Marriage & Divorce - 9 October 2007

How have u made your relationship last so long? I know my parents have been married for going on 23 years this year, and they act like they friggin hate each other lol, but i know deep down they still love each other. almost every day i wonder why they're still even married when they can act so mean toward each other. How have you made your marriage last? Why do u think you're still with the person you're married to?

2007-10-09 07:38:16 · 10 answers · asked by Nacho Chacho 7

The people next door to us have been there for 4.5 years. They have 3 children ages 4,2.5 and about 9 months. This entire summer we have only seen these children outside 3 times, day or night. They have enough yard/riding toys (Grandpa bought them) to open a day care. These people don't even open their drapes. In all 4.5 years I'll bet we haven't seen them out more than about 6 times. I used to think it was because my husband and I sit on our screened in porch on the weekends drinking beer, (we are middle aged, we are not loud and rowdy) and they are Baptist and of course this is not accepted in their church. (I do not condemn religions either, I am also a believer and pray a lot). Would they keep their children in just because we embibe or is there something else going on here. I am very concerned. Or, am I just nosey?

2007-10-09 07:34:45 · 22 answers · asked by Penny 4

I've often noticed that women over 35 or so who are still unmarried have a really hard time to convince people they meet that they are actually sane and good people. On the contrary, married women or ever divorced women command more respect. This hangover from the days when a single woman was a disorder to society and a disgrace to her family is incredible in this day and age. I think that there are many women now who would love to meet the right guy but in the event that they don't, then they are not willing to settle for less. Alternatively, there are others who are quite contented with the very nice single life they have carved out for themselves. Opinions please!

2007-10-09 07:19:14 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 07:08:51 · 11 answers · asked by Sandy S 1

Did you find out on your own or did they confess?

2007-10-09 07:08:06 · 27 answers · asked by shellj_foxy 3

My ex (she left me and the kids after 12 yrs of matrimony) owes me back child support. I know times are rough for her financially and have tried several times to keep the peace (ex. part of the money she pays, I send back with the kids) but I still find myself arguing with her and having to stay on her to pay what was ordered. Recently, I forgave about 3 weeks worth of support and, in kind she do me a favor or two to repay me (simple stuff like picking the kids up for me so I can go workout or taking them out for an extra day on one of my weekends). She became irate and, long story short, felt she was hoodwinked into signing an unfair decree. She made it clear that what support I get from her should be enough because I make more than her.

I really don't want to report her to the court or the authorities but the kids need both of our support. Any ideas on making the situation better?

2007-10-09 07:07:00 · 13 answers · asked by Randall 2

My son's father and i aren't together for different reasons, but mainly because we have completley different lifestyles. He likes to drink and party every day, and I don't want that around my son. I have been dating my current boyfriend now for over a year, but have known him since my son was born. He has good morals and values, and is great with my son. I still live with my parents and am in college, and he(my boyfriend) lives an hour away. I can't afford to move out on my own because I am in school full-time and only work part time which isn't enough . My boyfriend is planning on moving close to me, and recently mentioned us living together ((my parents and i are ready for me to move). I have always been against moving in with your bf or gf before marriage, but now i am starting to consider it. We do plan on getting married within the next couple years. I Just don't want to jump and make a decision without thinking about the consequences. I just need some helpful advice.

2007-10-09 07:04:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My abusive husband who has kicked, pushed, cursed, told me he only wanted me for my money, cheated on me, and told me that he wanted to trade me in for a younger wife.

I had a malpractice lawsuit and won. The check has my name AND HIS NAME on it. Is he entitled to any of it and if so, how much? Again, this lawsuit was due to an injury that I sustained.

Thanks in advance.

2007-10-09 07:02:15 · 20 answers · asked by IwishIwaspretty 1

Before you start the flame / hate responses..... Let me state that I absolutely LOVE my kids and wouldn't trade being a father for anything......

However - If you KNEW going in the changes kids would cause in your relationship between you and your spouse, would you still have had kids?

It seems that many women (my wife included) push their husbands to back burner status after the kids are in the picture...

Comments such as: the kids come first, then my hubby - he is grown and can fend for himself (etc....), are extremely common on this and other marriage forums.

The kids cause stress in the marriage, increased demands for time / $ / energy / etc....

Sometimes I just feel like I've been "dupped" into the family life... going in you're told by everyone, friends, family, co-workers, that kids are a "blessing" and the "greatest thing in your life", etc... of which I agree....

However - very few will EVER speak honestly and cadidly about the TOLL kids take on a marriage.

