For people who've been cheated on?

Question

Did you find out on your own or did they confess?

To B. Nowlin: No, it isn't about my husband. We've been through some BS before when we were first married (and I wasn't innocent either, both of us did wrong) We're still, 3 yrs later, trying to work through everything so the other night when we were taking about everything, yet again, I got to wondering this question... thanks for your concern, though... but no, it's not about my husband.

Answer 1

I found out on my own. It was horrible. We'd been married for almost 4 months, and I found a suspicious phone number on our phone bill--a 45 minute phone call in the middle of the day to a town about 2 hours away from us. I called it to see who/what it was (thinking it might have been a mistake!) and a girl answered the phone. A girl who had been dating my new husband for 6 months. They met at a club 2 months before we got married, and she was away at college but they were still dating (he and I were both 21 and had been dating for 5 years before getting married, she was 20). She had NO IDEA about me, and was just as upset as I was when she found out. He was away for a couple of weeks when I found out, so I moved out while he was gone and was lucky enough to be able to file for an annulment rather than going through a divorce. Hindsight being 20/20 and all, I started seeing things that I didn't think anything of before as things I should have clued into. Like how we came home a couple days early from our honeymoon so he could "help a buddy move" and then he had to "be in the field for a couple days" (he was in the Army, that was normal--so I thought). So, basically, when he was "in the field" for 2-3 days at a time, he was really visiting his girlfriend in the town 2 hours away!!

Answer 2

She came to me and told me that I needed to take the prescription because she "got an infection from the swimming pool at college." I pressed her to find out what it was and she made something up and I knew it was BS so I went to her doctor and asked what was going on. Well this was before the days of the HIPA law and the doctor told me that it was chlamydia and I needed to talk to my wife about it. I decided to call the county health department and inquire about chlamydia and they told me that the only way to get it was as a STD. I went to the library and looked up the subject and it told me the same thing. So I confronted her and she denied it. Well, we managed to work through the issue for another 10-years but I divorced her 3 1/2 years ago because of her lying about her drug problem. Well after everything was all said and done she wrote me a letter telling me that she got chlamydia and from whom....wasn't surprised...except with where she got it....her best friend's husband....I forwarded the letter to her friend...she didn't know!!! I did get the last laugh!

Answer 3

Both, but I found out before he finally had the balls to confess. Ex-b/f thought he was being smart...(I know they're stupid) LOL This is just some of the stuff he pulled:

1. Had a job working nights @ a hotel... his mother denied it.

2. Sent emails to escort companies telling them to call him at a certain time (that would be when he was "working" hehe)

3. Actually answered the damn cellphone infront of me and called the girl honey and then tried back stepping saying it was a wrong number...yeah real stupid that one was.

4. Say he was going out with friends (he would wear sweat pants to a strip club). His "friend" he was out with called looking for him...hehe..yeah he was stupid.

5. Left his cellphone with me one day, I called all his "boys" I think only maybe 3 of them were actually guys, and when women answered (yes women plural) the phone saying "hey baby" ya kinda put 2 and 2 together.

6. Go out to movies with said "friend" again while the "friend" is here waiting for him because they were supposed to go to friends folks to help em move...

It was just way too damn easy to figure it out...it just got to the point it was amusing to see what I was going to find out next. Kept him for entertainment...hehe..my boss and I would die of hysterics when I'd tell her what he tried "this time" P.S. the movie night..he was with a minor... that was the first actual cheating episode and I dumped him then and there, and the rest of the stuff fell into place while he was trying to get me back....

Answer 4

On my own and many times, I have what you call a six sense, and I love it! Hated what I caught them doing - it hurts but only for a little while...

But once I was told b/c my mother had a suspicion so I went to him and said I heard a rumor and he confessed right then and there said he still wanted to marry me but I wouldn't have no part in that -but my best friend tried to deny it, she was supposed to be my maid of honer in our wedding - it was only 5 mos before the wedding, thank God my mom had a suspicion... and I got out of that one, he later, about one year later married a totally diffrent women and is now getting a divorce for cheating.

Answer 5

He didn't cheat on you did he? Not while you're 6 months pregnant? I've never cheated or been cheated on. I can't imagine. Surely he didn't though, right? In high school, one of my friends had a girlfriend who wanted to get with me on the side. I told my friend and we set it up to where her and I drove around for a while and then he pulled up next to us and she hid in the trunk of my car. (crawled thru the back seat opening) He got in and we road around all night knowing that she was in the trunk. She stayed in there for 2-1/2 hours and we knew the whole time. It was classic. Busted. God, I hope this question is not about your husband dear. Any guy that would cheat on his pregnant wife isn't worth the cost of a bullet, but they still need to be shot.

Answer 6

I found out on my own. My ex never confessed even to things he'd been caught red-handed doing. He actually thought he could convince me that my eyes didn't see what they saw. He was a really good liar, but no one's that good.

Answer 7

guy will never confess that he is cheating, IF HE DO AND WANTS TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT ..*~keep him*~and give a second chance but dont be no fool either. Girls we slick we would hide and when we tired of the bnigga we with then yea we would tell them but most guys wouldnt, no matter how much they try to deny it

Answer 8

I found out. Mainly because he could not shut up about a colleague that he later claimed to dislike Until I caught him looking at her

Answer 9

ha....confess. Not a chance. She was denying it even with the cell phone print out where she was calling him multiple time every day. Cheaters are all liars too ya know

Answer 10

Both; and walked right in on it 9 times. Talk about trauma.