goes, "Live and let Live."if the choice of Wife, your Brother chose, does not conform to your standards, are you your Brother's keeper? If he chose this Woman It was because he fell in Love with her, and he did not care who, or what anybody said of his Choice. You sound like a Stuck-up guy who sees everything bad about people. So, if I was you I would mind my own business and would tell my brother that all I would want for him would be Happiness and a good Life for both of them. If as you say She Drinks Beer, what is it to you if she does, I am sure it does not bother your brother in the least. What if your brother's wife had called him Bobby, I wonder what you would do.

Answer 8

How high would you have to jump to get over yourself?

What if you're brother bashed Megan like that?
You can't choose who he loves, and besides he's married. Everyone loves and looses differently. I have friends who are both rich and well not rich.

I once worked in an office where I dealt with low income families, and when I interviewed with an investment firm. I was told that I would have to "treat the clientele differently" , only because they were rich.
I quickly thanked him for his time and left in mid interview. I wouldn't want to be around someone who thought the rich deserved better treatment than the poor.

You made me think of that. Your Megan is no more of a woman than the "sub shop" lady. (as you failed to even give her a name). You should take her out to dinner and get to know her. If you still dislike her at least you have it a try. You still shouldn't disrespect your brothers choices.

Answer 9

You may have been fortunate in your up-bringing honey, but being a world traveler does not make you any better than your brother. In fact, it appears to have made things worse for you. See, in the bigger scheme of things, with the money taken away, your brother has done something with his life that benefits others. You've only done things to benefit yourself. Rather shallow if you ask me. And rather foolish on your part as well. The reason I say that is because your type is so focused on notariety. The ironic thing about that, is that your brother will be remembered by so many for the good deeds he's done after he's gone, while everyone will remember you for one deed. . . the deed to your house left behind in the will.

Not such a great thought now is it? Live freely and stop judging others. . . it's not going to make you any better in our eyes.

Answer 10

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