Marriage & Divorce - 9 October 2007

I and my husband have not been getting along lately and I’ve been thinking about divorce or separation. Now that he is getting deployed he doesn’t want me to stay with my parents. You think he is being selfish? He wants me to go live with my in-laws because I don’t have to pay rent, food or utilities. His family owns a company and they are financially wealthy and live in Maryland. He had been deployed to Korea for a year in 2005 and I stayed with his family, now I want to stay with mines. My family is soon moving back to Texas and I want to stay with them. My husband said that if I left to live with my parents that he would take the car away, and will not support me financially. I don’t care because I can support my self. Only thing I would file for is child support. 600 dollars a month is not bad, right?

2007-10-09 10:14:39 · 17 answers · asked by anonimo 1

i recently saw a show where a man had two human size dolls that he dresses, does their hair, and sleeps with them. everything of the doll is made to fit his expectation, lookwise, race, skincolor, weight, breast size, everything, the whole package. He says he would never have to worry about not being loved or being cheated on. He even said that if he died, he would want to be buried with his dolls. I find it interesting yet disturbing. What if one day these dolls replace us? Would a guy really pick a doll over us real woman? It's like a stepford wife kind of thing. what happened to love and companionship?

2007-10-09 10:10:42 · 16 answers · asked by sleeping.b3auty 1

If I was castrated in an motorcycle accident.,Am I supposed to be alone the rest of my life? Would a woman love me enough to stick by me?

2007-10-09 10:06:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

For those of you married a long time how did you weather the storms of life without breaking up or giving up and when you or your spouse did not have a job, how did you cope?

2007-10-09 10:05:02 · 10 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

Squid is going to Northern pastures tomorrow for days training.. goodnight all.

2007-10-09 10:02:53 · 11 answers · asked by skaska 5

My fiance of 2 years won't stop treating me like his Mom. He calls me crying about everything. Yes, actually crying. He wants me to support him in our relationship. He thinks I'm going to leave him one day and if I ever hang the phone up on him he calls me back in hysterics, asking if I don't love him anymore.

The problem is I love him. I really do with my whole heart, but I don't like being his Mommy about everything.

His Mom divorced his Dad for being the exact same way, I don't want our relationship to end up like that, How can I make him stop? He's on my nerves.

2007-10-09 09:52:48 · 18 answers · asked by Latefortea 2

In July, I discovered (innocently) that my wife lied to me about a number in her phone. As a result, I secretly looked at her phone's directory and discovered a suspicious entry. I also discovered a series of text messages/emails indicating that she was at the very least engaging in inappropriate flirting, if not actually having an affair. When I confronted her with the evidence I found, she immediately denied that anything improper had taken place, explained that it was only flirting and that she would never let herself cross the line again.

Importantly, she attacked me quite harshly because of the way in which I obtained the information - snooping around her cell phone/email.

1) Do ends ever justify the means in such a circumstance - is my snooping understandable/justifiable?

2) Having recently discovered another suspicious text message (cancelling a dinner plan with Mr. X on a night on which I was out of town), how can I confront her w/o admitting to new snooping?

2007-10-09 09:47:49 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

And at what age did you actually get married? Or if you are not married yet, do you plan on getting married one day?

2007-10-09 09:46:21 · 9 answers · asked by sleeping.b3auty 1

My husband has a porno addiction and it has really affected me emotionally .It has been going on for the 3 years that we've been married. We spoke about it before and he is always in denial. He told me once that he had that problem since he was 15 years old and now is hard for him to let it go. I have a low self esteem because of this. I'm constantly worried about him being alone at home. We have a 1 year old and don’t want him around his dad if I’m not home. I set up a hidden camera in our house and saw that my husband didn’t even pay attention to our son. He was all into his porn. I’m really angry at him and don’t even know what to do. I want to be able to hang out with my friends, start working now that my son is older, finish school, and everything that us girl like doing, but I don’t see how. I just don’t want my husband setting a bad example for our son, he suppose to be his role model. I don’t trust him aver since I found about his addiction. We have talked about getting counseling and my husband refused not to get help. I did get counseling but it didn’t help me at all. Obviously I can't change him and the change needs to come with in him. What if he continues like this? I really love my husband but if he doesn't change his bad habit then I see no point of being in this relationship. So what would you do if you where in my shoes? Also He is in the military and he spends most of his time working, on his free time or weekend he spends all day playing online video games. We have no life, and I don’t want this to be a miserable and boring life for my child.

Answer only if you are against porn and please don’t be rude! Thank you!

2007-10-09 09:46:21 · 21 answers · asked by anonimo 1

we make about 5,000 month (he makes 3,500 and i make 1,500... yeah not much but im going to go to college in 2 months so this is temp im actually going to quit and get a part time... so it will be less.....anyways.... he has court today for child support how much do you think he'll have to pay for child support? he already got the insurance for the baby.... i think it cost him $200 a month......the baby's mama doesnt work and had another baby from another guy... and if she does she works as a hotel room cleaner getting paid min wage... ..... yeah DRAMA!!!! but seriously anyone have any idea???

2007-10-09 09:46:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before meeting or marrying my husband he had another girlfriend whom together had a son. She kept their son and sends him with us for summer & christmas. But she is now a stripper. we feel that she would be not taking care of him as she should. I know that's her personal business but a 7 yr old whom mother isn't around at nights and knows she is a dancer is kind of unhealthy. Someone give me some advice of what can we do.

2007-10-09 09:44:13 · 35 answers · asked by lucy 3

Do we have to get along or can we simply stay away from each other? My ex had an affair and left me for the other woman after a ten year marriage. I have to deal with my ex for the sake of our son. I do not bad mouth my ex or his girlfriend. I want my son to have a good relationship with his Dad. I have done all I can to help my son adjust. But given the circumstances we will never be one big happy family. I see a lot of questions from step mothers on here asking how to deal with their husband's ex wife. My question...why not just stay away from each other? As long as the kids are being taken care of at both homes - do not deal with each other. Make an agreement - no contact. Let the exs deal with each other and leave it at that. Is this possible?

2007-10-09 09:40:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

then he acts like my house is his and goes wherever. If I say something its like talking to a rock. I get tired of fighting so I have kept quiet but it bugs me. Would it you?

2007-10-09 09:37:04 · 53 answers · asked by JustWant2B 5

I mean I love my husband. I don't know if I am truly in love with him. He is my best friend. Is this as good as it gets. I find myself yearning for more . we have alot of history and kids together but we made it a point not to stay together for the kids. but I find myself always wondering Is this really love or am I just settleing

2007-10-09 09:26:41 · 25 answers · asked by * SalLyRokz * 2

I get my son every other weekend and every tuesday and thursday after school and thursday he sleeps over and i bring him to school the next day. His mom has him when i don't. We have beening doing for 5 yrs and it works out great but now that his in school i wonder if this is the best for him. What i mean would it be better to have his mom keep him during the week so he can have the same routine for school nights and i could get him every weekend?At my house he has to sleep on the couch in the living room at his moms he has his oun room. On tuesday when he goes home at 8 it only gives us 2 hours by the time his homework is done and we eat its time to bring him home to his moms. I would miss not seeing him all week and he would miss me too I just feel hes being shuffled around from one place to anouther. My ex is fine with ether way.

2007-10-09 09:18:04 · 12 answers · asked by pete L 1

We are in our second year of marriage. I am disappointed that my husband is not as family oriented as I was expecting. We have 4 kids between us and hes not all that interested in creating together time...with all the kids together. Do I continue to suggest family dinners only to be knocked down, or do I arrange together time with my step kids and mine but not include hubby? I think part of the problem is that he feels guilty over the new blended family because he left his first wife for me. what shoudl i do?

2007-10-09 09:15:19 · 5 answers · asked by Twiggy 3

how have you and your mate changed since marriage? explain.
what were some adjustment problems to your marriage?
what was the solution to this problem?
any words of advice for me?

2007-10-09 09:11:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Your husband says to you:

"I prefer you slimmer but it's a preference not a problem."

Are you hurt?

2007-10-09 09:01:39 · 29 answers · asked by Kitten 4

He has never married, but he said--"He is divorved"

What do he trys to tell people?

2007-10-09 08:57:42 · 36 answers · asked by Hope 4

My friend is thinking about leaving her husband. The thing she is struggling with is that she is younger, and this is her second marriage. He husband can be a major A$$hole, but she thinks that everyone will look down on her for being divorced twice. She really needs to be whole again, and I don't think she can even live a healthy (mentally) life with him. Is it a big deal these days to be divorced twice. She shouldn't stay because of people looking down on her for being divorced twice? Am I right?

2007-10-09 08:56:11 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 08:51:19 · 16 answers · asked by af 1

i am engage and in love with my fiance. we both ahve kids from previous relationships. I have one but my ex does not even show his face, he is not a problem to us. on the other hand my fiance has two kiddos from two drifferent women. to me its a little hard to get used to the idea that they "the mother's" will always be a part in his life. one other thing is that one of them is not happy with me and him being together. she is not very nice to me when we see eachother. he said he had talked to her about it. he tells me just to ignore her. really not sure how to handle her or the situation because i don't want to fight with her or cause any problems between them. you know make things worst! for right now i try to ignore the whole thing but its hard. she told him she doesn't want to see us together when she is around or when he pick up the kid. she wants respect but she can't respect me...
it might get bad when she finds out that him and i are planning our wedding for next year.

2007-10-09 08:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by preciosa 1

A very close friend of mine has been married for 3 months. The other day, he found out that she is cheating on him and he told her that he wanted a divorce. She lives in the home with no children and because he doesnt want to be around her, he has taken him and his child (previous relationship) to a friends house. She has no job and he pays all the bills. Is there a way that he can have the house and she move home with her parents? He lived in the home before her and signed the lease a few years ago. She has been staying with her new "boyfriend" but wont vacate. What should he do prior to divorce?

2007-10-09 08:43:29 · 7 answers · asked by :) 2

reduced? What is the amount based on, like minimum wage or what if one parent is unemployed? Really in this case the custodial parent does not work either so how is this fiqured. The amount has been set since the divorce when the noncustodial parent was working, just wondering? Child support has been paid somewhat by family at times This is a difficult situation, where the non-custodial parent was mental problems but draws no disability or income. Thanks

2007-10-09 08:41:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for three years, and have been separated (now divorced) for a year and a half. My ex sent all wedding pictures to me after I moved home from overseas where we were living together. Until now I've had them at the bottom of a box in my closet, as I'm unsure what to do with them. It seems like a shame to throw them out, but at the same time they're pictures of my past - no longer the life I'm living. My boyfriend and I have recently decided to move in together and these pictures make him uncomfortable. (Understandably so.) Unfortunatly after spending 5 years with my ex, there are a lot of "memories" floating around in the form of photographs, some in albums which include close friends and family members. I have no negative feelings towards my ex. I'm not sure what to do. Should I chuck them? Burn them? Give them to family? Any advice would be great - especially if you have experience with this.

2007-10-09 08:34:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's ex has custody of his 5 year old son. He is supposed to have his son on holidays and school vactions, but she refuses to let him come (she lives in another state). We have a lawyer and have gone to court. The court told her she must let the visitation happen or she would be in contempt, but still she did not let him visit. He has not seen his son in over a year. The last court date we had was in June and finally we have one set for the end of November. Can he ask for custody of his child based on her not following court orders which are based on the best interest of the child? He is also paying a lot of child support plus the cost of the child's travel expense (which she has never returned). She says the only income she has to support herself is child support so she can't get the child here.

2007-10-09 08:31:08 · 22 answers · asked by klyn 2

he said she and him have a relationgship. mind you, this girl has been married twice, just kicked her husband out, and has a little girl she doesn't see much. the husband has taken care of the little girl, since this woman works 6 days a week

2007-10-09 08:29:47 · 15 answers · asked by kimberly k 5

Please help me with my husband's 30th birthday this weekend!

2007-10-09 08:17:06 · 11 answers · asked by Mlle 2

Last weekend a guy called me and invited me to go downtown. I was already out on the town, so my friends and I met up with him and his friend. He offered to check my coat, bought me all my drinks, only danced with me and walked me to my car. He's definitely a gentleman and didn't try to make any moves.

So was that a date? Or what was he thinking?

2007-10-09 08:12:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do yal think about pre-martial sex???? i am not married and i have sex with my Fiance and him only but we are getting married....
What do u think???

Find me interesting???? dont forget to mark the star. best answer will get 10 points

2007-10-09 08:09:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous