One has a very negative, selfish outlook, but is loving towards the spouse and the spouse only. The other is very positive, outgoing and spiritual. Money is first for one and people for the other. One is very dishonest and seems to fight with everyone all the time. The other studies Buddhism and is trying to become a better person. However it seems cruel for the one to leave the other even though they agree finally that they are too different. It would be taking away the one bright spot in his life, but maybe it would also force him to create other bright spots for himself. The couple has overcome many obstacles and do love each other, but their opposing natures constantly present problems. One loves the other, but the other's behavior has changed the attraction so that it is more of a parent/child relationship. It is horribly difficult to leave, but one is growing slowly and the other feels their growth is severly stunted by the whole situation. Is it time to move on?
2007-11-05 13:59:42 · 5 answers · asked by wrytoasts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't think it is time to move on. first of all you are married. try counseling.
2007-11-05 14:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work just great if you two learn to respect the difference in each other.
I would guess you are the one who is studying Buddhism. I suggest you keep up your studies. They will give you many of the answers you seek. See if you can find a story in the teachings where someone runs away from a commitment and the outcome is favorable...I bet you can not.
2007-11-05 14:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The spouses or partners must have similar or identical moral VALUES but ought to be VERY DIFFERENT from each other otherwise. People who have similar interests, hobbies, etc. get bored with each other very fast and then the relationship breaks down. The best thing is to find a partner who is from another country or culture but has similar moral values.
2007-11-05 14:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't mean to sound cruel, but u guys need dr phil or some one like him
2007-11-05 14:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do him a favor and leave. You sound insufferable.
2007-11-05 17:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