2007-10-09 07:01:36 · 25 answers · asked by aa889d 5

My son's father and i aren't together for different reasons, but mainly because we have completley different lifestyles. He likes to drink and party every day, and I don't want that around my son. I have been dating my current boyfriend now for over a year, but have known him since my son was born. He has good morals and values, and is great with my son. I still live with my parents and am in college, and he(my boyfriend) lives an hour away. I can't afford to move out on my own because I am in school full-time and only work part time which isn't enough . My boyfriend is planning on moving close to me, and recently mentioned us living together ((my parents and i are ready for me to move). I have always been against moving in with your bf or gf before marriage, but now i am starting to consider it. We do plan on getting married within the next couple years. I Just don't want to jump and make a decision without thinking about the consequences. I just need some helpful advice.

2007-10-09 07:00:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 06:54:09 · 20 answers · asked by NG 2

I am trying hard to break free from a co dependent relationship. I was with my boyfriend for 8 years and took care of him as if he was my child. He has never had much motivation in life. I moved out of the house 3 months ago, but I still continued to see him. I even started back paying his bills for him. I told him that I did those things becasue I love him. He does not have a job, He does not have license or any transportation. He tells me he loves me all the time and he says he is not using me, but I also know that he is a chronic liar. He tells lies all the time. But he still says he loves me. I dont understand. Anyway today is the first day that I have not been by to check on him. Do you think he will call me?? What do you think will happen?? I miss him but I know he is no good. Please someone I need some major mental help and advice!!!!

2007-10-09 06:53:00 · 10 answers · asked by Sunny 2

I specifically forbade her from exposing herself in public above the knee, above her elbow, or below her neck yet she continues to wear revealing clothing. I burned a whole drawer of tank tops, yet she keeps buying more? I've already cut her allowance and am not letting her see her friends, but it's not working. If not a harsher punishment, how can I get her to listen?

God Bless.

2007-10-09 06:30:11 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Any takers?

2007-10-09 06:29:55 · 33 answers · asked by Senator John McClain 6

Well I have been not getting along with my husband. His mom moved in unannounced. He lost his job I am stuck with the bills, mom is lazy, my kids are both in school. She claims she came to live with us to babysit. I don't need a babysitter. I am going crazy.....It so happens I don't buy the right brand of groceries for her to cook with. My husband is the youngest of the family, he has four older siblings and no one wants to take the responsibility to take care of the 56 yr old mom. She has a small drinking problem....has always been a homemaker. I want her out but she has no where to go. Husband is not help....his mother is coming between us. What shall I do????? I want my marriage to work.

2007-10-09 05:44:22 · 13 answers · asked by ahhhmaazzzing 1

2007-10-09 05:40:45 · 6 answers · asked by icunurse85 7

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2007-10-09 05:38:31 · 4 answers · asked by Hoosier Mom 5

2007-10-09 05:34:11 · 34 answers · asked by Page 4

A friend of mine is going through a NASTY divorce, his soon to be ex wife a mean, cheating, crazy woman, and she's admitted it. She uses the kids against him, threatens them that if they tell dad shes got another bf, shes lied about things the kids have said about his gf, claims that everything is hers and she pays all the bills and he gets nothing. She only "lives" in the house on the weekends, they both have great income, and when she does come home, she upsets the balance ofpeace in the home, leaves for the week, he takes care of the kids.

His gf has made him a new man, he truely sees what love really is now, shes a great friend of mine and she's a strong person. His kids love her and she loves them. How can she be there for him and the kids during this hard time, without getting to involved in the divorce, without looking like she's trying to buy the kids or butter them up?????????????????? They've even said they don't want mommy to come home, or the don't want the gf to leave,

2007-10-09 05:11:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

we had been in love for seven years. we tried a lot to compromise our parents. but all plans failed. Eventually my girlfriend ended up marrying another guy chosen by her family. we convinced ourselves and finally we broke up. she went to another country. I started to accept life as it comes and started working towards building my career in business. And after 5 months since we broke my Ex comes out of nowhere and says that she wants to live with me. I am confused now.It seems that her husband never knew that she was having an affair with me before marriage. And now when he knew the relationship between me and his wife he cancelled her Permanent residentship and sent her back to India. she is the only thing i loved in my life. shall i take her with me or dump her.

2007-10-09 04:56:41 · 12 answers · asked by vijayakumar83 1

A friend of mine is going through a NASTY divorce, his soon to be ex wife a mean, cheating, crazy woman, and she's admitted it. She uses the kids against him, threatens them that if they tell dad shes got another bf, shes lied about things the kids have said about his gf, claims that everything is hers and she pays all the bills and he gets nothing. She only "lives" in the house on the weekends, they both have great income, and when she does come home, she upsets the balance ofpeace in the home, leaves for the week, he takes care of the kids.

His gf has made him a new man, he truely sees what love really is now, shes a great friend of mine and she's a strong person. His kids love her and she loves them. How can she be there for him and the kids during this hard time, without getting to involved in the divorce, without looking like she's trying to buy the kids or butter them up. They've even said they don't want mommy to come home, or the don't want the gf to leave,

2007-10-09 04:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

When there is something that is bothering you day to day, like your kid's father (Your ex husband) What might happen with what he might (try) to do in court. Even when you know that (he) is the one that is guilty and owes court ordered child support.

how do you get over this stuff when it's a day to day thing that bothers you wondering whats going ot happen and even when you try to STOP wondering and stressing it still pops up in the back of your head and makes you sick

how do you deal with this

2007-10-09 04:45:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was very ungry with my husband because he was always out with his friends in Pubs(4 times a week). I was sleeping for 5 days in other room. An then he asked me to comme back to our room ,otherwise he will start taking women to have sex.
I come back because I didnt want things go to far.
Now, he is going out less than before. But I found that in the second day that I move to the other room he had put an ad in a dating site saying "He is separated and looking for the special one to go out for a drink an then see where it goes from there".He is giving his number an another secret email. I asked him if he has another email and he gets very upset saying I m a craizy jealous woman.Should I forgive ?Should I start a family with somebody like this. Will he change. or I just lying myself ? .He doesnt I found out all this. I tried to convenced him to let me look his computer if he doesnt have anything to hide and he just start shauting and saying he is very honest with me.

2007-10-09 04:36:38 · 31 answers · asked by Estrella 2

How do you really know without a doubt if dating is going anywhere with someone? You spend maybe atleast one day a week together and kiss casually sometimes, do things together but never have the talk to know where or how things are going.....its been about a month now..

2007-10-09 04:34:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok...this is for ALL the married men out there...

Please be open and honest.

Regardless of how long you have been married,
whether its 1 month or 50 years....

Would you ever cheat on your wife with her best friend?
And if you have, why did you do it? Was it sexually
motivated or were you missing something emotional
in the marriage that you sought out in the best friend?

I am doing some research on this, so please,
serious answers ONLY.

Thanks

2007-10-09 04:30:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've got a friend (man) and really like him. He does too but we havnt dated even though once when we met we became quiet close without discussing our feelings. There is a connection at least I think so. Due to work/school commitments and geographical distance, dating would be very difficult. I also get the impression that this guy is shy of getting into something and therefore could distance himself from involvement. This doesnt change my feelings for him. I cant bring myself to make any moves to progress the friendship we have which currently amounts to the odd chat and nothing more. Am I right to leave things be and just see if it is meant to happen, he will do something?

2007-10-09 04:27:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Looking to take my ex to court for child support and he only works half "on the books" if at all. Plus he constantly jumps from job to job. How do I make sure I am owed the correct amount for what he "really" makes?

2007-10-09 04:26:01 · 11 answers · asked by Allison S 1

2007-10-09 04:15:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Gifts left behind, cards, letters, pictures, clothes, nothing super expensive. Any Ideas? Should I sell what I can? Should I give her notice? It's been 1 1/2 years since she left. Besides she cheated on me and then married the guy. THANK GOD!!!

2007-10-09 04:15:16 · 15 answers · asked by Stick'em in the Trunk 1

I wanted 2 forgive my wife 4 what she has done. I can only wear my blinders 4 so long before I have 2 accept the truth that she slept w/another man. She has only hurt me worse during this time by telling me "if u knew the truth there would b no turning back" & "if u knew the truth, u would leave me 4 sure". Why she said those things 2 me I dont know. I told her she should have never said those things if she wanted me 2 try & get over it. She is currently still living w/me at our house but I am ready 2 go file. Do I file and then tell her I did it? Do I tell her I am going to go file and then go? Do I just file & let her get served? Tell her move out, that I am going 2 go file? What is the best CIVIL approach 2 this. She has admitted to staying in a hotel room w/another man. I saw the clothes she wore out the night of this. The clothes she wore home the day after. The following wkend I read a txt fm him 2 her that said "I'm going 2 bed all alone now : (" So I know!

2007-10-09 04:14:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous