Marriage & Divorce - 9 October 2007

my husband cheated on me before we got married (got married 6 months ago), recently i discovered he still had older pictures of his ex-wife (thats who he cheated with) posing for him in bikinis, he said he didnt know that he still had them, but but they were in his emails. today he told me to use our military card to buy something and claims my name is on the account, so i pick things and when i go to customer service they said she is still on there, not me. i felt like an idiot (besides i couldnt buy anything since i am not on the account) when is it enough? he always says..i didnt know, but i have been married before and managed to make a clean cut without dragging stuff along. and all this after he cheated. shouldnt he make sure there is nothing that brings back the memories for me?

2007-10-09 16:37:19 · 9 answers · asked by not this way 5

I have forgiven him and her but it's the forgetting part that I'm having an issue with but I love him alot and i feel what we have is real and he just messed up. It still clouds my mind sometimes I don't know what to do.

2007-10-09 16:36:54 · 9 answers · asked by Simply D 3

My husband said something very mean. He said he didn't mean it but,I'm really angry and hurt. Our 22 month old was crying after him, when he was trying to get some work done. Sometimes children could be annoying especially at that age, but he said "The 2nd one I did not really want, I have no patience." He's trying to apologize, and tell me he did not really mean it but I'm really hurt. We also have a 5 yr old. He's
very loving and affectionate with the boys but, when they act up he loses his patience very easily.He never hits them, but gets really flustered. Right now I hate him for saying that, but he's a good husband and dad in every other way. Should I forgive him?

2007-10-09 16:34:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad left because mom and he argued but didn't want to take me away but visit me evryday until I went to bed. I had to move out because my mom has had an affair on my dad and moved him in. My dad did not know about this until recently. My dad still loves her very much, I want him to find another woman who will not lie and cheat on him. What makes it worst so my dad cant go back because of a restraining order on him. He is a police officer and she said he beat her and raped her. And then told other people it never happened. It's just me and my daddy now. he scared because he is alone raising me but trying his best. He still loves her and has found God and his smile. Should he try to win her love back or move on. I can't see dad seeing another woman but i don't like him being alone and i don't want to be either

2007-10-09 16:32:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend married a man who had purchased a home 10 yrs prior to their marrying with his first wife (1993). In 1998 he took his wife (ex) off the original note and deed. In 2003, when he and my friend were already married, they refinanced the home and she (my friend) was the co-borrower. She is listed on the note and listed on the Deed of Trust. However, no new Deed was issued. Now they are getting a divorce, and her lawyer is telling her she does not own interest in the home. However, the mortgage company is telling her that when they refinanced the original Deed becomes Void and that she is indeed an owner of the home. She informed her lawyer and the attorney still says no. This is in the state of Texas, Community Property. I read on a website that anything you purchase once married is community property. Wouldn't refinancing a home, be considered a purchase? Also, should the title company have filed a new Deed with her listed and not done it. Please Help.

2007-10-09 16:30:19 · 7 answers · asked by Birdlegs 5

well my husband cheated on me about 3 weeks ago and he promised not to do it again and all. so we started counseling and trying to work it out but in the mean time I meet this really great guy at work and I think I like him but not taking to an affair level but loves his conversations and all. I feel kinda weird about the situation and don't know what is going on. Am I cheating?

2007-10-09 16:28:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents divorced when i was 5 and then i had something relly bad happen on my last vacation im only 13 what do i do

2007-10-09 16:23:23 · 10 answers · asked by Justine K 3

2007-10-09 16:21:25 · 9 answers · asked by ☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻ 1

Hello again, My ex wife is going to respond to my request for custody of my son. She is very mad, by the way. Her grandmother and grandfather are going to financially help her. Her sister tells me that they are going to ask the judge that I pay for her court cost and attorney fee's...Can she really request that ? what if they paid $10,000.00 for a lawyer ..they cant pass that on to me right ? I think she is trying to "intimidate" me.

2007-10-09 16:05:30 · 8 answers · asked by Doctor Redcrow MD 2

well her dad is a mean guy and when she was little he touched her. and her mom and dad split up. and recentley they had a custody battle and he won. so if she goes back wth her mom and we get married then her dad cant try and get her. thats not the only reason tho we really love each other and we are not doing it to have kids thats the last thing we want right. her mom is ok with it she is takeing us also. we live in california and need to know what to do. im 17 and she just turned 15 we know we want this in life we love each other so much.were can we go to do it and can we really need some help

i just need to know if we can. every one tells me stuff. we love each other and im all she really has she has had a ruff life i just need to know if we can get married in cali. or any where else......i am 17 and she is 15.
and please dont tell me im to young and she is to i just really need some answers we know that people think its stupid but can you look past that please. we really love each other

2007-10-09 15:04:46 · 22 answers · asked by ar15olen 2

and i am hoping to go to spain when i turn 16 with my spanish class
so i need to get my passport

what do i do?

the divorce is not finalized
my mom and dad live together
and it has been 2 years so far

2007-10-09 14:45:37 · 5 answers · asked by ERAddict 2

Me and my girlfrend want to get maried her mom is ok with it she is takeing us also. we live in california and need to know what to do. im 17 and she just turned 15 we know we want this in life we love each other so much.were can we go to do it and can we really need some help

i just need to know if we can. every one tells me stuff. we love each other and im all she really has she has had a ruff life i just need to know if we can get married in cali. or any where else......i am 17 and she is 15.
and please dont tell me im to young and she is to i just really need some answers we know that people think its stupid but can you look past that please. we really love each other

2007-10-09 14:38:36 · 11 answers · asked by ar15olen 2

2007-10-09 14:35:00 · 12 answers · asked by Janice 1

when he/she comes home it is like you don't exist? But you exist when he/she wants sex?

2007-10-09 14:27:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

When i say something to the effect that we are married and he needs to act like it and not do what he wants he consistantly says "we have a life partnership, not marriage". UM...we got legally married. we are a man and a woman and not gay. What is he meaning by this?

2007-10-09 14:27:43 · 23 answers · asked by Samantha 3

I'm getting divorced soon. I'm in school still, with 2 years left on my bachelor's, and I seem to have a little problem. I keep finding these abusive men. I've come to a conclusion that 95% of men are controlling, no matter how nice they seem at first. I really want to focus on my school, and be totally free to do what I want to do. Being as that I'm 23, I really want to make sure I end this viscious cycle of relationship after relationship (especially the abusive ones). Plus, being in recording arts, my classes are mainly men. I need to learn to keep detached and only think "work" with them.

I'm extremely independent natured, and I don't know how I keep continuing the relationship cycle. I really want to stop this, and continue on a life full of my dreams and goals.

I won't have health insurance after the divorce (only student health, but can't afford the dr). Are there any books, phone counseling, free counselors, etc that I could find very useful??

2007-10-09 14:25:21 · 6 answers · asked by Ashley84 2

My Dad remarried 13 years ago to a woman who is 15 years younger. Dad passed away several months ago. He gave her a life estate in the house. My dad set up a trust that will pay the insurance, taxes, and maintenance. Dad did not define what maintenance was. However, if the trust run dry, then my siblings and will be responsible for those expenses. This will probably happen because she is only 74 years old.
If we pay all the expenses so she can live there, do we have any rights?
My questions are:
Do we have the right to enter the house and check things out?
If she says she wants a new stove, refrigerator, washer, etc., are we responsible providing that? She has been asking about this.
If she decides she wants to paint or redecorate, are we responsible for that?
Do we have the right to live there if we need a place to do so (hopefully THAT never happens).

2007-10-09 14:25:02 · 4 answers · asked by NeedToKNow 2

if you told your husband you are going to get a job(you haven't been working) and he tells you ok but when you work you have to pay half of the bills with him?

2007-10-09 14:24:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

im thinking of dressing up my husband as a girl for haloween and he said his cool with it! Just need some ideas on what to make him wear? He has a thin body and nice legs im making him shave his legs and package and going to buy a wig. just need idead on outfits that are sexy/ skany. thanks

2007-10-09 14:22:58 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I want to start by saying that i am not the perfect wife, but i pretty much cant stand my husband anymore.

He is probably the most childish and selfish person I have eve met. He does absolutely nothing around the house. He wont even take out the garbage or the dog. We fight CONSTANTLY. He nags me whenever I spend any money, however whenever he wants something, he pretty much gets it. We both work, but he comes home and does nothing. He'll play with the kids for a bit, but then I'm the one that gets them off to bed.

We agreed a few weeks ago that we would not smoke in the house anymore for the kids. I have stuck to it, except for once. He never sticks to it. Then he gets mad at me when I complain about it.

He's not abusive physically. For the most part, he's a good dad. I dont think I want to divorce him, however I dont know if I want to be with someone that seems to not care about me.

Advise?

2007-10-09 14:16:13 · 8 answers · asked by Coltsgal 5

we i.m each other alot

2007-10-09 14:08:26 · 22 answers · asked by shelby n 1

i know a girl who broken with her lover 3 months ago . i love her, and i want to get marry with her . the problem that she looks at me as friend or brother.also she somehow afraid of me cause i know about her past with that guy .what should i do to convince her to change her view to me

2007-10-09 14:07:21 · 5 answers · asked by badscarecrow 1

I work 40 hours per week, if you include travel time and lunch I am out of the house on average 10 hours per day. I have a wife and three kids at home, 10months, 2 years and six years. When I come home, normally at 6pm, I have some food (1/2 hour), then spend as much time as possible with the kids till they go to bed, usually all in bed by 9.30pm. The problem is with the baby, he cries all the time, and all day long and is super clingy to his mum. When I come home I am so tired, I can barely stand, I try to play with the kids but the youngest one is making our lives hell, if I pick him up he struggles, if I put him down he cries until my wife picks him up. He doesn't always sleep through the night, its 2am, now he is awake and I am writing this. My wife says I should do more, but I can't I am so tired, work is mentally draining, I get up at 7am every day leave the house at 8am and return at 6pm. My wife says she is drained also. Should I get my wife help like a nanny to mind the kids.

2007-10-09 14:02:43 · 10 answers · asked by OfficeMonkey 1

well i have been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks i told her how i felt about her since day one..we went out to eat once...i gave her my number and she never called....we work together so one day i wrote to her in a email and told her how i felt about her all she responded was"he he you making me blush"since then i been writing little love quotes and leaving them in her desk every morning for like 2 days...today i saw her and we was talking she told me thank you for the notes she told me she is collecting them....u think thats a sign that i do got a chance with her or she just said that to not make me feel bad...remind you she is older than me and i told her in that same email from before that if i was bothering her to let her know and i will respectfully back off...so u think theres a chance or no??

2007-10-09 13:56:23 · 7 answers · asked by kid233 1

I have been trying to get my wife to get a job for about 5 years and being that we have a 4 yr old son she uses that not to work.I have been wanting a seperation for years and we agreed on that.If i leave and rightfully gave her notification that i was and she did not find a job by the time i leave should i feel guilty.Everone tells me that she using me and my son as an excuse not to work and will not find a job as long as i am there.what do u think???

2007-10-09 13:45:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

It really is difficult to remain unbiased when it comes to discussing Americans. They arrogate to themselves the right to act as this planet's policeman, to condemn other countries for real or perceived breaches of human rights and to rail against forms of government which in American eyes are less democratic than theirs. As Americans are such good Christians, surely they know the passage in the Bible that says: "O thou hypocrite, before thou wouldst remove the splinter from thy brother's eye, attend to the beam in thine own eye!" Never has a passage from the Bible been more apt. So naturally do Americans become defensive when their own shortcomings are pointed out to them, because to face the truth would be unbearable.
Which other self-proclaimed peace-loving country has waged so many wars against smaller defenceless countries, has allowed the members of their military to commit atrocity after atrocity going back to WW2, the Korean War, Vietnam, and now Iraq?
In what other country do you need to be a millionaire or at least be able to raise millions in order to be elected to parliament or chief executive?
Where else on this globe has the education system broken down and/or deteriorated to such an extent that children no are no longer able to read and write or do simple arithmetic and need to take remedial classes upon entering college?
In which other country with the exception of certain Middle Eastern nations does a small fundamentalist religious minority have the power to manipulate both government and the media to enforce a Victorian concept of morality upon an unwilling population?
I could go on and on, but let this suffice.
No wonder Americans are sensitive when it comes to discussing their shortcomings

2007-10-09 13:33:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been living together as Man and Wife for 8 years;worried about if one of us dies,ILL,or jst needs to be responsible for the other.Love him with all my heart. He is a good man. A good provider.Sometimes Jealous, controlling,Paranoid, may drink alot, sometimes. But, I love him, and we are a Couple,
Just need to know if Marriage is the way to go to Protect ourselves;and yes, he wants to marry me.!! It is I , who holds off!he has been married b4, and I also, --not good.His exes have the reputation of being unfaithful;altho, I am faithful,have been always will be

2007-10-09 13:33:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is the question:

Does this make sense? He says the reason he never married is because no woman was ever good enough for his mom


This is the answer:

Possibly yes. He knows his mothers negetives and positives (attitude/ behaviour etc). He did not want a noisy atmosphere at home. I mean chances of In-law fighting.

2007-10-09 13:30:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married and happy i enjoy sex with my husband but find it hard to get horny before sex don't know why,but its causing problems, need advice jb

2007-10-09 13:21:04 · 12 answers · asked by JBUG 1

I am in my late 30s and in my 20s I was married and I LOVE to go out and do things and I was never home. My husband and I were always visiting people or doing something. That was a very speical time in our lives.

But I am closer to 40 and I have noticed I have slowed down, I like to cook more and want to try new recepies, I sleep more and I dont always like to go out as much as I used to I do like to swim in the pool and enjoy going on the computer as well.

Also I am not what I used to be I used to be very energetic and hyper in my 20s and the extra energy served me well when I worked and did a lot in my 12 years of employment.

But I have slowed down and much calmer and a little more reserved. Is this normal? And it it normal as a woman to go through these seasons of life?

2007-10-09 13:17:39 · 2 answers · asked by encourager4God 5